Why do I want bad things to happen to me?

I constantly wish that bad things will happen to me, I have even fantasized about it before. For example, I think about being raped, abused, bullied, being diagnosed with life- threatening illnesses and more. No, I have never been abused or anything like that. I feel like I think this because I want attention and this makes me even want it more because then I feel like I deserve it. I don't know.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • being a victim is powerful, because then you feel like you have a reason to be depressed, you feel like you have a legitimate way to demand people pay attention to if you feel neglected, and you feel that if they continue to neglect you when you are in need, you are justified in your fury against them.

    fantasizing about being a victim is just a recognition of your own depression, your desire for people to care more about you, openly, and for a situation that would justify your neediness, so that any who questioned it would be the bad person.

    Even people who like being alone, and who genuinely enjoy being left to their own devices, fantasize about family and friends pouring attention on them, or about family and friends not being there in a time of need, to justify underlying hostility you feel to them for being ignored or neglected in a way you feel is not justified.

    Do I sound harsh? I've had similar thoughts and fantasies, and have for 20 years, so my sort of angry diagnosis here is just calling out the root cause of a disgraceful form of behavior, that I continue to do myself, in daydreams.

  • "I feel like I think this because I want attention"

    Well, is that what you are getting?

    ... I'm very interested because Law of Attraction is supposed to bring about what is focused on, and clearly you aren't really focusing on bad things happening to you, since they would probably have happened.

    Interesting case

Most Helpful Girls

  • Maybe you have a fixation with being pitied and viewed as a victim? Or you have some serious self-loathing issues? Can't be precisely sure without knowing you or more about you.

  • Seen out a professional. They can Diagnose you better than a bunch of losers on gag would.

    • Lol! Some GAGers can be pretty darn helpful!

    • Not when it comes to a possibly psychological condition! Never trust a non professional in this case! @Esplorare

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  • You are a sub. You want to be dominated sexually. This quite common you just havnt recognized it yet.

  • It is most likely because you want some excitement in your life. You live a very safe life so you want to experience something that you have not and probably won't.

  • You have a problem. None of us can diagnose you.

  • Dude, read some marquis, you need it :D

  • Maybe you want attention or pity.

  • You're a masochist.

  • You are my type... Didn't even realize I had one until I read this and was like 'yup, sums up pretty much every woman I sleep with'.

    A lot of women get off on being mistreated, which is why there are men like me - to mistreat you. :P

  • sounds like you want people to show you how much they care.

    for instance, all the people coming to your side when diagnosed w/ a terminal illness. i've thought about this stuff as well.

  • get help... Rough sex is one thing... but you need to talk to a shrink about these self destructive urges

  • Are you lonely?

  • Why want disease? The rest of the part is normal fantasy. Probably BDSM

  • I feel the same. Im constantly imagining my own death, or that i have a terminal illness. I think i fantasize about it because in my fantasies people care that im dead/dying and im scared people won't actually care.