I accidentally said "I love you" to him during sex... Is he never going to talk to me again?

[LaBoheme099]

We've been hooking up for a few months now, every few weeks. We r 21. There is no question that I caught feelings for him, but its because I love how he does sex and nothing to do with him. Last night he was on top of me and it felt sooo goooood, and he whispered in my ear he loved my pussy, and I was going to say I love how you do... But I quietly breathed out out (... Maybe he didn't hear?) "I love you" and I DID NOT mean to!!! Fml. I don't want him to think I'm obsessed with him and whatever. But I don't want to bring it up now... I'd rather forget it happened.

[redeyemindtricks]

Y'all both WANT to say it so bad.

Y'all both so afraid to say it. So fucking afraid.

What are you scared of?

He WOULD NOT start with "I love yr ______" unless his heart was telling him to say "I love you", and he was just chickening out on you.
Nope.
Wouldn't do it.
There's a thousand million zillion other ways to do that.
"Yr ____ is so fucking hot"
"I want yr _____ so bad"
"God damn yr ______"
"Yr _____ drives me crazy"
Etc.

If he starts with "I love...", then, he wants to say it.

CALL HIM on that shit, girl.

Just go straight for it. When he's about to finish, next time -- when he's about to cum -- look him STRAIGHT IN THE EYES, and say to him, in the loudest whisper you can manage:
"Tell me."

Wrap yr legs all the way around him. Pull him INTO you. All of him, into all of you.
"Tell me."

He should get the message.

You can hit him with "tell me you love me" if you HAVE to... but, you shouldn't have to.

Make him say it while he's cumming, and looking right square into yr eyes. That's the only way, is to go all the way with it.

Fuck yeah.

<3

[LaBoheme099]

I adore this. Thank you

[redeyemindtricks]

Hah girl, I like it every bit as much as you do. Fact, I'm kinda hot now, just from writing that... ah fuck. <3 I mean, as much as I love the go-big-or-go-home approach... you CAN take some baby-steps toward it, if you need to. Eye contact is a big thing. Do you HOLD his eye contact before you kiss him? Can you stare him down as you wrap a hand behind his head and pull his mouth into yours? It's VERY hard for men to lie with their eyes. If he throws that gaze back at you, there's definitely SOMETHING there. Also... right before he's about to start fucking you... especially if yr in the missionary position, just pull his head down close to yours -- so that you're breathing on each other's lips, not quite kissing -- and, pull him right up between yr legs, about to enter you... and then whisper to him: "Make love to me." Ahhh fuck so hot. Yr goal is to fuck those feelings right into that boy's brain... and look him right in the eyes, as you

[redeyemindtricks]

watch it happen. This is NOT the time to be deferential, or shy, or any of that shit. Fuck, no. This is the time to be an irresistible seductress, who makes him want to MAKE LOVE... to you. And fuck the hell out of you, too. You should make that eye contact again with him, while he's fucking you. When you do, YOU should be the one who's absolutely sure, and confident, and almost cocky. The uncertainty should be in HIS eyes. That's how you win this game. Because, no matter what he says, he's gna WANT that. He won't be able to stop thinking about that. Hell no he won't. If you really, REALLY get into this, you could even throw a different dare at him, when he's about to finish. Again, wrap yr legs around him, and pull him into you... into yr life. And dare him: "Tell me you DON'T love me." Dare him. Then stare that boy the fuck down. Even in a worst case scenario -- where he can look you right in the eyes and say "I don't love you" -- you

[redeyemindtricks]

can absolutely still have one hell of a satisfying fuck... and then you can throw him away, if you want, without investing yrself in him any further.

But... yeah, I don't think that's what will happen.

I think he'll make love to you.

Make love.
To you.

And then he'll suddenly realize that "just sex" is really fucking boring.
Compared to making love.
To YOU.

