Why don't I cum when I have sex or do sexual things with guys?

Anonymous
I'm 21. Lost my virginity a year ago to my (then) boyfriend. He sucked at sex and was on so much Xanax that I was rarely even turned on. Then, the past few months I've been continuously hooking up with this other guy (4 times total) and he's super hot, knows how to have sex, etc... But I never cum when I'm with him. I cum when I masturbate, in under a minute. But with him, no matter how turned on I am or wet... I just never "lose" myself and actually cum.. Vagunally or clitorily. Is it because I'm thinking too much?
Even with others guys in the past, other than sex I've let dudes finger me and whatnot.. But I never could climax then either. It's like I can only do it to myself lmao.

Also.. Can he tell? I'm super wet and I make pleasurable sounds.. I don't want to discourage him by never cumming.
Why don't I cum when I have sex or do sexual things with guys?
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