My girlfriend have told me she wants me to be rougher with her in bed. I don't mind dominating my girlfriend in bed because of how much she enjoys it. But choking and slapping her is too much for me. I never understood why someone would fetishise/sexualize male on female abuse. It's just so strange to me. She tells me it's not for real and just for fun but I honestly don't see the fun in hurting someone. I know a lot of radical feminists don't consider men being able to be feminists. So call me feminist, feminist ally, pig w/e but I feel like I would break my core beliefs even if my girlfriend would enjoy it.