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[LaBoheme099]

That was amazing and gave me full fire to go all out. Thank you 😊. i won't see him for a couple weeks though :(

[guyngals]

redeyemindtricks is terrifying. In exactly the right way.

[redeyemindtricks]

Hah, well, good. Come back to this thread and read it every damn day. Mb even read some biographies of Mata Hari, for some extra inspiration. That girl was bad-ASSSSSS <3 If you aren't used to the whole eye-contact thing, then, you'll probably have to visualize it a bunch of times before it even feels natural to try it... and then you'll have to try it a bunch of times, before it feels natural to DO it. If you live in a big city with sidewalks full of people, you might even go out for some "target practice". Just pick random boys, meet their gaze, and stare them down. Play a game with yourself, and award yourself points if they break the stare before you do. Unlock extra achievements for smirking, laughing a little, etc... or for thinking about how you could SO totally own their heart and soul, if you even wanted to. Girl power is so totally a thing. What boys need their fists to do, we can just do with our eyes. <3 Try it you'll like it.

[redeyemindtricks]

@guyngals hahah I will take that as a compliment. <3 mwahhh dude -- so there's this movie Pleasantville, which starts out in black-and-white, but then splotches of color start to appear whenever something imperfect happens (crime, passion, betrayal etc). It's a pretty cool piece of cinematography. Back in the day, I liked to be the girl who'd meet some little shit who saw women in black-and-white -- some little shit who was admittedly hot, but who needed his ego brought down a peg or two -- and splash some color right across that boy's world. It was fun, to find these boys who were used to fucking women and then discarding them... and to make them FEEL things. because then the scared little boy inside would come right out. I suppose that's the kind of terrifying yr talking about? lol

[guyngals]

You sound like you don't have a drop of fear in you. That couldn't be sexier. Women can convey as much strength as a roaring lion in a raised eyebrow, a shot glance or by pulling a man further inside her. I've never been with a woman who had no fear, but it's now a new goal in life. girlsaskguys, eh?

[redeyemindtricks]

@guyngals "You sound like you don't have a drop of fear in you. That couldn't be sexier." Hah... well, i mean, let's see what's on the checklist: [√] gotten through confusing sexual identity crisis as a tween-ager [√] survived crazy manic depression... by just diving into both of those things (yep, including the depression) full-on [√] buried a couple of high-school friends... wished it were me instead, more than once... looked death in the eye and not so afraid of it anymore [√] achieved a level of self-awareness that's downright painful at times [√] moved across the world to where I knew no one and didn't speak the language, and handled mah business [√] basically stopped giving a fuck, a long time before I met mah love What's left to be afraid of? I mean... I have my moments, dude. Confession moment: Even after 16 years of complete trust, when I wake up and the other side of the bed's empty, I still worry that it's all gone. Stupid shit, huh.

[guyngals]

You know perfectly well what a woman is and what she's capable of and what you're capable of. Hats off to you. And if the bed is ever empty, you'll have a thousand amazed men hoping to fill it again. For the right woman, I'll try to be a man without fear. She'll deserve nothing less.

[redeyemindtricks]

@guyngals
Ya's 2 kind, breddah

Yeah ok, #narcissismmoment yo:
I kinda take a certain amount of pleasure -- ok, lots of pleasure -- in noticing how fascinated some boys here are with me, considering I'm absolutely EVERYTHING they supposedly hate.

I mean... I'm forward, blunt, sarcastic, competitive, business-minded, and... more than a bit slutty, underneath that deceptive basic-bourgeois-bitch exterior of mine. And wealth and status actually turn me off, lol.

So... more of these boys SHOULD hate me. Right?
Esp because some of the girls here think I'm even worth emulating (... God forbid, lol). Like, I'm a subversive influence, and shit.
lol

but... NOPE. big box of nope. They luv me. haha I'm "terrifying... in all the right ways" (that's CUTE OMG)

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I'd suggest that a lot of these boys should tone down the rhetoric, a bit, and admit what REALLY turns them on. Grudgingly or otherwise.

