In my case, I've had this obsession with male power and anger since I was 9 years old, at least -- before I even knew what sex was -- and I've had these kinds of fantasies pretty much since the dawn of my sexuality.In my marriage, we've gotten to the point where I really have given up all of the sexual power. We don't have "safe words", and, honestly, by this point, I would let him do absolutely anything. Even things that would shatter my heart, or break my body, I'd let him do, because I'd trust that there was some greater plan behind whatever he was doing.But, the point is that we didn't get there overnight. We have an ABSOLUTE trust, that we've reached through 16 years together (almost 15 years married), in which he has never betrayed me or broken my trust one single time. That's how a point like that is reached. It's not some casual thing.It's also a point where we can live out a lot of my (and his) darker, deeper fantasies, because (cont'd)
again, we've built up enough trust to where I actually CAN give him ABSOLUTELY ALL of myself -- body, soul, all of me -- with no reservations.I mean, make no mistake, the fantasies themselves are about actual rape. They are about being used, and being brutalized, and being made into a tool of someone else's pleasure.But, you HAVE to understand that this DOES NOT mean we want these things to be done to us by random people.Nope.In the fantasies, they are done to us without any negative consequences at all. All of those things happen to us, and then we get up and go about our lives as normal -- because they are fantasies.We only want these things IRL insofar as the same is true. We want them, **IF** we can be secure in the idea that we won't be damaged, and we can go about our lives -- and our loves -- as normal.That can only happen in a very, very deep relationship.
Have you heard of sexual masochism?
Masochism is consensual, no masochist would want to get raped unless they have a severe psychological problem.
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If they have that desire, they would appreciate it if their girls have the guts to do it
Just don't.Even when a woman has a sexual fantasy about being raped, it's not an actual desire to get raped.
How did that happen?
I woke up and some random dude was sark naked going to town. I tried to get away but failed. i dunno how he got in.He's twice my age as well.
How long did it last?
Not sure I blacked out...
Must have been one hell of an experience
Yeah it was.