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My boyfriend doesn't like eating P***y. He said it hurts his jaw and his tongue. Is that an excuse or do guys actually think that?

He said he doesn't like eating out pussy, he never has liked it. I'm very clean down there i make sure of it. He said I don't smell or anything like that. He just doesn't like it. He said to me tonight that he basically does it because I like it. Kinda of made me upset because if I'm in a relationship with someone and im going to marry them, I would want the sex and oral to be great for both parts. I love sucking his dick, i even swallow. I understand that a relationship isn't all about sex, but damn. I have needs. When he does go down on me I feel rushed and I basically get frustrated and tell him to stop because it upsets me that I take my time to please him, I even lick his fucking balls and I get nothing. I guess my question is, is that normal for guys to do what my boyfriend does to me or? Am I selfish, and over reacting? I'm sad because of it.
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he's 26 and im 20 by the way.
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by the way, when I suck his dick my neck, back, jaw, mouth, everything hurts but I still do it and sometimes I do it for 40 minutes to an hour. So the whole jaw and tongue hurts "thing" to me it sounds like anew excuse.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Yeah, this is where you "initiate" the boy by just climbing up on top of him, like in reverse cowgirl position, but on top of his face.
    Convenient geometry -- you can slip'n'slide, rowing-machine style, back and forth over his mouth, and his chin will be right there as a convenient rigid object against which to grind yr clit all the way into an alternate reality.

    I mean, really fuck that face. Just... ride it, until there's a flash flood of girl-slurry all the way down his neck and starting to collect in that cute little depression between his neck and collarbone.
    Yep.

    (lol I crack myself up... Girl slurry!)

    But, srsly. That mouth-chin distance tho. That is there to be exploited, by you.

    __

    That ^^

    That's what you shd do.

    Girrrlll I can feel yr anger all the way from here! ::fans self:: I mean, I'm sry, but, that's actually kinda hot... You shd take that anger, collect it, concentrate it, and take it all out on that boy's face. Mmhmm.
    "He doesn't like it... he does it because I like it." Fuuuuuuuuuucckk girl, them's fightin' words, in mah world. Oh yeah, fine, I'll show you what I like, then...
    LOL
    <3

    You'll even be in the perfect position to lean down and start sucking him... **IF** you feel like indulging him. But, I says you shd be a tease, at least for a little while.

    You been spoilin' that boy rotten, girl... smh. Time for you to #getyours

    • Spoken like a true "loves to have her pussy eaten, girl" I agree, she should sit on his face, either cowgirl or reverse cow girl.

  • I don't think you're overreacting at all. I think sucking his cock for 40 minutes to an hour would be unreasonable. Him going down on you for the same interval would also be unreasonable. I think each of you can be and should be more hot and ready to explode before calling in the other to do their part. 15 minutes is more reasonable. In his case perhaps he can look at porn and masturbate until he's close to ready to cum, then have you finish him off. In your case how about using a vibrator for awhile, then have him finish you off with his tongue. I'm talking about making some reasonable accommodations for each other and basically trying to have "smarter" more realistic oral sex together. I'm sure it can be done and strategies worked out if the two of you put negativity aside, put your heads together and put your thinking caps on.

    • Good advice 'tinyclit" Tiny Clit? LOL With you way you write, you can't POSSIBLY have a tiny clit? LOLO

  • Its an excuse not to eat you out. My partner doesn't like to eat out either even though I give him deep throating and many other things... But I don't mind because our sex is amazing without it anyway and Im not that into oral.
    But if you're considering marriage then I'd say don't, you'd start to feel frustrated if you love getting eaten out and he doesn't give two shits about it.
    Some guys are just selfish in bed and have huge double standards so yeah. Unfortunately he's one of them.

    • I don't know why guys don't eat pussy it's so good and tasty

    • @ccuunnttlloovveerr12 Doesn't make sense to me either?

Most Helpful Guys

  • No, it's a workout for sure. The tongue gets super tired and the jaw can't lock up. Though I'm guessing it's easier than sucking dick. But, if he makes you do it and he's not willing to do it, yeah, it's just an excuse. That's fucked up. Give and receive man. That's not fair. So no. I don't think you're selfish or over reacting. It's only fair it goes both ways. But at the same time, you can't make someone like something. So you're kinda fucked. In the bad way.

