How do I tell my boyfriend I have a daddy/little kink?

[Hayah18]

Okay so my boyfriend and I are kind of a odd couple? We are both 18 and we have our own place together but the thing is. I've been with a lot of people I'm the only one he's been with. So obviously he's not very, ehh, open minded? It doesn't help that he doesn't use the internet AT ALL so he's tottaly out of the loop on basically everything, BDSM mainly. He didn't even know of the "damn Daniel" thing until today. ANYWAYS. I have a hard core daddy kink. But I'm not sure how to bring it up to him, what to say, HOW THE HELL TO EXPLAIN IT. keep in mind, this is like trying to show a old person how to use a iphone. Help me. Guys. Help.

[kaylaS91]

Rather than springing 'daddy' on him mid-session without giving any sort of heads up beforehand, I'd suggest that you simply tell him that you found out about that kink a while ago, think it's really how and were wondering what he thought about it.

That's a perfect way to transition into explaining it to him perfectly, and hopefully he'll be okay with participating in it, at least a bit.
That's how I did it with my boyfriend and it seemed to work quite well. He was also more on the vanilla/conservative side but I figured I didn't have much to lose...
Her embraced it pretty quick, so maybe that'll be the case with your guy as well.

[broadsword]

Start by saying how you feel rather than trying explain to him what you want him to do and say.
Tell him you like to feel cared for you like to feel dominated. Particularly in bed. If your naughty you want him to tell you of keep you in control.
How sexy you'd feel if he held you down or even tied your hands together.
Start slowly but iam high

[JC103]

Is he a alpha? Does he have dominate traits? Do you know how to train a Dom?

[Hayah18]

Kind of, yes, and for the most part I do.

[JC103]

I think you should train him but don't let him know

[Hayah18]

Now getting him to do it without him being aware I wouldn't know how to do. Easing peope into things isn't one of my talents.

[JC103]

Could I give you some pointers?

[Hayah18]

Of course

[JC103]

What do you call your master?

[JC103]

Or better yet what does he like to be called?

[Hayah18]

He hasn't gave me any hints as to what he might like being called. But he's very into the whole egotistical dirty talk (saying his whatever is great and blah blah the ego boost thing ) but thats about as far as he's gone with anything like that.

[JC103]

So no daddy or sir?

[JC103]

What's your favorite name

[Hayah18]

Well sir would work but I call all guys sir, and Daddy is my fav but I don't think he will take to that one. I called him My Thane once becouse of skyrim and I think he actually got kind amped up about it. He's all into mid evil times and stuff.

[JC103]

I've always like dominus but try out a few names or just say his name.

[JC103]

Also, are you more brat or good girl?

[Hayah18]

Good girl :)

[JC103]

Have you ever ask if you've been a good girl?

[Hayah18]

Yes, I did a few days ago

[JC103]

And what was his reaction towards it?

[Hayah18]

He said I'm always a good girl. Rather vague responce.

[JC103]

Then tell him "I like it when you say I'm a good girl"

[Hayah18]

I did, he seemed a bit perked up about that.

[JC103]

The long way is to teach him but if I may, just sit him down and tell him, the guy obviously loves you

[Hayah18]

He does love me, more than anyone ever had before. He's just. So. Innocent and it killllls me. He understands BDSM, But I have a feeling he will think like some of the other guys on this post and assume since it's called daddy kink it must have some level of pedophilia. I'm not Into the age play version of this, but I still don't think he would inderstand.

[JC103]

Then don't refer it to that title. Like I said before everyone thinks they know but they don't know

[JC103]

Thank you thank you

[ThisDudeHere]

Being alpha and also being "trained" to be dominant sounds like a contradiction.

[Mesonfielde]

Well it would help if you dated someone who enjoyed pretending to be your father even if he isn't. I agree with your boyfriend though, I see no appeal in incest.

[Hayah18]

It's only a incest thing if you make it one, I don't like the age play. I like the style of Dom/ Sub roles daddy and littles have. Also in my herritage imparticular men call there wife's Mami in a sexually form, so the word daddy doesn't necessarily mean like litteral father figure.

[Mesonfielde]

That's why "dad" means. It's another word for "father". You know, the guy who gets laid with your mother and then you are born and then they raise you for years while you can't sustain yourself in society. That's what "dad" means, and it is not surprising that your boyfriend doesn't see you as someone he was and will be raising for years like some 18 year old toddler. I wonder if this kink is also inverse pedophilia.

[Hayah18]

Not really? The word daddy doesn't even really have to be used. Daddy kink is a certiant kind of BDSM. Daddy kink is when the Dom takes on more of a caring role, vs other styles of BDSM. I'm assuming it's called daddy kink becouse the Dom takes on a very care giving type role? I'm not sure. Calling the Dom daddy is a very optional thing. Calling him daddy is honestly lowest on my list of what I'm trying to get here. It's the style of BDSM more so. I'm nuteral on the name calling thing.

[Princess-izzy]

You have to understand it's not you if that's what she likes it's what she likes don't kink shame just cause you don't understand it

[Mesonfielde]

Incest fantasy is still weird a f

[rjroy3]

Try calling him daddy flirtatiously and sit on his lap, before kissing him when you get a chance. If he responds positively you're good to go. If he asks why you called him daddy or is weird about it, just say the idea just sounds really hot to you.
That's the time to have the conversation, not in the bedroom lol

[Anonymous]

Easy just say to him, do you have any kinks? Let him reveal his own kinks first, that way he probably won't react as bad, then ask him "so, would you pretend to be a paedophile for me?"

[Hayah18]

I really done understand why everyone thinks it's a age play thing. Tumblr ruins everything I swear.

[Anonymous]

Try calling him Daddy to see how he reacts , doesn't seem put off , take it further , and further and further.
Let the corruption begin.

[Hayah18]

He always said he thought it was weird when girls called there boyfriend's daddy, but we were talking about sugar daddies at that time. I called him daddy in a joking matter the other day (thought doing it silly like would be better the first time would be better) and he asked me if I was feeling okay.-.

[Opinion Owner]

Guess he's just too vanilla for it. For now.