[guyngals]

From what I've read... you're nothing I supposedly or actually hate, you have the exact type of ballsiness, guts and spunk that all the women I've ever loved had. I'd be surprised if there isn't a trail of lovelorn men wherever you go, on realizing that you're married or they have no chance. There's probably a redeyemndtricks anonymous society for those who're recovering from the effects of your terrifying energy and femininity.

[redeyemindtricks]

@guyngals ahhaah oh come ON now, people only butta me up like this when they want somethin' from me... ahahah
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but... you do have a point, which is that boys tend to fall HARD for women who can toy and tease the shit out of them, and who are... uh, more directly challenging than most. Even if it's just the eye-contact games.

Some boys mistakenly refer to these women as "bitchy", but, like Marilyn said
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Bitchy is a real thing, of course, but that's a totally different animal.

__

I mean, I think my favorite haha-irony is when boys on here just rrrrrrip into women who say "I'm tired of the bad boys, I want a nice guy"... but then try to extol the virtues of shy, retiring, demure, eyes-always-looking-at-the-fucking-ground girls.

Don't they realize the hypocrisy? Those girls are THEIR "nice girl" Plan B, if girls like me have shredded their ego one too many times.

[redeyemindtricks]

@guyngals by the way -- you wrote "From what I've read... you're nothing I supposedly or actually hate, you have the exact type of ballsiness, guts and spunk that all the women I've ever loved had." This is probably a difficult request... but, can you describe what's going through yr head (and heart) when you've encountered such a woman? Like, what does that particular brand of falling-in-love FEEL like? If you can put a finger on it? Is it... scary? Inspiring? What does she make you feel, that other women don't? I really want to get a better feel for the male side of this equation. Because I know that the usual party line, about "fragile egos" and all that, is bullshit here -- if that were the case, you'd just turn tail and run. If you can provide any insight here that'd be most awesome.

[guyngals]

First, I don't want anything from you. We live in different continents for a start, you're married for another, we've never met for a further. But pointing out something I can like from this distance, is fine. All the women I've ever really fallen in love with were (and the current one is) highly competent in several areas (some or all of: academic work, music, cooking to an elite level, multilingual, artistic, etc.). None was particularly good-looking, though none off-putting. A 6 or 7 as they say on here. In all cases it wasn't mainly sexual, it was almost spiritual. It wasn't rational or functional, i. e., I didn't get anything practical about being with such talented and energetic women, such as material comfort or anything. The explanation must be evolutionary or something, like why many women like muscular chests or whatever. They just do and their man's upper body strength will make no practical difference. It was very exciting and stretched me. If I had been with them for

[guyngals]

longer, I would have turned to thinking about some aspects of them that I didn't like, but it remained more or less at infatuation. In only one of the cases was it really reciprocated. They each helped me understand what "being a man" is all about because, for all their supreme ability, they left room for me. Whether because they wanted to humor me or whether they really did "need a man", I don't know. I've noticed similar in some of your posts: while you sound like you could handle an invading army without much help from any goddam man, thank you very much, you obviously relish having a deep relationship and you're secure enough to allow a man a major role in your life. Something similar happened to me in one of the cases, not in another and sorta in another. So, being with such a woman and falling in love with her is extremely exciting, it leaves me wondering why she's bothering, it's not even slightly intimidating and it could not be more exciting. The thing is to get her

[guyngals]

energy, ferocity and mind mainly zapping your enemies and problems and not you. Which, unless she is a bitch, she will. PS: Of course, one shouldn't get dizzy or carried away. Nobody is immune from fear or insecurity or doubts. If your husband had to get up in the middle of the night, ideally he would still have the presence of mind to leave a note on his pillow for you to read "conveying" - not saying - that he knows you still wonder when you see his side of the bed empty, but he's there in spirit and will be there in person that very afternoon to stare you back into bed.

