I accidentally cheated on my girlfriend? What do I do?

[Anonymous]

So me and my girlfriend were having a night out at her place and everything was alright until her best friend dropped by. She's a promiscuous manipulative ho. So I know this is a bad idea the moment my girlfriend recommends she stays over. I get up to leave and my girlfriend gets upset that I'm not very accepting of her friends, so I stay. We begin boozing, one thing leads to another... Long story short we have a threesome, now my girlfriend is extremely upset, despite partaking in the act and wants to break up with me. The worst part is she acts like she and her friend are the victims. I really like my girlfriend. Is there anyway I can change her mind?

[Mekkalyn]

You should have completely worded this question differently... the title anyways.

You did not cheat on your girlfriend, which is seems people are getting caught up on.
She thinks you cheated based on the threesome you agreed on (which is delusional of her) because she regretted it and perhaps felt pressured into it or she was just so drunk that stuff happened and wants someone to blame (you).

If you had a different title I bet people's reactions would have been different.

Such as "Girlfriend wanted 3some now wants to break up with me and says I cheated?" or something like that. On this site, don't say you cheated unless you actually did or you are going to get flak for it.

And cheating means that you had sex or flirted or an emotional relationship with another woman, behind your girlfriend's back (whether she finds out about it or not, still cheating). That is what cheating is. If you did not do that, don't say you cheated :P

But, to answer your question, you are in a sucky position. It probably won't work out, to be honest, and you should just cut ties and move on. Don't repeat that same mistake again. It's a very slippery slope having a threesome when you have a girlfriend, especially with her friend. That's not something you can undo and you all will look at each other differently. I doubt she will want to be with you after you had sex with her friend.

[Aleeah]

YES WHAT SHE SAID!!!

[SamH9899]

To me it sounds like she'd actually planned out that they would have a threesome. Most guys love the idea of one so she probably figured you wouldn't have a issue agreeing when her and her friend decided to have one but you wanted to leave she played you into staying. no girlfriend that cared about you would make you hang out with someone they know you don't like. Personally I'd rather not have the three of us hang out simply because its my girl friend why would i make my boyfriend sit through a night of that with out a reason.

If things between you were ok before I'd assume that now that you've had the threesome its ruined the relationship. that is the reason when in a relationship you shouldn't have one especially not with the third person as someone you know. You should just tell her you respect her decision and end things. she may realize she made a mistake, or she may continue to blame you, the space may help her realizing she's at fault as well. if you want her to come back say that you would like to work through it together however if she want it you will respect her decision. this will let her know you want to fix things but your not forcing her in any way its her choice

[spuitkaas]

Sounds like she's being unreasonable and regrets the act and by doing so, giving you the blame. Sometimes people find it hard to admit that they made a mistake and so blame other people. Sit this one out. Maybe she will cool off and see you weren't the only one at fault. If she doesn't cool off, then break up is the only option. Try talking about it again after a week or so and then you know what to do.

[Anonymous]

that's not cheating.

leave her. she's nuts and stupid.

[Lynx122]

Just tell your girlfriend she's beeing a hypocrite, you wanted to leave she insisted you stay, she was there the whole time and didn't say anything while the threesome was happening and now she's blaming you alone for it, that's a fucking joke. If she wants to break up ther'e not much you can do but I wouldn't feel guilty for a second. You didn't cheat, she was there the whole time participating and didn't say anything that's the same thing as approval, she could have said:" Hey I don't like this" or she could have told her friend that she wanted it to just be you 2 but she didn't. Now after the fact she's blaming you that's just ridiculous. I think she's giving herself a pass because she was drunk but she's not giving you a pass so she's applying a double standard and holding you accountable for something she was participating in and probably liked at the time. Now she's regretting it and taking it out on you. But you can't stop her from breaking up with you, just move on and find another girl :).

[Mistnigqa808]

You sound like that 1 bitch who said "I accidently sucked a dick" like how in the hell did that happen?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L7ZqmyM30-M

[Mistnigqa808]

I voted B man...

[Asker]

Read description?

[Mistnigqa808]

I read it man ^_^, BUT you knowingly PUT YOURSELF in a DUMB SITUATION and now you're paying for it, right? I mean you already knew that she was a loose #HOE morals-wise, right? Yet you decided to drink around her? while also knowing that when you or people in general get drunk that they also usually seem to get #horny right along with it... yeah this 1 is on you.

[Asker]

It still doesn't help my better 'half' was slithering my ting into her best friend.

[Mistnigqa808]

that doesn't matter since you aren't going to be "snaking" any "cats" for the time being... i'm guessing. All because of what went down that night.

[Asker]

Yeah... Damn.

[Mistnigqa808]

Aye you fucked up so just say "fuck both of those #hoes and go on about your day"... go get you a new source of "in-house pussy" LOL.

[DrKran]

This one deserves mho Haha! made me laugh.