    Sounds like your potential marriage partner is kinda a dick. As for what he does to you, I don't know what he does to you. I can't speak for other guys, but I put the time in. Of course, I like doing it, so... And it's like 10 minutes max. After she cums it's over, then you get to switch to something else. Really not that much of an investment.

    Okay. He doesn't like something, but he tries to do it because you like it. He's making an effort, at least. Just not a good enough one. So, it shows he cares a bit, just not enough. Otherwise, he wouldn't make the effort at all. I really can't tell you if it's normal with guys in general.

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  • i'm sure some guys *do* think it's gross, but they are few and far between.

    if he expects you to go down on him, but is unwilling to return the favour, your boyfriend is being selfish and you need to think about whether or not you can continue to date someone who neglects your needs.

  • Sorry, but he's either stupid as shit, or selfish as shit. Pick the poison.

  • Well it can especially if it takes a while but thats usually why you switch it up to give yourself a break before resuming. If you expect him to go for an hour then yes that is actually kind of a lot it does lock up the tongue and jaw. If this is the case try to reduce the time he spends going down on you which will make him enjoy it more.

  • you too aren't sexually compatible or orally should i say. he's using it as an excuse i don't know a man that don't. Can u accept he will never eat ur pussy out right?

  • Girl i feel u on dat shit i be pissed to but i have had guy like dat sumbguts dont eat pussy an others are really great at what they do...

  • 40 min to an hour? Sounds like you are both doing it wrong

    • I love eating pussy

  • It is an excuse. You deserve some great orgasms also! Do you orgasm with regular intercourse? If he won't go down on you do not return the favor. Have you considered a sex toy?

    You suck him for 40 minutes.. it takes him that long to get off?

  • If it's 20+minutes I can see it being true. He does it to make you happy and that's good. And you give back so it's all good. I think some guys don't really enjoy it (I love it) but if he does it when you want then its fine.

  • I don't get guys who don't like it. It's as if you're lapping up her femininity, a very sensual experience. One that one should really appreciate. I mean, it's not for me to judge, but it does all sound very 'boyish' to me. And yes, one does ache sometimes, sometimes one needs a rest (as I'm currently doing from physically working out), but then one gets right back into it with glee ;)

  • The best lovers are unselfish. He is just being selfish The taste of a woman is aquired but it is addictive to some guys. If its important keep encouraging him..

  • Find a new boyfriend.

    Problem solved.

  • It's not an excuse. Can you not see how this could be? Some guys just don't like it (just like some women don't like oral). Maybe he can just do something else. Use his fingers instead? Don't let it be a deal breaker though if he's a great guy otherwise. There's other things he can do.

  • He needs to learn how to go down on you without tensing up his muscles so much. He should shift positions, or make sure you're in a position where it's easiest for him to not get tense. He should take little breaks if he needs to, and while he does that, continue stimulting you with his finger (s). I agree with you. It shouldn't be a chore. It should be something he wants to do.

  • Answering your question this way: To do something, anything, well, you must like to do whatever it is, and that includes eating pussy. If you suck his dick for 40 minutes to an hour, you are really unusual, and I would think he would reciprocate, with eating your pussy. From my POV, I don't see you as being selfish at all, you just expect him to pay you the same attention you give him.

    For starters, when you suck him, I'm not sure why the neck, back, jaw, mouth pain. I wonder what position you are in when you suck him, and secondly, why he takes so long to shoot his wad. (and you swallow his semen to boot !)

    To eat you easily, and correctly, his mouth should be very close to your clitoris and labia, and his tongue should not have to be 'out' so far that it hurts. I have to wonder how he is eating you? I have to say that oral sex is a 'primary' pleasure for me, but maybe I am just an 'oral' personality. Hopefully, not to gross you out, I have many times had my tongue in her asshole, and she went crazy over that.
    Something just sounds 'off' with his claiming, it is 'painful' in any way for him.
    I would follow 'redeyemindtricks' advised, and sit on his face forward or backward, maybe put you ass in his face too.

  • It's an excuse. Some guys don't like it. Personally I love it and you'd have to tear me away. :-)

  • Go find yourself a real man

  • It's just a bad excuse but tell him you won't go down on him if he doesn't go down on you. It's only fair. You just keep enjoying it and make sure he stays down till u cum. Good luck!

  • Yeah but he want you to suck his dick. Talk to him about it. That's not fair.

  • Yeaah it sounds like an excuse... You know what you want! Good sex is important in a relationship, if you don't feel happy about it then move on, act upon it!

  • you two are sexually incompatible.. dump him

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