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Do boners hurt if they're there for too long?

My boyfriend and I were fooling around yesterday, and I was being intentionally difficult. He was practically begging me to get him off, which is very entertaining for me and the whole reason I wasn't giving him what he wanted right away lol. Anyway, I wasn't trying to be mean or anything so when he got a little upset saying that it was starting to hurt I felt really bad. Do guys dicks hurt if they're hard for too long? I thought boners were supposed to feel good. Is that the same as blue balls? I'm still not sure if blue balls is a real thing... I would ask him these things but I didn't want to bring it up if I really had hurt him :(
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  • Got to say the closest reality to blue balls is when all his boys are crowded, packed in down there and can't get loose, then one of them grows hard & large enough to crowd everyone into pain, even blood restriction.

    Out in the open, anyone would beg for an orgasm if teased enough, gal or guy. That's not going to put a strain on anything much less create blue balls. But that's not your scenario.

    Summary:
    In his tight pants, maybe true
    Out in the open unrestricted, probably a sales pitch asking for mercy

  • Having a hard cock isn't going to hurt him unless he has it for a few hours. If you're endlessly teasing him and not allowing him to cum, then he's likely going to resent that and become bitchy about it. If he gets close to cumming and you prevent him from cumming, that's even worse. Always be prepared to eagerly and enthusiastically complete what you start. If you're going to get him hard, be prepared to swallow a load of cum.

    • I had every intention of finishing him off (and I did) because I know how frustrating it is for someone to get you going and not finish the job.

    • you are perfect in playing dick.

  • Haha I do the same!
    but yes it can hurt if it's been for too long and it isn't the exact same as blue balls but blue balls is caused by it if there's no release after a while which can be uncomfortable sometimes painful, especially if its restricted to tighter clothing.

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  • Yes, they do. And so do blue balls.
    A guy doesn't have to get off every time he is hard, but if he is kept hard, it can get painful after a while, and if a guy is teased constantly, but not allowed to cum, tension builds up, and blue balls can REALLY hurt.
    Even after you cum you feel sore and achy.

    But it isn't some terrible pain, and it passes fairly quickly. It's not like you damaged him.

  • Some guys experience blue balls and others don't. They can be extremely painful. An erection by itself can actually lead to permanent damage if it is erect for too long, so naturally that can be painful. That is why commercials for those pills tell men to seek out medical treatment if they last for too long. It will be different for every single guy as to how long until something becomes painful.

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  • It's like blue balls. If the dick gets hard for too long and he's SUPER turned on then he gotta cum or else it will hurt afterwards !

  • I'd assume it's like any form of arousal. When you've been teased for some time and cannot get off, it becomes like a throbbing sensation, that will not go away.

    • if its go quite a long dick would ejaculate automatically, the holding a cum and not letting it out can be tough but never be painful.

  • Yes they can hurt... it's tied to the "blue balls" issue.

  • Yes and it actually makes my balls and stomach hurt too. Blue balls is real.

  • My boner never hurt, but my balls would feel really heavy and actually ache (blue balls) so much that I had to get off just to relieve the achiness.

  • Blue balls are like a cramping stomach. It actually hurts inside your stomach, and not your testicles.

    • Well technically it's the lower belly that hurts. It's just that you guys have such strange name for that region.

  • yes it does get uncomfortable. when it get to that point i usually just walk away. i no longer play those games.

  • Yes its good to tease but not for too long

  • Having a boner for too long is called "priapism" and can actually be a medical emergancy, no joke.
    Most cases are just annoying but blue balls does ache and our balls can hurt if we are aroused for a while and there is no release.

  • For sure and it can become permanent unless they receive sexual aid!

  • Yes it aches and the erection hurts and blu balls is real yup

  • Ehh I wouldn't say painful but they can get uncomfortable yes lol.

    • I don't understand that lol. What's so uncomfortable about it? I was under the impression that boners always felt good

    • Well sure they do for a while but if it's like that for a long time it tends to become uncomfortable especially if it's bending or at an odd angle or something.

  • If it's real long and you never cum it can. But I like being teased. It feels good to me.

  • Yes definitely. I've had them in class with my skinny jeans and with little room to stretch, it can ache after a while in the same position.

    • Is that just because it's being restricted though?

    • Yup, if I was wearing looser pants it probably wouldn't hurt as bad, but I've still had them hurt even in looser pants too. Keep in mind an erection involves blood flow and the muscles in the penis just get tired after a while I think.

    • penises do not have muscle, but spongy tissues.

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  • You are sooo bad, you enjoy inflicting pain? lol
    They dont really hurt, sometimes but it can feel uncomfortable.

    • Lol I don't enjoy inflicting pain! I do enjoy denying pleasure though 😈😈

    • Thats what I meant too lol. You are one awesome girl haha

  • Not if the boners happen naturally. "What has gone up will come down". A willing hand will always solve any problem of this kind.
    They're only dangerous when it's priapism: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Priapism

    This can happen from cockrings or pills.

  • Depends on what you're wearing

  • According to my fiance they can hurt after a little while

  • They can get uncomfortable, maybe some numbness and burning irritation of the skin especially around the parts where the foreskin is the thinnest.
    I don't know about just being hard for too long, but it certainly happens if the fucking session is too long.

  • Yes, they do.

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