I'm lusting after my professor, help?

[Anonymous]

Here's the things, I am currently taking his litho class this semester. Since the first day of class, I can't concentrate when he's teaching, bc I am thinking naughty things. I am ashamed of these feelings (will never act on them) also guilt bc I know he's married. Most importantly, I believe the reason why I am lusting after him is bc he looks eerily similar to my ex boyfriend (who was my first in love, sex, etc) whom I still have strong feelings for. Furthermore, I know my professor and I have chemistry, I can feel it. And there is times when he flirts with me. So, now the question is, how can I stop myself from lusting after him, when I see him everyday?( I just can't seem to takr him out of my mind) Any suggestions? Did you guys/girls ever lusted on someone, and how did you go about? P. s I am in a friends with benefits "relationshop" with my friend (so yeah, I am not lacking in my sex life)

[canderson23445]

The time you both spend flirting with him added up throughout the week has to be less than 30mins all together. Don't plan on sleeping with a married man, and I'm sure he isn't going to risk his marriage (unless he's a douche).. So that technically means nothing will ever happen right. Now since we established your relationship will more than likely never develop further, then what is there to worry about? Unless your heart is just breaking into pieces because of guilty flirting with a taken man, then there's no harm in flirting, fantasizing, and lusting over a nice guy who reminds you of your loved one. Forget he's your teacher, forgot everyone's judgement, I think we as humans are aloud to attractively talk to another attractive human because at the end of the day we are attracted to the opposite sex and marriage, kids, and life will never stop that. Rather than force yourself to stop lusting, just be yourself and let him be himself. Talk and be flirty for a few minutes with the guy.. Just don't over step boundaries because that's when consequences and real guilt for actions comes into play :)

[apathyslastkiss4]

1) You just got to plow through it. Maybe don't look at him? Just stare at your notes and listen, or close your eyes and listen.

2) switch classes. I don't know if that's possible, especially this late in the semester. But maybe consider it if you're in serious trouble here.

3) Get out of your friends with benefits 'relationship'. Why do people think this is ok? It only brings hurt. In fact, I'd be willing to bet that part of your attraction to your professor stems from confused sexual and romantic feelings that have occurred in you recently because of a friends with benefits scenario. Seriously, just one guy and one girl, committed only to each other. That's what a romantic relationship is.

[Asker]

The thing is that I don't do romantic relationships anymore ( sadly) I've just been hurt badly in the past. Don't want it to happen again

[apathyslastkiss4]

I don't want to sound insensitive, but... you're 20 years old... That doesn't invalidate your personal experience, but it's just that you are very young. I'm sorry that you've been hurt. It really does suck--I know! But what you may not know now, is that you are still hurting yourself by being in friends with benefits relationships. It's like self-medicating. You don't want a relationship because it hurts, but you still want a relationship, so you take what could be one, and gut it of the intimacy, trust, friendship, etc. which would make it a relationship, and instead find yourself left with a hollow shell of just sex. You may feel ok with it now, but it's going to catch up with you. It's just not a healthy way to live.

[Asker]

I see your point with the friends with benefits, and don't worry you don't sound insensitive. Thank you for your opinion

[apathyslastkiss4]

You're welcome, and I wish you all the blessings in your life!

[Asker]

Likewise :)

[This_is_my_username]

Keep lusting don't act on it though. It would most likely jeopardize yours and his reputation and much worse. Plus, is that like a compliment... that your're professor looks like your ex?

[Asker]

He's extremely handsome and young. Early thirties (im 20)

[This_is_my_username]

wow he sounds yummy ;) And he is young. Not like some of the professors i know! But yeah it would be wise to lust after him but do not pursue. P. S does he feel the same?

[Asker]

He never told me he's interested in me verbally, however, I know there is sexual tension between us. Chemistry. I can feel it. By the way he looks at me , talks to me.

[This_is_my_username]

Hmmm i get what you mean... But even if somehow it were possible he is still married unfortunately. So many hurdles**sighs**

[This_is_my_username]

Thanks for MHO! @Melmel16

[AustinMan]

Ask your friends with benefits to spank you if you don't concentrate in class. Hard, hot, long on the bare. Grope and pinch in after.

[Jon_Gre_g]

You guys have chemistry class together? How do you feel that though?

[Asker]

The class is called lithography.

[Jon_Gre_g]

In any case the problem with this is that if you do in fact involve yourself with him sexually he can easily loose his job if word goes out so I would not. And you can't really stop yourself from lusting after him sadly.

[jacquesvol]

Lust as much as you want but keep it at lusting.