What is a special friend?

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Man I used to sleep with and now we just talk and flirt calls me his " special friend". What does he mean by it?

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AthleticMom Guru
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You have been friend-zoned
and he prefers not to reveal publicly or to his now preferred girlfriend this sexual past
but does (& will) remember it fondly.
Now he can keep his girlfriend (if any)
you as a friend
and those sexual memories
all to himself
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- Asker
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  Then why is he flirting with me and telling me he likes me?
- AthleticMom
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  He wants it ALL so long as everyone knows their places and he has no consequences from being piggy
redeyemindtricks Influencer
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He doesn't happen to be 50+ years old, does he?
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- Asker
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  Ha ha! He's 30
- redeyemindtricks
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  Lol, I only ask because... I haven't heard that phrase from anyone less than 10 years older than me. Does he say this TO OTHER PEOPLE? Because... he's clearly trying to stake a claim, here. If you were 9 years old again, this would be exactly the same thing as saying, "I like you... no, really, I LIKE like you. shhhh we KISSED on the playground." If he's using this phrase, then, he still harbors some depth of feeling toward you -- and some degree of hope that this friendship will turn into more, again -- and he's not shy about implying that to whoever's listening to the conversation. If he were well and truly Over It, in terms of those feelings/hopes, then he would just refer to you as... his friend.
- Asker
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  You might be right, I think. When we had sex I liked him obviously but it was all about having fun. But recently we have been getting much closer emotionally and developing these little routines that I'm thinking he might have feelings for me. So I wonder what is he trying to say when he calls me "his special friend"
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- redeyemindtricks
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  I mean, it's pretty obvious, yo. LOL Boys aren't generally super-awesome at the art of subtlety, but... yeah, this. I swear, though, I just cannot picture this coming out of the mouth of a 30-year-old. Dat some straight Mister Rogers shit right day-uh gurlll LMAO
- Asker
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  LOL!! Just for the record, he called me that in a text. He said " You're my special friend and I was thinking of you last weekend". How bad, LOL?
- redeyemindtricks
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  Is he a native speaker of English?
- Asker
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  No, he isn't
- redeyemindtricks
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  AHA. Well, there we go -- why didn'tcha mention that earlier? Lol. In that case, then, this is just... a typical example of someone trying to be cool in a 2nd language, which is really, really, REALLY fucking hard to do. I mean, it's kinda like trying to swear in a 2nd language. That, also, is nearly impossible. Ever heard a foreigner try to swear in English? "Motherbitch!" "I fuck your ass!" "Son of hell!" (: Ok. In this case, this is all totally normal -- but, you may want to give the boy a little bit of guidance. A lesson in cultural literacy, as it were. I mean, he'd be best advised to avoid using ALL slang words altogether... if you can advise him as much, without offense.
- Asker
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  LOL!! it's not like that. I meant he moved to US when he was 6, he's educated, and very articulate, but still not a native speaker. He doesn't need any lessons from me LMAO!!
- redeyemindtricks
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  Ehhhh still... Educated is one thing, but, that intuitive feel for the language is a whole 'nother thing. I mean, by the time you were 7 or 8, you could already snicker at people with funny accents, right? Or people who said stuff weird? It's fascinating, but, L2 learners never really overcome that barrier, no matter now much they master the formal / written / educated / professional register (s) of the language. It just doesn't happen. Example: Mah daddy had a business partner for a while whose family defected from Armenia (then part of the USSR) when he was about the same age. He was very well-spoken, too, but I had to (diplomatically) explain to him that "X is shit" and "X is the shit" were actually complete opposites, lol. And he's the source of "motherbitch" and "son of hell" hahahhaha You get me. I mean, if you really wanna be a douchebag, you can play games... "Am I in the special class, all by myself?" The special class! Ahahahaha I crack mahself up
- Asker
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  I get ya LOL!! So true on all accounts. Going back to the guy, if I may, what's the consensus then? Babbling idiot or is there more to the story?
- redeyemindtricks
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  Well... he still likes you. Like, LIKE likes you, if we're gna use the (surprisingly useful) 3rd grade terminology. Aaaand, depending on what country / culture / cultural stratum he comes from, that may not be as easily reversible as it is for you and me. Meaning, in his mind, it may not be possible to un-"special" the special-friend status. If that's the case, it may not be possible for you to salvage a platonic friendship with this man. In fact, with dudes from a lot of countries, platonic friendships kinda don't really exist in the first place. (As someone who makes guy-friends easily and who's lived in several countries, I've learned this the hard way.) So, be aware of that. My gut instinct is that this is a "shit or get off the pot" situation -- either it's gna be a relationship, or it's gna be a nothingship, but probably not a friendship per se.
- Asker
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  Thanks for the advice, wise woman. Much appreciated :)
- redeyemindtricks
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  Yr welcome babe! <3
- redeyemindtricks
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  Tx for the MH luv <3

Most Helpful Guys

abc3643 Master
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He's a friend you slept with - that makes him special. You don't sleep with all of your friends do you?
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- Asker
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  Of course not! He's the only friend I slept with
- abc3643
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  ... and, thus, he is special. Men are not complex; we are as simple as dogs.
AustinMan Influencer
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A friend with a secret, I'd guess. Why aren't you sleeping together?
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- Asker
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  Why? He's seeing someone. But since we are friends it's ok I suppose.
- AustinMan
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  Was the sex amazing? Something about you is special in his eyes.
- Asker
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  Yes, it was. Or maybe he just like me as a person haha?