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Kind of an embarrassing question... about boners?

So I am a girl and I just do not really understand boners. Like yes, I know that when a guy is aroused his peen gets hard but like how easily does it happen? Do they ONLY happen when he's turned on? Is it possible to be making out with a girl/more and NOT have a boner? Does just seeing a girl naked give you a boner? Can you get a boner just from talking to a girl about provocative things? I feel like I have more questions that I can't think of right now but yeah. I'm just super curious!
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Most Helpful Guys

  • When guys start going through puberty, they can get erections from almost nothing. Seeing a boob (in clothes) can be enough sometimes - heck, sometimes nothing at all. But obviously when that happens and you are 12 or 13, that can lead to embarrassing moments, so guys learn to control their thoughts/reactions over time, and then after learning this control, they generally maintain that control anytime they're in public. This keeps the unwanted boners at bay (for the most part).

    Normally, if this hypothetical guy is alone, or with his girlfriend, or otherwise in a situation where a boner isn't a problem, he'll relax his control and let his body react naturally - often leading to a boner if things get sexual in his brain (for whatever reason).

    BUT... every once in a while, this guy may be in public, but may be focused on something (his job, his schoolwork, a book, etc.) and, without realizing it, will have relaxed his mental control. During these times, it's possible that a random sexual thought or image can cross his mind (real or imagined), and suddenly he has an uninvited boner. That kind of thing doesn't happen too often, but it definitely happens.

    Usually, the image of a naked girl can give a guy a boner, but if he has his mental control working, he can suppress it - unless the image just happens to trigger his brain in just the right way, and then it can sometimes get through the "wall" of control he has up.

    Hopefully that makes some sense.

  • Don't be embarrassed. Nothing wrong with curiosity.

    Some guys get aroused more easily than others. It can depend on a lot of things like his health, his mental state, his frequency of sex or masturbation. Generally though, most guys are more easily aroused than most girls, meaning it usually takes less time, effort and stimulus to make a guy horny. That's not to say girls can't get horny at the drop of a hat but often then need more time to warm up than we do.

    Erections can happen for a number of reasons. Arousal is one. Sometimes it can happen if you have to pee really bad. It often happens when a guy is sleeping (known as "morning wood"). Sometimes it can happen for no reason at all. Especially during youth / puberty.

    It's not so common but it is possible to be aroused and not get hard. Nervousness can do that. You often here stories about guys going limp before or during sex even though they like it. Some guys have erectile dysfunction. Sometimes health problems or certain medicines can make it hard to get an erection.

    Looking at naked women or having sexy chats can be very arousing so it will very often give a guy a boner. Like I said before though, some guys can be aroused but maybe it's not enough to get them hard or fully hard. Most guys have seen lots of pictures of naked women and some may get a bit desensitized to it and they might need more stimulus to get fully erect.

    Hope that helps!

Most Helpful Girls

  • For young guys, it's super easy. The smallest sexual thought, peek of skin or even look from someone he wants to have sex with can send blood flowing that direction. As he gets older, more conscious sexual thought is required and as he gets even older, stroking or other foreplay may be necessary.

    A penis doesn't always get fully erect and stand up though... It can get partially erect where it's more full of blood, lifted a bit and fatter, but not completely hard. Also, when he is very aroused, a small splash of precum may come out, moistening the tip and posdibly making a small wet spot on his undies.

    Sensation alone can also send blood to the penis - like his jeans rubbing on his penis, vibrations from a vehicle or something, the pressure of a full bladder. I've heard even nerves can give some guys a hard on, though I don't fully know why. Also, guys often get morning erections from increased blood circulation.

    I don't own one, of course, but these are things I've picked up.

  • I see that my brothers sometimes have a boner when really nothing sexual is happening. For instance when playing badminton in our garden.

    And making out with a boy easily brings him in a horny erect state. Most boys had a boner after ten or twenty seconds french kissing.

    • true! we can get a boner or semi-hard for no or the slighest reason haha :P

  • I don't understand them either, it's ok. I'm commenting to read other comments / advice this gets.

    I'm wondering how fast they get them and if you can feel them through denim. I'm not sure what I felt.

    • you can feel them through denim; if he's big enough i suppose. And you can get em pretty quick!

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  • Well I get aroused very easy when a women is near me.. also it has happened when a nice women in a sexy bikini has walked by me on the beach as I walked past her.. she knew right away.. as her eyes were fixated right on it.. she then gave me a very pretty smile, and about an hour later she seen me again lying on a towel soaking up some rays this time she came over and we started talking.. it was a great day it also has just happened when I was just walking down the street.. its all good to me, it does not matter when or where it happen.. such a very nice feeling

  • 1. It can get hard for random reasons and it can happen fairly easily at times
    2. No it does not always happen just when he is turned on
    3. I would say it is possible to not get one while making out, but highly unlikely especially if he finds the girl attractive or has feelings for her
    4. I would say just seeing a naked girl may not always create a boner, but if he finds her attractive or has feelings then yeah
    5. Yes sex related topics can usually cause a boner.

    It really depends on whether or not he finds the girl attractive or not. Having feelings for her can also influence erections

  • Depending on the guys sex drive, it happens more or less frequent. It's not always an indication of being aroused, as adrenaline rushes or exercise prone to getting testosterone pumping, can give erections as well.

    You've probably heard about "morning wood/glory" before. This is one examble of being erect, but not aroused. And yes, if talking about provocative things gets a guys mind going, he may well erect a tent.

