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Are you ashamed of your body count?

A lot of people think that when getting with someone new it's rude for said person to ask how many sexual partners they've had. I think STD/HIV status is most important but a few friends of mine got offended about the question and said they would lie if/whenever asked. Why be ashamed of a high body count? I mean you know what you're doing when you had sex (unless it wasn't consensual). I'm curious as to why people sleep around so much then feel bad about the number of people they've slept with. If you don't feel bad about your body count then that's great! I love when people own their shit. For the others who do, why do you feel bad about it and why lie about it?
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  • I dont have a body count yet.

    I think they lie because they know the person might lose interest if they know the truth.

    Personally I dont think Id ask but its not because I dont care about their past. I do care but I know its pointless to ask because they will just say whatever they think I want to hear. Plus asking would just bring the drama of them being offended by the question. I believe Im better off using my gut instinct and assigning a sexual past to them based on: how they look, how they dress, who they hang out with, whether or not they have a reputation, whether or not their parents are still together, whether or not they drink/do drugs and how frequently, intelligence, and whether they are introverted/extroverted.

    in my opinion the most promiscuous girls are in the 4-6 range of attractiveness, I have even seen a study that came to that conclusion. Beautiful girls tend to have lower partner counts. It makes sense when you think about how players tend to lower their standards and sleep with less attractive girls to get easy sex. A lot of guys would rather get easy sex from a 6 than jump through hoops to get laid with an 8.

    So if I look for beautiful girls who are intelligent, introverted, don't drink, and have parents that have not been divorced I think its unlikely that they will have a number over 5.

    Based on those factors I think I can get a decent idea of what their past is like without ever asking them or offending them. If it turns out Im wrong, I dont really want to find out. Ignorance as bliss, I just need to believe its low.

  • I'm not ashamed of my body count. I did what I did because I wanted, so I have zero reasons to feel ashamed.
    I don't know why people would have sex with lots of people and then feel ashamed :/

    • Thanks for the MHO

Most Helpful Girls

  • I'm not ashamed since they were life experiences, so now I know more about myself and what I want.

    I've told my boyfriend I've had this one STD vaccination. I forget the name of it though I had 3 shots for it at different times. Along with also being tested for any kind of STD which before meeting up physically I told him I will go for another test just to make sure the first didn't miss anything. I also told him I wanted him to do it just for safety measures.

    Plus I've done more exploring of my physical body with my current boyfriend than I did with any others.

  • Honestly don't care about a person's body count, as long as they don't have any STI's it is all fine. You could get an STI even though you've only slept with one person so, sleeping with many people doesn't make one dirty.
    As for girls, some guys just get turned off if she's slept with a lot of guys, which is honestly so hypocritical because most of them think its cool when the guy's slept with a lot of girls.
    But anyhow, people at university don't seem to care as much about body count though when it comes to how many the girl's slept with.

    • For some guys it's not about STDs.

    • I know, but they often makes the assumption that they are dirty

    • Yeah it's usually a question of principle and her morals when it comes to guys. They assume she's a slut with no self worth.

  • STD/HIV status has nothing to do with number of partners. You can get STDs and HIV from your first sexual encounter. You only increase your odds of getting them if you have more sexual partners. Just like you increase odds of getting into a car accident if you travel by car more often than someone else...

    • Most guys don't really care about the STDs cause a lot of people getting into serious relationships get tested anyway.

    • I think it's more to do with just that, the number of guys she's been with.

  • Not at all I'm 38 & have slept with 3 partners in 20 years

    • Thanks

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  • I find it silly to be ashamed of your body count because it's nobody's business how many people you've had sex with. I also HATE this prudish culture in which we live where having a high body count is equated with being a bad person or something like that. It's just unnecessary and absurd. People should stop caring what other people think of them and they should also stop judging other people for their body count.

    In my personal case, I've only had one sex partner so far (who I'm still dating and probably getting married to). For being 27 years old, I'd say that's a pretty low number.
    I don't feel ashamed of this number because I don't care much what other people think about it but I do wish I could have experimented a little more. Especially because I will probably marry my girlfriend and plan to spend the rest of my life with her, I wish I could have had sex with 2-3 other girls... just to experience what it's like. It does scare me a little to think that I might only have sex with one single person for my whole life.

