What do you think of consensual non-consent?

[Anonymous]

Basically rapeplay. Not actually rape but roleplay of it. Would you ever try it yourself?

[heavensgift2girls]

As long as we are already in a relationship and we cover the ground rules first I would be willing to try it. It really wouldn't matter who played which part either, as long as we covered the limits and such before hand. It's just role play. Just because you like to role play something doesn't mean you want it to happen in real life.

The problem is that so many people have the incorrect idea that anyone that wants to try it must either be a rapist, or want to be raped. A fantasy is just a fantasy. It doesn't mean either of them want to either rape or be raped. However no one wants to be thought of as being on the side of rape, so everyone over reacts about these types of fantasies. And likewise no girl wants to be thought of as "asking to be raped" which is why so many girls voted yes, but didn't leave a written response.

It is also stupid that people claim it is disrespectful to rape victims. What about disrespecting murder victims on TV, or natural disaster victims in movies? There are all sorts of media that use dark subjects that people enjoy. It doesn't mean that you are disrespecting anyone. They are just trying to make themselves look morally superior by speaking out against the subject of rape.

[MrOracle]

Quite a few women have "rape fantasies" (in most cases, it's really a Domination fantasy) that they want to live out *with a trusted partner in a safe manner.* I've done it before with women who enjoy it, sure.

Again, it's more about having a masculine, dominant, take-charge man "ravishing" them, sometimes with some rough-handling and a little (non-permanent) pain. I'm not much of a sadist myself, but I'm quite dominant, and I enjoy some spanking, hair pulling, throat-holding (not choking, per se), pinning back arms and legs, that kind of thing. Girls who like that stuff go crazy when someone knows how to give it to them...

[vonasaurus]

no such thing as a "rape fetish"~ what you have is a domination fantasy; the two are very different, and you should definitely familiarize yourself with what they are.

bdsm/bondage is fine; that's the act of giving and/or receiving pain within the confines of a consenting adult relationship and typically employs the use of a "safe" word (something that means 'stop').

rape is a crime; it's terrifying and degrading, and it's not about sex~ it's about control, and it usually comes with a deep-seated hatred of the person/their gender (usually mommy or daddy issues).

if you can fantasize about rape in the true sense of the word, you are sick and need more help than anyone on the internet can give you.

[kaylaS91]

So basically the whole dominance/submission kink?
I don't like to call it 'rapeplay' because that seems to make rape sound like nothing all that serious. I'd hate for any more people to question the validity of rape after they learn about rape play, then provided to think that real rape wasn't 'that bad' if it was consensual and such.

I have a mytake that I'm going to post later this week when I'm done presentations/exams for a bit actually going into the specifics of rapeplay.

Do I do it with my boyfriend? A bit. Not very much. Mostly during foreplay. A bit during PIV put always keep it pretty mild to not get too far over the line.

[fauchelevent]

Rough sex, BDSM and being held down or tied up or whatever is something I'm into. I don't know if I'd really be into roleplaying rape, I used to like the idea but now it's just kinda... Offputting.

[samhradh_leannan]

There is no such thing as consensual non-consent. If you have consented to rope-play rape, it's still consensual. It isn't non-consent. There is no non-consent involved.

[justbanANNAz]

nope i think that's messed up.

[NJ_Casanova]

Just sounds like rough sex to me? Just need a safe word.

[AleDeEurope]

To me, that's sick. If you are talking about roleplaying real rape, and not just some bdsm, then I'm definitely not into it.

[CHARismatic110]

I personally wouldn't do it. Rough sex and being dominated is as far as I'd go and even that is a stretch.

[Notreallyhere]

It seems interesting. Not like getting mugged and raped, but just rough spontaneous sex. Perfect surprise if your into that I guess.

[Joc4Position]

It makes me sick, and I feel it's disgraceful towards rape victims. That said I see no harm in rough sex. Even to the point of bruising.

[Asker]

Well, it's basically rough sex. But the the sub pretends to struggle.

[Joc4Position]

Yeah I don't like the mindset of it being rape. I don't think it's a good mindset to have.

[Bandit74]

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b4hNaFkbZYU

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[douride2]

No thanks I definitely not into it.

[Kylesar]

If they consent to it, go for it
My girlfriend wants me to play out her rape fantasies, but:

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At the end of the day though, it's just dominance and rough sex

[Maxemeister]

I don't know how it would go down?

[Asker]

Well, you'd make sure both partners agree to it and then of course have a safe word. The dom is pretty much super aggressive. The sub pretends to struggle and all that.

[Maxemeister]

Lol but they know it's coming. Do they pretend to be like walking in the city, does the Daddy rip the clothes off her? This sounds kinda fun (imagine I said that in the least rapey way :D )

[Asker]

It would be better to do it within the confinement of your home so people don't get the wrong idea lol.

[Maxemeister]

lol yah true What do I think of it? If she's into it, it sounds like fun! I've always liked the ideas of BDSM (to an extent)

[redeyemindtricks]

"The sub pretends to struggle and all that."

There's no "pretend" about it. The struggling, and being overwhelmed, and being taken, and being subdued? All entirely real. I really AM fighting against my husband, and he really IS forcing me into submission.

I mean, perhaps I just lack imagination (ok, I *know* I lack imagination), but, I absolutely detest ANY palpable element of "pretend" or "play-acting" or "scene". Nope. I like the realness.

This is also, by the way, why this sort of thing -- **IF** it's real, and not some weak-ass obviously make-believe roleplay thing -- absolutely MUST happen in a long-term, committed relationship with absolute trust. I wrote about that in my opinion here:
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1910564-why-do-girls-like-fantasizing-about-rape

[redeyemindtricks]

I mean, again, disclaimer -- I have very little imagination, and any tangible sense of "pretend" instantly turns me off. But, I suspect that most people with this fantasy are ultimately after something like what my husband and I have.

[Maxemeister]

@redeyemindtricks Lol so he full out tackles u

[jakeofalltrades]

i would try it if my girlfriend wanted me to

[Anonymous]

There are to many crazy women who cloud the consent rules so badly that I would not risk going to jail because some dumb bitch decided she wanted to do it but then decided she didn't and because I couldn't tell I end up with my life destroyed.
So nope.

[Anonymous]

Its not really for me but if that's what she wants I am a team-player. Also, nice to see that the whole "consensual non-consent" phrase is catching on. I remember everyone telling me how ingenious it was a few years ago.

[Anonymous]

Well with the yes means yes laws in California where you have to every single time ask for consent (at least the guys do) otherwise it's rape so things like that are now illegal no matter how you try to look at it regardless if both people are cool with it beforehand. Beforehand consent is no longer allowed.

[Anonymous]

tried it once never again