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Domestic violence rarely if ever has a real reason.
@BellePepper Ok, what does that have to do with what I said?
Because trapping someone in a relationship is a form of domestic violence...
@BellePepper I guess thats a matter of opinion, but I still dont see how thats relevant to what I said.
The type of behavior OP is asking about is a type of domestic violence. That's why a guy would do that. I was answering your question...
@BellePepper Trapping someone in a relationship is a form of abuse, but not domestic violence. It's important not to blur these terms because it dilutes the seriousness of domestic violence which is harmful to people who suffer it.
@Transigence Abuse is domestic violence.
@BellePepper No, it is not. If I tell my boss he's a 'nigger,' that's abuse. But it's not domestic violence. It's not even domestic -- it's workplace.Lying to someone is abuse. But it's not domestic violence.Abuse is a VERY broad term which applies to conversations, people, drugs, information systems, consumer products, policies, etc., and can happen anywhere.For something to be DOMESTIC, it has to be on the homestead. For something to be VIOLENCE, it has to have violence.It's fair to say that such a guy as described would be abusive, but not violent.
@BellePepper What you're essentially doing is taking the blood of the victims of the genuinely violent and wiping it on the backs of anyone you don't like.
@Transigence Stop being melodramatic. I'm willing to learn from this situation but only if you stop being absolutely ridiculous.
@BellePepper Okay, well then I would say that if you were a gender ideologue, that is what you would be doing and I wouldn't have any problem calling you out on it.But I know that you're a feminist and feminism creates and intentionally cultivates a lot of blind spots and misunderstandings (through the careful use of logical fallacies and emotional reasoning), so if you aren't really a gender ideologue, I could see that you could be deceived into such reductive thinking, which wouldn't be your fault.I'm sorry, this topic is push-button rage for me, and I should get better at giving people the benefit of the doubt.
It's the same as calling the act of staring at a woman rape. There ARE feminists who want to do this. What they want to do is exact the punishments for rape onto men who stare at women, but it can only go one of two ways. They could be either laughed out of the room, or they will end up making rape a misdimeanor exacting the punishment for starting at a woman onto men who forcibly penetrate women sexually.
@Transigence PM me if you get the chance and we can talk about it when you're ready. I don't want to harass OP and poor Redstang with notifications.
@BellePepper By calling "abuse" "domestic violence," you're diluting the seriousness of actual domestic violence.Domestic violence is abuse, but not all abuse is domestic violence.This is called the "fallacy of composition," or maybe it's "affirming the consequent."
Oh, and it always has a reason. That's not to say that reason is legitimate, but as "Bill Burr" says, an ass-whooping doesn't just fall out of the sky.
I don't know that I'd call 1 in 10 and 15% uncommon...