[Mistnigqa808]

@DrKran https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hJn7DP_GSRw ...
...
... lol

[DooMguy]

That video, DooMguy is speechless

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t9tCq54Q1mw

Anyway, @ Asker you wrote "I know this is a bad idea" sounds like you let her put the wool on your eyes. You just got played and now she's making you seem like the player. Here's hoping you don't have some police at your door. I mean you were drunk right? No witnesses, two against one. . . but lets hope it don't come to that

As angry Joe Said & Mistninja says You done fucked up. You should've left when your instinct kicked in but now its too late. And this ain't just guna go away easy. Lesson learnt though right?

[Asker]

@DooMguy yeah. What the hell...

[DooMguy]

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https://yanderedev.wordpress.com/

^ go download it, give it a try and it'll take your mind off things

[Asker]

@DooMguy Thanks man.

[DooMguy]

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[Asker]

@DooMguy now I wanna see it too.

[Mistnigqa808]

#T4MHO

[DooMguy]

@ Asker a new build came out recently, it added the delinquents. Sounds like things are going to be good Also speak of the devil @Yan-Chan she's real and she's here. I think she might be lost though. . . she's in Belgium instead of Japan

[samhradh_leannan]

If she consented to the situation, then you didn't cheat. At the time when it happened, did she agree and say she was okay with it? Or was she against it at the time when it happened?

[Asker]

I know for a fact that she was kissing her best friend throughout.

[samhradh_leannan]

How did she feel about YOU interacting with the friend?

[Asker]

I don't know. She was so into it. All of us were.

[samhradh_leannan]

It was a mistake to participate in something like this without having a serious conversation about it beforehand and really thinking it through. As for what to do now, I have no idea. Give your girlfriend some time to cool off a little, and then talk to her about it. At the end of the day, if she really wants to break up, there's nothing you can do. But maybe with enough communication you can work through your issues.

[Asker]

Well... I should've just left when I had the chance to. Thanks for taking the time to read through this mess. Most women on this site are so superficial.

[hazoplmeught]

i would be suspicious of her cheating on you with her girl best friend, it happens

[Asker]

@hazoplmeught come on man. My girl ain't gay. I'd know.

[hazoplmeught]

ok, just sayin all that kissin "drunk ain't never lie it ain't never llie" - little Wayne dnt jump to conclusions though

[Asker]

@hazoplmeught oh come on! You're quoting little Wayne.

[samhradh_leannan]

@hazoplmeught Just because someone kisses someone of the same gender while they're drunk that does NOT mean they are gay or even bi.

[hazoplmeught]

true buti would just LOOK into it

[Asker]

@hazoplmeught you scaring me man. You're really scaring me, because its just sick.

[samhradh_leannan]

This whole situation is pretty messed up to be honest. It was very irresponsible to do something like this spontaneously, without discussing it carefully first. i hope you are able to work things out.

[AustinMan]

Don't tell her. No good can come from that. Just don't put yourself in that position again.

[musicbrain5]

Read the entire post. She was there.

[AustinMan]

@musicbrain5 Oops! It's the damn meds. Hydorocodone and the muscle relaxers space me out.

[musicbrain5]

Those are very strong drugs and I hope you're not on them for long! Get well soon.

[AustinMan]

@musicbrain5 They are strong and I'm working hard to get off them but I have to work. It'll all work out.

[Elsa2ne1]

That whole situation seems very fucked up. I would personally distance myself from all of it

[ksoma]

break up, because she is crazy.
you did not cheat. she let her friend in, she insisted her friend stayed, she insisted you stay when you wanted to leave. booze came out, and you all drank. you hold no more responsibility for your drunk actions than they do. if they were too drunk to know that things should be stopped, you were too.
you all had sex, together.
she wants to call that cheating, despite her being there, and her actions causing it to happen? she wants to make herself and her friend out to be victims, which means she is saying you victimized them. she's basically saying the threesome was rape.
she sounds like a psychotic, over jealous, and utterly irresponsible woman. You may have fucked up, but she is laying all responsibility on you, as if she and her friend had no control over what happened. It's bullshit.
never stay in a relationship with jealousy, pissy, proud-to-be-a-victim style crazy. dump her ass. not because she wants to break up, but because YOU don't need her crap in your life.

[musicbrain5]

You're all completely responsible for what happened. Break up with her. I doubt any of this would have happened if you weren't wasted.

[OlderAndWiser]

She would rather blame you than take responsibility for her own behavior. There's your sign!

[HorrorFan]

You didn't cheat on her. She was right fucking there, participating.

Even if she wants to claim that she wouldn't have done that or allowed it while sober, people aren't absolved of all responsibility while drinking.

She probably won't listen to reason and logic. I'm guessing begging and pleading with her to not leave is about all you can do, despite the fact that she's just as guilty as you are and refuses to take any responsibility.

