I dont want to have sex when my period is heavy and my boyfriend gets mad at me?

[Anonymous]

So i don't like having sex the first 2 or 3 days of my period because it's really heavy so i like to wait when im barely bleeding. And my boyfriend gets really mad at me because im denying him sex but for those 2 or 3 days i'll give him blow jobs all the time. In the car, while he's watching porn, whenever i see him get a certain look in his eyes i go down on him. But he still gets mad because i dont want to have sex and he'll call me the worst girlfriend he's ever had and say that his other girlfriends never did this to him and it really hurts my feelings and i dont know what to do :(

[AndyOh]

I say you need to dump this a-hole, and find a guy that would appreciate a girl like you in their life. He obviously has no respect of for you or your feelings and you Deserve Better.
If he can't sit tight for a couple of days while you are on your period and he treats you like that... I wonder how he will be if you are pregnant, or injured, or sick? Think about that.

[Tdieseler]

Hmm... most guys don't even like to have sex when they hear "period"...
calling you the worst girlfriend is a bit over the top for that though. you gotta look into that. thats a sign of potential cheating.

[redeyemindtricks]

'most guys don't even like to have sex when they hear "period"...' ^^ Not my experience at all. Just grab a couple extra towels, toss 'em on the bed, and that's always been more than enough for 90% of dudes, in my experience at least. And, I mean, it's even pre-lubed (thwoop!) Maybe you and/or yr friends have just come across some women who've been particularly self-conscious about THEIR periods... and THAT, unfortunately, set the tone. I think that must be it, actually. It must just be the girl's attitude that drives most of this, and the guys just follow along with that. Because my personal data set says that AT MOST 10 percent of men would be turned off by period sex, and it's probably more like 5 percent.

[Tdieseler]

@redeyemindtricks I said... "most"

[redeyemindtricks]

yah, that's what I'm saying NOPE yr saying it's most, I'm saying it's 5 percent. I mean, I've been with more guys than you have... at least I think I have? hahahah

[Tdieseler]

@redeyemindtricks meh... you never know... i might have been with more guys than you have :) lol... don't you think 5% is a bit little... i know guys lie and many say they won't... but i know from personal experience that when that feeling hits... there's no holding back... and like you said... its already "lubricated"... ok.. lets say maybe a good 30% won't. and this is counting other countries where they don't exactly have douches for prep.

[redeyemindtricks]

Hah never used a douche in m'life, sweets.

[Tdieseler]

@redeyemindtricks i don't know if that scares or interests me...

[redeyemindtricks]

Just tampons and pads. Shouldn't be terribly scary or interesting, tbh. Douches disturb the pH balance down there, ultimately making it a LESS salubrious -- and, in all likelihood, smellier -- environment. Paying tomorrow's dollar for today's penny. I mean, this is pretty well known to today's young'uns. In America, I don't think you'll find too many regular douche users, outside the front-row-seats-for-Barry-Manilow set (and those with special gynecological conditions). I bet a lot of women your age don't even know what a douche *is*, anymore.

[Tdieseler]

@redeyemindtricks or maybe the products got better...

[ninetynine]

I couldn't put up with that. He sounds selfish and manipulative.

[NYkid27]

I think you should dump him. If he cared about you he'd never pressure you to have sex

[Humping_Tornadoes]

That's pretty shitty. He could easily wait the first three or couple of days, you are not even denying sex the whole time which is very cool. He's being selfish and he's being an asshole by comparing you to past gf's. That's never a fair thing to do.

[chnapo]

He does not know the value of what he gets from you. I had a good girlfriend but if only she gave me one BJ/HJ during her period, I would be sooo grateful, but simply it did not happen more than once a year. I get so angry when somebody has so nice girl like you, willing to make him happy and he does not value it.

[sicosico]

Try calming him down, a handjob or a blowjob