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My friends with benefits had a hickey do I have the right to question him about it?

I've ben seeing this guy for 4 years now. Neither one of us are really the relationship type so we struck up something a little more casual. While we are suppose to be monogamous to one another were not bf/gf so more or less friends with benefits. The other day we we were hanging out I noticed a hickey on his neck it appeared to be a few days old at the most. I didn't confront him because I felt it wasn't my place. But at the same time if we are having sex on a regular basis without contraception don't I have the right to know if he is having sex with other partners?
No- not your business
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Having a hickey doesn't neccessarily mean he had sex with someone else, he's still allowed to do oher things with girls that dont include penetration. However you arw right, so have the right to question him for the sake of your health if you have any doubts. Just make sure you are asking him for the sake of your health and not because you're jealous. If you realize that its not because of your health that you want to ask, then I suggest you give him up and move on :)

  • You have the right to know whether or not he has other sex partners, and if he does, what precautions he takes when he is with them, because these things affect you. When you have sex with someone, you also have sex with all their past and current partners.

  • If you are having sex without contraception, then I think you have a right to ask. For your own safety. If your relationship is friends with benefits and he wants to see other girls, then fine, but he is going to have to start wearing a condom again.

  • Just tell him your not mad and just want to know if he's fucking someone on the side. That you rather not get any STD's.

Most Helpful Guys

  • No, you don't have the 'right' to know anything.

    The only exception is that certain STIs are, in some jurisdictions, something that you are required by law to disclose to a partner before having sex. Sometimes just HIV/AIDS.

    You can ask, but unless it's something he's legally obligated to tell you, he doesn't have to. Then you can decide if you want to continue this relationship or not.

  • if he is sleeping around you have a right to know, because of STI risks and the like.
    If you are friends with benefits, you have no right to demand exclusivity, but you do have the right to know if there are other people, and if those people have been tested and are clean.

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  • A wee bit of both, since you two agreed to be monogamous I would want to know if he chose to be with other people because I have a right to the safety of my health.

  • When you're not exclusive and it comes to sexual history, don't ask don't tell.

  • Yes you have all rights to know about other partners cause you never know maybe he can get sick or something by other partner and you dont want to get sick eighter

  • i mean you can ask him whatever you want. and sure you have a right to know his sexual habits as it may inform your decision about how you feel about your relationship with him

  • well its complicated, if he's your friends with benefits you really have no say because he doesn't belong to you and owes you any explanation. but 4 years is a long time to know someone, im surprised you're not already dating...

  • Maybe, for safety's sake. You can ask him to get checked for STIs before continuing. But getting upset over him having another sexual partner doesn't sound reasonable since it's not a properly romantic relationship... Yet... Someone's gonna fall eventually.

  • i dont think so that its your business to know because you are friends with benefits with him, not in a relationship. and the same goes to you, you can have sex with any other guy too at the same time.

  • You should know about other guys for STD protection.
    Otherwise you can't be mad cuz you're just fuck buddies.

    That's kind of the name of the game with FWB's.
    Not being tied now to just one person.

  • No- not your business

  • None of your business.

  • You can ask whatever you like, especially when it concerns your health.

    Just casually check in about whether he's seeing other people, so that you know and can make an informed decision.

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