I want to have sex but I'm insecure?

So, I like my upper body, boobs and stomach but.. the problem are my legs and butt, I have cellulite and I hate it, mt butt and legs look good in clothes but not naked I hate them tbh, my butt is kinda small but wide, I'm not fat but curvy (most guys seem to love that) but I honestly don't want to have sex because I'm afraid he'll be disgusted or something... he's not my boyfriend just a friend with benefits. pls help guys
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Here's the situation He's not looking or focusing on your legs. he's focusing up top okay. If you want to have sex make sure it's dimmed lighting focus on kissing and make sure your top in showing so that he'll have something to look at and use his hands with. Cowgirl is a great position for eye contact and kissing. But even so he won't care because he's your friend and he's turned on when a guy is turned on his mind is cloudy and he only wants to make you and him feel good. So relax and go get your rocks off sweety.

  • Chances are that he is more accepting of your body than you are. If you are uncomfortable about your body, that will make him less comfortable.

    You might consider different types of negligee which accentuate the features you want to emphasize, hide those you want hidden, and still provide ready access to the important bits.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Honestly the last thing a guy is going to be zoning in on your "cellulite", their mind is going crazy over the thought of sex with you when you're about to and it's not about all the bumps and curves that you find unattractive, fake it till you make it, as in pretend to act confident because when you're not it's so easy to tell in the bedroom. I get it, it can put you in a vulnerable state-- but just enjoy yourself, please.

  • Something like 90% of women have cellulite. (Seriously, look it up.) Its a secondary sex characteristic. A secondary sex characteristic is a characteristic present in one sex but not the other (usually), like boobs in women and beards on men. That's how normal cellulite is: it's as normal as boobs! ¥

    This dude is gonna have to learn how to deal with cellulite at some point because almost all women have it

  • If he is a friends with benefits then he shouldn't have a problem with your body. If he is your boyfriend then he should def not have problem with your body , but to help your problem out , you could always turn off the lights before having sex so he won't be able to see your body.

  • Get a different guy. If this one doesn't make you feel sexy you forget to be self conscious, you're totally with the wrong man.

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  • Hey, unless you're the loch ness monster beneath your clothes, a guy who's willing to have sex with you before you take your clothes off will also be willing to have sex with you once you remove them.

    • ^This

  • Sounds like you could use the services of a tough personal trainer to help you shape and tone your body. You might also benefit from some therapy to help you restore your self respect.

  • Men don't care about stuff like that when they want to get it in

  • Pretend you're the most confident sexy person in the world and he'll believe it too. Fake it til you make it!

  • You're not the one who has to find you attractive when they are having sex with you.

  • wait for the right guy. DONT have friends with this guy who probably doesn't care about you

  • So work out and lose body fat/tone up to get the body you want

    • Cellulite isn t smthng you can get rid off easily and it isn t really related with fat % You can have cellulites and be skinny. It has more to do with your body type and if it is hereditary

    • @archiz that's true, my bad

    • no worries ^.^

  • You're gonna have to come to terms with yourself first

  • go for it. leave the lights off if need be. it does not matter for him to see, he must just do.

  • not sure u want to have sex or modeling/photo-shoot, as sex just involves ur VJ n his DK and some skin; regardless of proportion of fat under it 😏

  • just go for it

  • If I'm having sex with a girl I'm going to be too horny, turned on, and focused on experiencing her body to give 2 shits about some cellulite. If you got nice boobs, stomach, and vagina you golden.

  • Have it when you feel secure. It can take minutes or years. Just give your best time to the person and if you're ready. Go for it. Don't rush in to sex because you think you've to do it. Do it with patience and complete understanding of simulation and arousals.

  • I tell u better no to take risk if insecure

  • Turn the lights off then fuck him senseless

  • in friends with benefits type relations its not that important

  • Don´t worry just take advantage of the attractivness of the part of the body that you are confident in. Is a good way to distract from places that you are insecure in. You are right curvy girls attract guys so i don´t think you have a problem.

    And you can always work on your weakness, you could do workout like squads to improve your butt.

  • be strong if you really want it

  • What are your boobs like

  • Girls always feel insecure about some part of there body. You should hook up with him and see what happens.

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