Is slut shaming wrong?

Anonymous
I use to slut shame. Not go out of my way to call a promiscuous woman a slut, but would just look down on them. I considered the unclean and loose. I think after being in the military surrounded by guys, I have changed. I listen to the guys brag about cheating, sleeping around, and slut shaming women who engaged in sex. I started to think, I am being unfair. Why do I down these women when all these men do the same and get rewarded? Why am I making these girls feel bad about their sexuality?

I don't think anyone should sleep around male or female but I can't call a woman a slut anymore. I feel bad. Some of these girls are sweet and are just experimenting at a young age. If men don't get shamed, I refuse to shame another woman.

I think it also makes it hard for women to be in touch with their sexuality because they are always afraid of being called a slut. For example, I don't sleep around. I am actually engaged but I am still scared to share my sexual desires with my fiance because I fear he will think I am a slut. I have always fantasized about threesome with 2 or 3 guys but I won't date tell him because I am afraid of what he will think. We are both conservative. I have never even had an orgasm. Is it because I am afraid of being in touch with my sexuality? I am 31 years old. Sometimes I think maybe I should have experimented in my 20s, instead of being a good girl. Maybe I'd have an orgasm.

Anyways back to slut shaming. Any other people start thinking slut shaming is wrong?
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My definition of slut_ a person who sleeps with so many people in a short period of time they wouldn't be able to identify the father of pregnant. Or someone who has slept with 50% of the people you know. I still think it's careless and dangerous but it's their choice and I have no right to force my opinions on them. Afterall it isn't my life that's affected.
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A woman having sex doesn't make her a slut in my opinion. Women have sexual needs and will have sex. I looked down on those who had no standards and just slept with any and everything.
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