Can I fool around with a guy without having sex?

I'm still a virgin but I love hooking up, giving blowjobs, and fooling around. But I want to save my first time for a serious relationship. Is this contradictory of me? Would it really be that disappointing if a hookup led to a bj instead of sex? Especially after he gets really hard. I managed to really confuse a guy recently
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Honestly that's what I've been looking for is a girl that wants to fool around on occasion but not have sex tho. So in my opinion I think it's perfectly fine as long as you both agree and set those boundaries because in my opinion I'm fine with just eating a girl out and her giving me head long as we both get to finish then there's nothing wrong with it. Just my opinion, need a girl like you out here in AZ where I'm stationed haha

  • It all depends on how well you manage expectations. If he knows going it that cumming in your mouth is all there is for now and he wants that, then you're off to the races. However, based on what I see here on GAG, the general expectation is sex.

Most Helpful Girls

  • So long as you tell the guy in advance that you're going to do oral with him and not intercourse, you should be okay. Personally I think oral is pretty darn good. Please be sure to enjoy swallowing and then to lick and suck his cock clean because that's the best part.

  • You can but you are also getting into a very dangerous place if your idea is to keep his penis out of your pussy. A tremendous amount of hormone changes and brain thoughts wander when you get really turned on.

    • dangerous? dafuq? care to explain?

    • I think she's saying it can be hard to remember to say no... amirite?

    • @mikemx55 I pretty much did explain if you read my entire opinion!

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  • Well sure you can. Most guys love blowjobs, some even more than actual sex and fooling around. I see nothing contradictory about it.

  • I've never met a man yet, who didn't absolutley love to sit back and enjoy my oral ministrations.

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  • You should be clear with a guy about the limits of what you will and won't do before you get him aroused.

  • if it's a really fantastic blowjob, no. It wouldn't be at all disappointing for a hookup. In fact, it might even be preferred in some cases, because there's no expectation for the guy to get you off, which alleviates some pressures to perform.

  • everything but sex sure. pun intended

  • Of course there's lots to do without having sex.

  • He's confused because most girls who give blowjobs also have sex. You just need to make it clear as to why you have those limits. That's why there's confusion.

    If I got a blowjob I would assume the girl is not a virgin, because she's going this far with me

  • ya just done blue ball, but giving HJs and BJs is great

  • not if you get him off but some guys take longer than others

  • I am a virgin to but word love you to give me a bj

  • You could have him eat you out till you cum and still would be cool... I think so.

  • If you tell the guy when things start getting spicy that you aren't going to have sex that the most he'll get is a bj then fine.

  • I would settle for a bj

  • Lol oral sex is still a form of sex. You're "loophole slutty" lol

  • Depends how good you are at sucking cock

  • I don't think it's contradictory.

    In principle i don't think it's disappointing for a hookup. But dashed expectations are always disappointing. So maybe drop hints earlier you won't have sex, but if he plays his cards right he might have a good time. He'll get what that means, and then be happy with a bj.