  • it happens very easily. Read something sexy? I feel one start to come on. See something? Make out? all things that get my attention, sexual, can at least initiate one.
    That said, you can stop them in their tracks. Think about or look at other things, ignore what is turning you on, or just ignore the boner, and it kinda fades.

    that said, the more common something is, the less quickly you respond to it. if a guy and his girl make out every day, at some point, even though he's totally into what is happening, he is also used to it enough that his system doesn't kick into overdrive, and start pumping extra blood into his dick. and some guys have better self control than others to keep them at bay. If a guy doesn't have a boner, and you're naked and kissing him, it does NOT mean he isn't in to you, it just means his body is relaxed and isn't in a hurry to respond.

  • Awww honey a lot of us guys get a boner easily. I must admit talking to a girl about provocative thing would turn me on as would making out. Trust me as a guy it's hard to keep it under control. There has been many times in the supermarket when I've been taking to women I really fancy and my mind wanders and I end up hiding a boner with my hands in my pockets

    Message me all your questions if you like. I love to answer them for you xx

  • It's different for all guys. When a guy is aroused, that is the time it's MOST LIKELY to go up. Meaning just because a guy is aroused, doesn't mean it will be up, at least not all the way perhaps.

    Every guy get's a lot of random bonors when they go through puberty, but for the rest of our lives they can have a way of just sort of popping up. Especially when we are horny. Meaning we want sex even though we may not have seen a girl (in particular) we want to have sex with.

    Some guys can get them very easily, just talking to a girl they feel could be unattainable for them could sometimes do it or dancing with girls can more commonly do it. Then there are the guys who might not get fully erect until you have your hands all over his dick.

  • When a boy is young it can happen for no reason, at any moment. As an adult he will normally need to be aroused. The only exception is morning wood, that's just a natural occurrence.

  • I get boners very easily and quickly and they last a long time if something isn't done about them. When I was very young (<11) I sometimes got them for unknown reasons, but after the first time I saw a girl naked, my boners always came with arousal, too. Seeing a girl naked gives me a boner, so I have a hard time being naked with a bunch of people at once unless the boner rule is relaxed. I've gotten some excruciating boners from talking to a girl about provocative things. More questions?

  • When I was younger, I got a boner when the wind blew... whoops, there I am, hard again. But I would wake up with them, get them when sitting in class, watching a movie, kissing a girl, watching TV, even at work... what to do, what to do?

  • It can happen randomly and doesn't always mean we're turned on although usually we are. As far as getting them with girls, talking, seeing naked girls etc. Every guy is different. Some will, some won't. For me, seeing a naked girl, assuming I find her attractive can give me a boner (not always though, depends if I'm feeling horny to begin with). If I'm making out with a girl I'm probably going to have a boner. Talking about provocative things... maybe. Likely but depends.

  • The boner is an elusive and tricky creature. Sometimes a stiff breeze can have it appear, while a supermodel level woman may see no sign of it. Sometimes it's the mindset of the man that effects it, other times we have no control over it. It's frustrating to say the least.

    • "The boner is an elusive and tricky creature." i read this in a David Attenborough voice LMAO.

  • Thought it easiest to just cut n paste your questions and then attempt to answer them:

    1) I know that when a guy is aroused his peen gets hard but like how easily does it happen? Do they ONLY happen when he's turned on?

    Some guys get easily turned on, some not so much, it depends on, to what degree they are being turned on. Yes, hard-ons happen when the guy gets turned on. It can be just thinking of someone naked or even them in the act of sex with another person. The expression one head is attached to the other is not far off!

    Is it possible to be making out with a girl/more and NOT have a boner?

    Depends on the making out session, if it is deep kissing and more sexual and her breathing is deep then that can be arousing. if it is just a few pecks here and there then probably not.

    Does just seeing a girl naked give you a boner?

    Seeing her naked could arouse a guy especially if it is a relatively new occurrence, where he has not seen her body before. Someone that they have seen over and over again for many years, and is just getting in the shower, maybe not so much!

    Can you get a boner just from talking to a girl about provocative things?

    I guy can absolutely get a boner from just talking to a girl about provocative things. I know I can when my girl says something that turns my head (I guess in that case both heads).

  • First you have to understand that it's a biological reaction to stimulus. Yes a pretty girl, a make out session or even a sexy thought can trigger one, but so can needing to pee, or being nervous. Also guys have no control over them, they come at appropriate and inappropriate times. It's a lot like wetness for a girl, you start thinking something is sexy next thing you know...

  • There's no straight forward answer to your question.

    The answer is a function of time of day, time since last orgasm, age, ambient temperature, your hotness, the hotness of the girl/guy on his mind, viagra, alcohol, other misc drugs, fitness, genetics, and probably a dozen other measures I can't think of right now.

    It will probably be simpler for you to just think of boners as something that has a mind of its own.

    • @tarvold "straight forward" = pun? hah

  • The answer to all of those questions is yes, no, sometimes, and depends.

    • I mean any of those four answers applies to all of those questions, so there's no confusion.

    • Lol you summarized what I was about to say

    • @QuestionMan I aim to be succinct and be the voice of gag's male populace!

  • Boners can happen out of arousal of any kind doesn't have to be sexual or for no reason at all (random boners).
    Getting turned on also depends on the mental state. If a guy is really deppresed he may not want sex.

  • When males first go through puberty, just about every single guy will easily get a boner from whether seeing a panty line or physical body appearance. It doesn't take much for them to get aroused. But the older we get, the more control we have over ourselves and it takes a little more effort to get a hard on. Our bodies also begin to change as the years pass by. Yes, someone can get a boner just from talking about provocative things. But it also depends on how well their self control is

  • It depends on each guy. But for certain, if it is rubbed, it will get hard. No question about that.

  • All of the above is or can be true! Every guy is different to a point. There are so many variations of just about any or every situation/senario that one or two answers cannot be given.

  • Getting hard happens easily unless you’ve gotten off recently, then it can take sometime before they happen again. Boners don’t always happen during making out etc.. seeing a naked girl does not always give a man a boner, especially non sexual situations.

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