[redeyemindtricks]

@guyngals Thank you for that very thoughtful and thorough answer. (The disclaimer in the front was hilarious, by the way.) Oh, also, my husband and I are on different sleep schedules, so, the bed is normally empty when I wake up. LOL Probably should've provided more context on that one.

[guyngals]

Well, if your wisdom is set out in, say, a handy cut-out-and-keep autobiography, set of youtube videos, work of fiction, etc., please point me in the right direction. You're the best thing I've found on the internet since an outstanding book on drawing two months ago. I hope you're not a bot.

[redeyemindtricks]

@guyngals Dude, if I was a bot, that would make me SO MUCH MORE AWESOME YO

[guyngals]

You could sell yourself to google for a figure with lots and lots of zeros. Anyway, after all the shit you've crawled through, I'm glad you seem to be happy and flourishing.

[redeyemindtricks]

@guyngals lol you callin' me a ho

[guyngals]

I'm going to set aside time this weekend to read all your posts I can find. It has been a discovery. If you hadn't said you liked me after I commented that I love watching women put on makeup, I'd never have followed you and I'd never have got hooked. Do women such as you offer straightforward hugs and know why they're extremely necessary?

[redeyemindtricks]

@guyngals... because I have big artificial tits that are at eye level?

[guyngals]

Do you? Fascinating. I mean a fully-dressed, her-wearing-a-big-woollen-jersey type hug. In silence for an twenty minutes, just hugging. Total bliss.

[redeyemindtricks]

@guyngals well, if you are following me, you can find 'em all. I looked and... uh I've written three thousand opinions lolllll omg read away! yeah, I'm 6'2" and i have a penchant for wearing ≈6" heels pretty much everywhere in the world except the gym, and I had the top half of mah hourglass professionally installed 12 years ago... best decision of m'life gotta run rn

[guyngals]

You should be in the Navy SEALs or something, zapping bad guys. A machine gun in each breast, killing ISIS or somebody. As I sais, terrifying... in all the right ways.

[redeyemindtricks]

@guyngals haha

[Paris13]

Don't Overthink anything at the moment, @LaBoheme099 for if he has Not Whispered anything in your Ear, Dear, to This as being a Sore Subject Then.. He may Have not Heard or was too Horny to care.
Let it alone, keep Going and Flowing. And if this 'Subject' is ever Broached, then Approach it Like... We r 21 and Mature enough to Handle anything with kid's gloves.
Good luck. xx

[LaBoheme099]

Thank you (:

[Paris13]

Oh, so welcome, sweetie. xxoo

[browny-sy]

@Paris13 expert

[Paris13]

@browny-sy Thank you so much, and wish GAG could see this as another level after "Master."xxoo

[browny-sy]

@Paris13 I wish that I like ur experience in the life bon courage

[Paris13]

@browny-sy Thank you so much and would never trade it for anything in the world. xxoo

[Becky01]

If it comes up you could just say you only got part of the message out before your brain was totaly ocupied by what he was dooing and the signal to your mouth dropped out

[LaBoheme099]

solid^

[Anonymous]

You've been having sex for MONTHS, it may just as well be a magic dick for all I know but chances are, you two really do have feelings for each other. I highly doubt that at the heat of the moment, blurring out an "I love you" would make him think you're obsessed with him.
Besides, this whole "I love you" thing is now blown way out of proportion.
It's ok for us to have sex but if someone says "I love you" it's the equivalent of a crime?

[LaBoheme099]

But over months.. Like only 4 times total because it's been hard to schedule since we live an hour apart and are busy. But you're right!😌 I don't feel that bad about it anymore :b

[raio81597]

I know what that means, it means you love the way he makes you feel. Let him decide what it means if he brings it up, then explain what it means when a girl says that.

[LaBoheme099]

Yeah!! Exactly !

