Pregnancy, abortion, friends with benefits, guys behavior?

I know this is a weird/dumb question but Long story short I became friends with benefits with this guy it didn't last long, I got pregnant. Told him, he was for the abortion and I was hesitant for a while I thought about it and went through with the abortion, my question is do you think he'll ever regret it or it will ever cross his mind? It crosses my mind a lot and I just wonder if it bothers him now or will it ever bother him in a few years or even at all?
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  • Hey.
    My ex partner and I went through an abortion nearly three years ago, and we're still dealing with it.
    It was a bit different for us because he really wanted that baby, it was me who couldn't cope.

    I always say that I don't regret having an abortion, and I don't. I Knew it was the right thing to do at the time, but that doesn't mean I never think about it, or that I don't or didn't care. On the night my son was born, I cried and cried and I apologised, in my head, to the baby we lost, because that was the first time I'd let myself think of her as an actual being ( I don't know why I've started thinking of her has "her," I think because I have little boy, it's easier to think of the baby we couldn't have as a girl. I hate using the word "it" )

    People deal with things in different ways.
    Has what happened between the two of you crossed his mind? Probably, but it's possible that it's fleeting, because you don't want to think about it. You cannot change what is done.
    He probably still thinks about you too, and he's probably not too proud of himself.
    Something like this never goes away, but if he's decided to simply let it go and move on, it's because it's the best thing for him.

    I wish you all the best.

    • This actually helped me a lot! Congrats on your baby boy and I defiantly know what you mean by the calling her a "her" I had the weirdest feeling mine was going to be a boy and constantly found myself looking a boy clothes and boy names and him and I weren't together we were just friends with benefits but we've had a history of talking on and off for two years so I'm not sure if he even cared then again I'm not him but thank you! :)

    • Thank you, Sweetheart. I think it's more than likely that he cared. More than you realise ... but it is OK to move on, for you too. You won't forget about this, but you are allowed to forgive yourself. xx

    • I don't think Inwill forget about this ever, and I honestly believe that if he did care he would have acted differently and I am trying so hard to move on, it's only been 3 weeks since and it goes through my mind more then I'd like to think about it

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  • It might but it might take awhile. I wouldn't worry about it though. I wouldn't want to bring a baby into the world if the dad wasn't around.

    • That's a big reason as to why I went through the with abortion because I had a feeling I would have been the only one taking care of the baby. Don't get me wrong single moms are awesome! But with me being so young I just couldn't do it on my own

    • It seems to me that young guys dont want to stick around after someone they have slept with gets pregnant. Its not fair to the girl and to said baby. If I had a kid I would hate to have to explain why the dad isn't around.

    • I agree with you and it is hard, and it's sad how childish young adults can be about a situation like this

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  • I highly doubt he will. And it's not like you were in a relationship with him, so I honestly don't think he even would care.

    • Sorry. But that's what I think. And I think if he ever thinks of it again, he's probably thinking, "good riddance. Now I can continue my fucking."

    • I'm also sorry if I came off bitter, but I also got pregnant, and same, except I kept him. I'm a single mother now, and his dad does care, but I think it's cause of different circumstances. I think you did the right thing though, cause it sounds like he would've never stuck around.

    • No you didn't sound bitter I appriciate your opinion! In a way I understand where your coming from and that's awesome! I give you mad props because the main reason I got an abortion was because I kinda knew he didn't want to stick around, I mean he said the baby would have a split household and all but I didn't believe him, I don't know I kinda was wondering if it will over bother him like it does me because some days it eats me alive and I regret it a lot

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  • he might regret it. but hard to say

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  • It might, it might not. We are not him and dont know how/what he thinks...

    • This is true, I guess I wanna know if it's bothering him because I still care about him and miss him and wanna know if it's bothering him like it's bothering me

    • It's dumb I know