Should I shave my pubes?

Well hello guys, and thanks for answering. I have recently entered a relationship (my 1st relationship, before this I had never even kissed a boy), and we've reached a point where sex is going to happen soon. (I'm 19, almost 20 btw) This will be my first time and he knows it, and I just feel kind of nervous that I might not be good enough or something because he has experience and I don't. And one thing that I've always wondered but I'm too scared to ask, is: how do you guys feel about pubes? should I shave down there for my first time? Girls opinions are welcomed too.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Just ask! Not all guys are into shaven girls (just like not all guys are into girls with hair). I was in the same boat as you, and I assumed that I should get waxed. When I brought the topic up, he actually asked that I leave it!

    I know that it can be odd to bring something like this up, but remember, you're in a relationship -- honesty and communication are important. If you don't feel comfortable broaching this topic with him, do you trust him enough to share sex with him? When I didn't know what to do about this, I went about it this way: We started with small-talk relating to sex ("Won't it be nice when _____ happens or if we get to try _______," etc), and then I said, "And just so you know, I don't care whether you're trimmed or whatever. You just do you." (Truth be told, that's usually enough for him to say his opinion back.) Then I just flat-out asked, "Do you have a preference for me? I'm open to anything."

    Asking is the best way to know exactly what he likes best! :)

  • In my experience nobody likes getting stray pubic hairs in their mouth. At the very least you should trim it well. Shaved clean is better. If you shave it clean, try using Noxema brand bikini shavers and unscented shave cream. Those particular bikini shavers have little teeth that prevent them from cutting all the way down to the skin. That prevents both nicks and ingrown hairs. The unscented shave cream prevents irritation. We both like shaved clean here. I shave him and he shaves me once a week, so I'm familiar with shaving.

  • Some guys like shaved, some guys don't mind pubes.

    But I think it's a universal thing to keep them trimmed and under control if you do decide to keep them. And if he doesn't like pubes, then, chances are he probably won't go down on you.

    Because who wants a mouthful of hair, ESPECIALLY if you're not attracted to it.

  • I'm still a virgin but I started waxing it totally when I was 16 and now the pain is much less painful than before and I'm always smooth and clean :)

Most Helpful Guys

  • I REALLY like shaved, but I also know shaving can be a pain in the ass to do.
    As long as everything is really neat and trimmed, it should be fine.

    Then again, if you do shave bare, you might decide YOU like it enough to put up with the annoyance of shaving to keep it that way. I knew a girl who was meticulous about keeping shaved even when not in a relationship because that's just how she liked to be.

  • If you have a big ol' bush, I would suggest at least trimming it down a bit.
    Also, don't shave the day you are going for the first time. You need to try it out a bit to get used to the feeling of a bare kitty, and if you get 'razor burn', and what to do to avoid it as well as heal it. That would be a bad way to have your first sexual experience.

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  • I'm a bit more hard core than my friend, @Mesonfielde. I strongly prefer waxed bare, front and back.

  • Yes, for sure trim!

  • If you think that sex is going to happen "soon" then trim them. Shaving might irritate the skin and bug you. Only shave/wax when you know that your both going to be naked soon.

  • The men I've been with have appreciated a clean shave.

  • Would you feel more confident if you shaved? If yes, then do it. If not, then don't.

  • most guys would just be happy to be having sex, but if you wanna play it safe, you can assume mowing the lawn will be much more pleasant.

  • I have always shaved mine.

  • I recommend trimming. That should be sufficient.

  • I can only speak for myself but I don't think you should feel like you have to shave your pubes. (Except for maybe a little trimming around the edges, so to speak.) I think girls look great either way, but shaving has its disadvantages.

  • I would shave. Also dont be nervous, he will not judge you for not knowing what to do

  • It's a non-issue for me. Do what you feel is right for you. You could trim if you feel it necessary and not risk having to deal with razor bumps. I'm sure that will be quite sufficient.

  • ask him, but I prefer it bare anw

  • Trim them. It's superior in all possible ways. No skin-irritation, but also no jungle. Guys who like it shaved will be very ok with trimming just like guys who prefer bushes. It's faster, less chance of hurting yourself from cutting and it smells better with hair as they carry pheromones.

  • Some guys don't care. I'd say yes though.

  • The best answer here and to be honest, dont worry about it.
    Your boyfriend will be happy to be with you and have sex with you, so you might as well ask him, see how he feels about it and what he would like. The goal is to please him, right, so see what his preference is.
    Personally, I dont care, either way its good.

  • Bald, bald, bald. It's just better in every way. It's neater. It's cleaner. Allows him to actually see the goodies and to not a giant bush. Keeps hair out of his mouth.

  • Each guy has his preference. Ask him how does he prefer it.

  • My wife and i dont shave like we used too, and the sex has never been better. If you have been dating for a long time it shouldn't matter to him. I know American guys like shaved. make sure to at least trim it.

  • Most guys don't care. My personal opinion, I prefer shaved but if not, it isn't going to stop me from wanting to continue. And if he thinks you aren't good enough, you shouldn't be having sex with him anyway. Don't worry too much about it. Just have fun and enjoy it.

  • Shave it

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