    • Oh yes and I totally agree with @TadCurious. Americans tend to think that STDs and being promiscuous are directly related but that is of course not true. It's a myth that has to do with America's puritan history and culture and not with actual biology. When you look at the mathematical probability of getting an STD, it doesn't matter if you've had sex with 3 people or with 30. What matters is if you're a careful person. Somebody who doesn't use protection and has had sex with 3 people is more likely to get an STD than somebody who only does safe sex and has had sex with 30 or 40 people.

  • Body count matters but to some extend. Triple digit is crazy so if you are where of course you need to think seriously about it. But if it is reasonable I think nothing bad about it. Past is in the past move on. I have 2 I am ashamed of but i learned my lessons

  • When it comes to sexual history, don't ask, don't tell. When it comes to sexual health, demand we both get tested and exchange the paperwork results.

  • I don't lie. If someone has a reason for asking (like, if we started dating and they're planning on fucking me lol) then I have no problem giving an honest answer. I don't know why women lie about it, since men rarely feel the need to.

    Something about societal standards for women makes them feel they're less pure, or that men won't want them if they've had several partners. It's bizarre to me.

    • Soooo... how many? ;P

    • @Noxifer626 15. Lol

    • That's a lot but not as many as I expected, haha.

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  • No.. . I'm not

  • Its because their are many many negative ramifications for promiscuity and guys while beign willing to have sex with a promiscuis woman are far less likely to want a long term relationship with one. Hence women lying about it because they know that their will be conseqeunces and they wish to avoid that.

    • I guess that's kind of true.

  • My body count? As in just confirmed or confirmed and probable? Jk nvm. I like how you worded it. I couldn't resist.

    • Probable? So too drunk to remember exactly? :D

    • @frozenhorizon well not exactly. I don't drink lol.

  • My bodycount doesn't even exist lol

  • i hear "body count" and i think you killed people :o

    • Lmao that's hilarious.

  • I’m a little ashamed of my body count of 1 😂😂😂

  • I don't think it's anything people should feel ashamed about. But at the same time I think it's bad form to ask a new partner/boyfriend/girlfriend what there sexual history is. What is legitimate to ask is if they are STD-free. But you don't need to do an inquisition about things that are in the past. It's pointless.

    • Good answer!

  • want to no my body count zero the big 0 lol but i do have a boyfriend and we do plan to do stuff later we are both still have are V card lol

  • I’ll have you know I graduated top of my class in the SAS, and I’ve been involved in numerous secret raids on Al-Quaeda, and I have over 300 confirmed kills.
    Nothing to be ashamed of ;)

  • No I do not. I've met a lot of great women over the years and had a lot of fun. Why be ashamed of it? I'm in a committed relationship now, but that doesn't change my past. I have loved, and have been loved, I have had some great one night stands, and some not so great ones. I've had three ways four ways and have done sexual acts on stage and in front of the camera. The collection of people who have seen me naked is probably pretty great, and I hope everyone of them enjoyed it. Besides there's nothing you can do about the past, so why fret it? So no, I don't regret it.

  • I do think it's a rude question. Being offended doesn't mean ur ashamed. If someone asked me how much money I had I wouldn't answer cos it's rude not cos I'm ashamed.

    If people do feel ashamed maybe it's becuase of judgement from other people. Just becuase you know what ur doing doesn't mean you can't regret it. People often do things for short term gratification and then regret them.

    • But why do you think it's rude? How is it different from asking an intimate question such as "what's your big wish in life?" or "How did you feel when you're dog died last year?" or something like that? I think people believe it to be rude because society tells them it's rude. Especially in America but sometimes here in Europe as well, we're brought up to think that sex is a taboo topic, which is of course complete bullshit. Especially women are told by society that having a high number is bad, which is even bigger bullshit. In my opinion, we should all stop caring about these stupid societal pressures and just be a little more easy-going about these things. I don't think it's rude to ask this question for the very reason that there is no wrong answer. It doesn't matter whether you've had sex with 1 or 100 people. Having a high body count doesn't make you a bad person.

  • No lol
    Only been with one person. Kind of hard to be ashamed of that.

  • Because there is something called sexual economics. Women supply what men crave.

    By admitting as a woman that you have a high body-count you admit you have lowered you standards.

  • I don't feel ashamed of it, but I do wish it was higher

  • There's not really anything I can do about it right now and I don't care what other people think of me so I'm not ashamed of it

  • Uh, body count generally refers to how many people have been killed

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