If my boyfriend likes pegging is he possibly homosexual or bisexual?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend likes to be penetrated in the anus. He says that he has no attraction at all what so ever to men. That makes me wonder if he is in denial about his own sexuality. I mean I would love him regardless of whatever he chooses but. I am very confused on how I should feel about the whole thing.

[gray_sailor]

There is a world of difference between enjoying prostate stimulation done by a woman and being attracted to a man.

You know why anal sex is commonly associated with gay men? Because when gay men have sex, they don't have a woman present to feel weird about the anal sex.

If a straight man wants anal stimulation from his female partner, wouldn't it be nice to receive it WITHOUT having his sexual orientation questioned?

It's a fucked up tightrope to have to walk. On the one hand, do you disclose to your partner a sexual act you might enjoy? Do you do this even if you might freak out your partner? On the other hand, do you keep your mouth shut so you just don't have to deal with her insecurities?

Stop trying to read between the lines here. Your boyfriend is not trying to disclose to you that he is gay. He's trying to disclose to you that he is a straight man that enjoys anal sex.

Point of perspective:
A couple of generations ago, the desire a woman felt to receive oral sex was regarded as indicating that she was a closet lesbian. After all, a heterosexual woman should be fully satisfied by a man's penis, right?

Right.

Think about it.

Does it even occur to you that historically speaking, a guy might question the sexual orientation of a woman asking for cunnilingus? Doesn't even cross your mind does it?

When your boyfriend goes down on you, you're not a lesbian because of it.

If you peg your boyfriend, he is not gay either. He's just enjoying sex with his girlfriend. That is he's trying to enjoy having sex with his girlfriend, provided he can keep her insecurities about common sex acts calmed down.

[gray_sailor]

Thanks for the MHO.

[OlderAndWiser]

There are some guys who are so afraid of being called homosexual that they will not only avoid doing anything that might be considered homosexual, but they will insist that anyone who does those things must be homosexual. So. . . anything involving anal stimulation is "gay." Men who are more open-minded will at least experiment with anal stimulation when they get the right partner. Many find it pleasurable because of the pressure on the prostate, while some just can't get beyond the notion that nothing sexual should happen back there because that's where your shit come out. If you enjoy having a woman stimulate you anally, does that mean you are homosexual? Well, if you enjoy having a woman suck on your dick, does that mean you're gay?

I never stop being surprised at how younger people - especially the ones who think older folks are all a bunch of dried up fuddy duds - can be so inhibited and hung up about stupid things!

[bombamboum]

A man liking anal stimulation isn't linked to his sexual orientation.
Many straight men see themselves as dominant and anal sex is often linked to submission. A lot of men don't want to put themselves in that position. Some also it is just something that gay men do and don't want the be seen as a gay man because it's taboo.
Men have a prostate, they might as well use it to get pleasure.

[Dulcedulcexoxo]

It depends if he sexualizes that dildo on you.. definitely not straight or if he wants it all the time... but i mean as a female i understand your concern. Porn brainwashes them and since so many are into transporn it makes you wonder.

[heywat]

Anal stimulation is said to give the best orgasm. The prostate glad is basically like another g spot for men. Being gay or bi is a matter of sexual preference not stimulation

[AthleticMom]

C
seems gay to me except a gal is doing him
a parallel to massages when guy/gal makes a difference giving it

if you are pegging & giving HJ same time, then I'm OK with it
if not HJ or his cumming, then seems gay

[DasVoz]

Straight guys can be into anal play.

The whole pegging thing strikes me as an act of submission, which doesn't have much to do with his preferences in the opposite gender. He's just more submissive than most guys.

I personally get angry in submissive positions and seek to turn the tables quickly. Pegging is not a thing for me.

[MrMysteryMan]

I agree man. I don't mind anal stimulation myself like a girl fingering or licking me, but the whole getting fucked or bent over by someone would make me feel too submissive, which I'm definitely not.

[existing_not_living]

I think he's got a little gayness in him...

[SarahsSummer]

Unless he wants to be pegged by an actual penis, I think it's just the anal/prostate stimultatoon he's interested in.

[SarahsSummer]

Have you done it to him yet?

[likitysplit]

It's entirely possible that he's confused about his sexuality but just because he likes anal stimulation doesn't mean anything. Other than he's found the joys of prostate play. If he says he isn't interested in guys and he hasn't given you a reason to think otherwise than you should trust him.

[f_ckmeup]

He probably just likes the feeling of anal stimulation and the idea of femdom. While it is sexually deviant, it doesn't mean he's gay or bi.

[LateNightss]

Doing that for him is neither your job nor should be turning you on.

[SunnyCaliGirl]

Well if he is with you girl, he is not gay

[OrdinaryGentleman]

... male G spot? The prostate is incredibly sensitive, though i have not tried it yet id be down:P
You shouldn't think anything of it?

[Kylesar]

And you wonder why the whole "no homo" thing came from

Every time a man says or likes something, his orientation comes into question

This is why men don't do what's considered feminine, even if it's praised in other cultures like ballet or theater

The man is with YOU. So what if he's bi? He's obviously not gay, and you pushing questions like this will do naught but close him off.

The reason guys are offended is because people complain so much that men aren't open with their interests, emotions, and feelings, yet as soon as they feel comfortable enough to share it, labels start to fly

I used to be into pegging as well, but as soon as my girlfriend started making gay jokes, I've immediately and permanently lost all interest, and one of the reasons why I don't share all that much with her

[zagor]

Just because he likes anal stimulation doesn't mean he wants a penis up there.

[WombRaider]

Neither of them...

It'd only be gay or whatever if he was being pegged by a guy...

Homosexual sex is GUY on GUY - thats it.

Be fair to him... he likes it and he's obviously gone out to tell you. Respect that.

[WillTXm]

I am not attracted at all to guys but love my ass fucked. I like sucking cock and swallowing cum. I prefer pussy but cock and cum is great. I guess I am bi by a strict definition but I would never be in a relationship with a guy.

[Noxifer626]

It's not gay if a woman does it to a man.

[ImportantBurrito]

Prostate stimulation is a great feeling and leads to great orgasm.

[Anonymous]

When you're gone or out of town how much do you want to bet he posts ads on Craigslist looking for guys with big dicks to come over and fuck him in your bed?

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[Anonymous]

I have had my ex girlfriend introduce me to slight anal penetration to massage my prostate gland for heightened sexual stimulation.
I was pleasantly surprised by it.
I am still heterosexual, and have no interest in men.

[Anonymous]

I dont care what these dudes say. Thats gay. They may not be gay, but thats some gay shit.