[raio81597]

Yay I win!! :)

[truthbeknown]

It should be ok. During that time is it normal to say things that we would normally not during other times, like dirty talk. Just tell him to not freak out because you were caught up in the mood. To make things even better just tell him you couldn't help it because he was fucking you so good!

[JuicyBrain]

LOL Poor girl. I think you are taking this too seriously. It's just funny. Relax. We all know that what we say during sex shouldn't be taken too seriously. If you never said it outside of sex, you're ok. If the subject arise, just tell the truth. It came out by accident. That's all. Don't panic...

[NJ_Casanova]

It happens... what is said during sex shouldn't be taken seriously.

[redeyemindtricks]

Bull-fucking-shit. To put it politely. What's said **during seduction**, yeah, sure. In the heat of it, though? That's pretty much impossible to fake. I mean, if a boy is approaching an orgasm, there are basically 2 possibilities: 1) Lying would ruin the orgasm, because... uh, yeah, awkwardness. 2) He's amoral/psychopathic enough that he could just toss out lies without affecting the orgasm at all. But, then... why would he bother, then? I mean, he's already fucking the girl, so there's nothing to be gained thereby. so yeah I'm just gna come out and say this: If a boy is saying things during sex, AND IS OBVIOUSLY TURNED ON BY SAYING THEM... then it's IMPOSSIBLE for those things to be totally lies, emotionally speaking. No way. In fact, if I wanted to expose the true feelings of some dude who fancies himself a player, I'd bring him right to the edge of orgasm... and keep him there, until all the relevant confessions had been elicited.

[ThisDudeHere]

Well some men who want casual and only casual may be weirded out by it. But it's not a guarantee.

[LaBoheme099]

He didn't seem to act differently the remainder of the sex.. Good sign?

[ThisDudeHere]

... probably.

[abundantlyrich]

just say you really have love for his magic stick

[pretty-girl94]

he's going to talk to you regardless of whether he heard you or not. You are supplying what he wants after all.

[This_is_my_username]

Well if you don't love him its not a problem if you do then... Yeah you got a problem..

[LaBoheme099]

Lol I have no idea, don't ask me 🙈

[This_is_my_username]

@asker Alright. If he acted normal after sex then that is a good sign. Or maybe he didn't hear it. Or MAYBE he heard it and decided, " Sa'll right."

[LaBoheme099]

Good point.. All possible.. 🤔 !

[LaBoheme099]

I hope he thinks it sall right 😌

[This_is_my_username]

@Asker me too!!! :)

[CoolSky01]

i like how every one on this site fucks for fun likes its nothing , where do you find such peopel?

[LaBoheme099]

Tinder

[CoolSky01]

well i did find a chick on tinder but iam not sure she is looking for sex , well see what happens.

[Anonymous]

Just act like nothing happened and when he brings it up in s negative way, say you meant to say that other thing but lost your breath half way through. It's not that weird to get caught up in the moment and say stupid stuff during sex.

[Anonymous]

If you say something without thinking about it, your subconscious mind takes over and you normally say the truth and how you really feel ;-)

[LaBoheme099]

Lolol I won't argue

[Opinion Owner]

I think you should try what @redeyemindtricks said, it would be such a beautifull way to tell/ask him. If he's really into you, he will love it ;-)

[LaBoheme099]

I think so too. (:

[Anonymous]

How can you have sex with a guy who you don't have feelings for 😔

[ThisDudeHere]

They're just having casual sex. Nothing wrong with that.

[LaBoheme099]

Well how does he have sex with me without having feelings? I'm trying to suppress my feelings because he doesn't seem to have any

[ThisDudeHere]

Men can easily have sex with no feelings whatsoever.

[Opinion Owner]

Not necessarily, guys do sex for sex 😏

[LaBoheme099]

@ThisDudeHere I like your username

[LaBoheme099]

@ThisDudeHere and yeah that's what this is I guess. I waaaaaant to try more but nooo life can't be that easy