Hey babe, take a walk on the wild side. If I were with a girl, I would be more annoyed at the idea that I wasn't getting her wet enough, that she was not enjoying it so much that I would risk tearing her up if I tried anything. Remember that sex is fun. It's fun it's freaky it's dirty it's naughty it's personal and it's just you and your partner alone wherever you choose to have your fun. You should try focusing on turning yourself on. Figuring out which kinks you prefer, dive in and induldge your fantasies, both classic and twisted. watch some porn. Read erotica. Talk to him about what turns him on, or try to think about the kinds of things that turn him on- and then figure out what turns you one about doing them. Then when you do those things, you won't just be turning him on, you'll also turn yourself on because of what you like about doing it
0 1 0 0I understand you caring about how he feels, but you're overthinking it and, dare I say it, creating a bigger problem. How can you get wet if you're worrying that much? How can he enjoy it when he knows you're worrying about it?
I think we women do this a lot - making everything our fault. It is what it is, if you can't fix it, then you work with it. If he had to wear a condom, would you also make it your fault because of the possibility of getting pregnant? Because I doubt you would blame him for ejaculating...
It's a couple's thing and you deal with it together.0 0 0 0My ex and I used to use different lubes we liked all the time just for fun. Luckily both of us responded well to the warming and tingling kinds, and also played with different flavors.
So it doesn't have to seem like a disruption - it can be part of foreplay.0 0 0 0
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If we're being honest?
I am sure he would rather not do it. Same goes for me and most men. Lube is fun as an extra, not as fun as a necessity. That's the brutal reality. But it is more like going to the bathroom sometime before. It isn't something you necessarily want to do but it isn't that much of a hassle either. Depending on how you do it. Don't make it a problem and it won't really be one to him either.
Now the second reality that is more important is that he doesn't really mind. The main issue Id imagine most guys would have is the haunting question of whether or not you not being dripping wet is because he is somehow not turning you on.0 1 0 0Not annoying, but I could imagine as a young man feeling badly that I wasn't able to get her natural lubrication to be sufficient. As I have gotten older, though, so have the women that are my partners. Usually as a woman gets older, lube is needed more and more. Now, we need to use lube every time unless I go down on her first, and occasionally even when I do.
The only time it is a negative for me is when she reaches for the lube instead of asking me to go down on her.0 0 0 0
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1 16Lube is ALWAYS good... especially when using it avoids a potentially painful event. sure, there is like a time gap where everything has to pause and its applied but thats like a drop in pleasurable pond. thats why he said its not a problem. he has two good reasons... lube is added pleasure... and you don't get hurt.
0 0 0 0I don't find lube annoying. However, natural vaginal lube is arousing than lube, in my opinion. Vaginal wetness signifies she is on heat.
0 0 0 0Why not just apply it yourself? Try that a few times and see if he still isn't "in the mood." Although, I doubt something like applying lubricant would bother most men.
0 0 0 0Not at all... I think lube adds a lot to intercourse. Keep using it as it should make the experience better for both of you and should help you orgasm more. How often do you two have sex now?
0 0 0 0If she could produce enough natural lube but is still getting aroused/wants sex... I wouldn't have problems with using lube.
0 0 0 0I would be concerned that I'm not actually turning her on. I would be thinking maybe see really doesn't want to have sex with me?
Do you do plenty of foreplay? Oral on both the male and female can help this.
0 1 0 0It's his responsibility to help you to be comfortable, so why should he complain? Does he go down on you, because that might improve the dryness problem. Also, did the dr. Do a good workup on you? How're your hormone levels?
1 0 0 0Yes, it would be annoying, since I am so orally fixated, but comfort must come first. I guess I'd have to use flavored lube. :-)
0 1 0 0You are not healthy enough to have sex naturally thus your Vagina does not produces enough natural lube.. Making it dry!.. Your man needs to do a lot of foreplay to make you enough wet to fuck you..
0 0 0 0Tell him to get you wet, forplay is your friend
0 0 0 0you could try stimulating yourself with a toy before jumping right into it, Or spend longer on foreplay. but as for the lube question it really doesn't bother us, sex is sexy.
0 0 0 0whats the big deal wow. use it.
tip, use water based ones0 0 0 0Not big deal. Why don't you keep it there before you start? Let him feel everything is already lube down there.
0 0 0 0We use lube every time. We don't need to but she finds sex more comfortable with lube so I happily lube up for her
0 0 0 0So you are still as aroused as ever, just don't produce as much lubrication?
That would be fine.
If i felt you weren't as into it, it would dampen my enthusiasm somewhat.0 0 0 0Lube has always been a necessity for me to avoid soreness. i take a long time and have a lot of girth.
0 0 0 0use for play or u put the lube on him
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