[isjusti]

This story has flaws, you accidentally cheated but your girlfriend was there too, give me a break

[ksoma]

your understanding has some flaws. she sees it as cheating. because she's upset, he refers to it as cheating. the fact that she was there means it was not cheating. it was a drunken threesome she regrets, and so, rather than assume any personal responsibility, she blames him, because it is easier for her to be an object acted on, than a person who makes their own choices.

[isjusti]

@ksoma or maybe is just a story that never happened

[Asker]

Or maybe when girl would say the same thing it'd be all real. I'm tired of all this female hypocrisy and bullshit.

[isjusti]

no if a girl was saying the same thing i would still give the same answer

[madhatters4]

you have to tell the girlfriend that she is 100% responsible for what happened that night. just like you are 100% responsible and so is the friend.

so if she wants to break up for a decision she made then that's fine. but it's pretty absurd

[RasmusAiken]

Perhaps she discovered she likes ff better than mf. And you're out.

[SarahsSummer]

"I accidentally cheated" ... LOL!
I voted B.

[Asker]

Yeah, a threesome. Which she claims is cheating.

[SarahsSummer]

Why you'd choose to have sex with someone you call a "promiscuous manipulative ho." is beyond me. But this is one of those times where you get to learn there are consequences to every action.

[Asker]

Because it never would have happened otherwise. Don't need your narrow minded opinion here.

[SarahsSummer]

For the record, unless you are leaving out some big details, your girl and the friend are not victims. She's just using this as an excuse to break up with you.

[SarahsSummer]

It never would have happened if all three of you werent drinking and jumping in to it. but since you can't control their actions, you can only look at yours. Nobody forced you to take you dick out and stick it in your girlfriends friend.

[Asker]

Oh... Wait. So this could've been deliberate?

[SarahsSummer]

Umm, yeah

[Asker]

Fuck it. I tried to leave, I'll just be leaving for reals this time.

[stardust101]

You don't accidentally cheat. Period.

[Asker]

And you don't know how to read. Period.

[stardust101]

I read the title.

[Asker]

Come on, description. Read it. Please.

[ksoma]

if all you bother to read is the title, do people a favor and keep your opinions to yourself. descriptions exist for a reason, and if you can't be bothered with them, you should also not be bothered with offering an opinion

[stardust101]

@ksoma oh please, why do you bother posting rude remarks when you can just keep your hands in your pocket? Don't post anything at all.

[Meedo]

alcohol s the cause of so much pain.

[WestCoastLover97]

You didn't cheat. Unless you're lying about the details, she consented to the threesome. This isn't on you its on her. This was likely just an excuse to break up with you. So say fuck it and dumb the bitch.

[Asker]

I need to find out if there's a thing between her best friend and her.

[WestCoastLover97]

No you don't. If she's breaking up with you then drop it. At that point it doesn't matter anymore she's free to do what she wants

[Asker]

Why is she falsely accusing me of cheating then? She even stopped me from leaving, insisted a little more booze would be more 'fun'.

[WestCoastLover97]

It doesn't matter if she is insisting that you cheated. If she says that you two are done then there is no argument, you two are done. What she does after that is her business not yours.

[Asker]

Not after. I want to know if she did all this deliberately.

[WestCoastLover97]

If alcohol was involved probably not. When she realized what had happened she probably found her excuse to break up with you. Like I said though, if she said you two are broken up then it's over with. It's no longer a concern.

[Asker]

Doesn't it look fishy at all? The timing of it? Her friend coming over? Me staying? The booze? Being outraged and shoving all the responsibility on me?

[WestCoastLover97]

It honest to God doesn't matter. The only thing that's gonna come of it is a break up. It doesn't matter if you don't want to break if she does then it's over nothing you can do. Yes, it's a tad fishy but in the long run whether or not it was deliberate is irrelevant. It was consensual sex and there is nothing you can do about it

[NJ_Casanova]

That's F'd up, that see was in on it and is upset with you and is siding with her friend.

[ElissaDido]

Yeah, you were just walking in the street and accidentally fell and found yourself in the vagina of another woman. 👍🏼👏🏼

[Asker]

Please read description.

[Toad-1]

Lol it can happen ;p

[ksoma]

did you read ANYTHING past the title?

[Hope96]

I wonder if this story is true. :P If it is, then really, all of you participated in the act willingly like adults. Your girlfriend, too. She needs to stop whining about the situation and accept you. If she is blaming you, YOU should leave her.

[matheus_mb]

Hey, wait, you had a threesome with her and her friend and she gets upset? Why did she accept having a threesome with you in the first place? So, you cheated on her and she was part of the cheating... is that right?

If it is so, then she shouldn't get angry, she did nothing to stop that.

[AndyOh]

Sounds kind of like you were set up if your girlfriend participated and yet they both are mad at you. Hmmm

[cmale123]

Just apologize to her that it will never happen, and if she still want to break up, do it. That should don't mind. I think she trying to say no more sex with other women when with her that all.