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How can girls get head without giving it?

I am SICK of being obligated to orally pleasure a male. Seeing men say: "I don't do that (give women head)", and yet getting head themselves is really insane. How do they do that? Sex is not about calculation and how much should I give if that person gave me that much? How do men get away with that stuff? Being absolutely selfish and getting everything in return? Here is how: because they know that women themselves have accepted that they are obligated to give oral. There is nothing worse than defending females from sexual exploatation and then THEY are the ones who dissmiss your help. Men and society don't seem to be bothered by this problem. Nobody is judging the selfish males. Well, guess what? I am sick of being expected to do something I don't want to. I have been giving oral sex to males for year and I always hated it! Luckily, I have realized that I am the master of my life and I can do whatever I want with myself and I don't have to do nothing that I hate. I want to be a selfish female! I know that I will be judged, I know that I will be hated and critisized on this ridiculous site, but you have no idea how great it feels to finally be able to do what I want and be who I am! One thing is for sure: NOBODY can make me do the thing I don't want to! Maybe I can't motivate guys to give me oral sex, but I sure won't be giving ANY! However, I was being convinced over the years that there are many things I can't do being a girl, and NONE of them were true!
You are a gorgeous girl. If anybody can get away with it, it's you! You don't have to say anything, just let him pleasure you, and don't do it in return. They won't even mind, they'll be happy that they got to pleasure you!
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Tell them you give head, let them go down on you first, then don't return the favor. Even if they leave and never call again, it was a one night stand anyway!
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So I KNOW for sure that there is a way to get oral and not have to give it (just like men do!) ;) There is always a way! I am just asking which one is the easiest! It's important to mention that I do 90% of the time one night stands, which is easier, because if I get oral one night and not give it, it's not like that person is in a toxic relationship where they don't get anything... Also, do you think it would be good to tell that I do give head and that the guy give
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How can girls get head without giving it? The same way guys get head without giving it! #simpleaf
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Most Helpful Guys

  • You are so right. No judging or disagreement here.
    I think so far you've just been very unlucky with the choice of guy.
    I suspect their all your age and very immature about sex. So the only pleasure that is important is their own.

    It's my hope that the right guy can pull you back from the brink of thinking all guys are the same and you do truly end up hating giving Oral yourself because it is a real wonderful way to be pleasured by a woman that wants to give it , is enthusiastic and enjoys herself.

    Me personally I have never understood what this type of guy is thinking.
    Giving head to a woman is one of the greatest pleasures in life.
    When she opens her thighs offering you the chance to explore her most intimate sexual core. For me it's like an honour, this woman wants me so much she's giving herself to me. The site of a woman open legged is one of the most erotic visions. Then the scent of a woman , her own unique natural scent she has coming from between her legs is just wonderful. It's a sad fact that most women have been indoctrinated by maternal figures within their families and the pharmaceutical industry. That they smell down there and its dirty. Well iam here to tell you nothing more could be far from the truth.
    Fresh but not just washed aroused vaginas scent is the most intoxicating thing known to man. It's why after guys finger their women they keep smelling their hands for hours. It just turns you on so much.
    This is actually surpassed by the exquisite taste as a woman gets wetter creating more vagina lube the flavour that this gives to you is aphrodisiac elixir. The more harder your work stimulating and pleasuring the woman the more she produces.

    The fell at that soft unique flesh on your tongue and lips is awesome warm wet and slippery sensual female flesh. What's amazing is how much you just immerse yourself in the pleasure of being given this awesome Privilge . She is wriggling writhing squirming and humping on your lips and tongue. Grabbing your hair and head pulling you into herself,
    Moaning and sighing at the pleasure your giving.

    When finally you allow her to orgasm be cause for me I don't want it to end. To feel a woman orgasm on your lips and tongue is so amazing it give an immense feeling of masculine pride. I get such a huge sexual high from it. The other thing I've nearly all ways found I like to do this as fore play. I need to know that my woman has been taken care of first ,

  • You answered your own question! I wouldn't add anything but what you said in A optiob!

    If nothing else, you won't get head, but the most important thing is that you don't "have to give it" anymore!

    Alllllthough, beinf a guy, I KNOW that there is no guy, ons OR boyfriend who wouldn't agree to give you head without getting it!

    • Wrong. I do give and not expect to get.

Most Helpful Girls

  • By getting with a guy who doesn't view sex as something to which the 'give and take' mentality shouldn't be held to too strongly.

    In my opinion, anything sexual should only be done if both partners genuinely want it. If they want to because they genuinely enjoy being able to bring such pleasure to their partner, not because they'd only do it under the condition that they get some in return.

  • You are sexy. Just push the lucky ons guy down and when you orgasm and are satisfied, don't give a fuck and act like everything is normal. Don't say anything and don't do anything. You can have intercourse if you want. Trust me, he won't mind. Plus if he asks you to return the favor just say you don't do it! And most importantly, dgaf!

    • I agree

  • If you don't want to give oral then dont give oral. Its not rocket science, any guy worth a damn will respect your wishes. there's no conspiracy involved where girls are forced to give oral, some of us do it because we genuinely enjoy it- or because we want to make our partner happy.

  • I believe in reciprocity. I actually enjoy going down on my guy. I don't hand out BJ's to any and all at parties bars etc but when I'm with a guy who wants it, I find out how much he wants it by his level of interest in my pleasure. If he doesn't care about my pleasure, buh-bye.

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  • YOU ARE WITH THE WRONG GUY!! Ditch him, and don't even think about it!!
    I am REALLY disappointed with you ladies, doing this 'equality' thing, so half-assed!!!
    Everyone of you seems so focused on the 'BRUTE FORCE ASSAULT' to get equal pay, and Equality!! Anyone think of reading Sun Tzu, and the Art of War. Apply it, and tell me how you really have the power, that you aren't using!!!
    All the AMAZING orgasms you want, are yours, if you understand, and apply this centuries old book, to your relationship, with men!! If you want it, learn it, and live it!!

  • You have a right to do what you want. I think most guys would love to give you oral. You telling a guy you don't like doing oral is keeping things real. It wouldn't be a deal breaker to me.

    • Thank you very much for the upvote.

    • 💋 ;)

    • 💋💋😘

  • Um... who the fuck said we're obligated to give head? I've literally NEVER in my life given a dude a blow job who hasn't given me oral in return or who I have an ongoing relationship with that includes him sometimes giving me oral and me sometimes giving him... why the fuck would anyone perform oral in a non-reciprocating relationship?

    • Exactly!!

  • Your problem is probably the guys you meet. The guys who'd have a one night stand or go out of their way to look for one are probably not very stand up guys. This isn't necessarily true of course, but of the people I know I'm not sure if I know a guy who wouldn't eat out a girl. Then again, the people I know, don't usually go for one night stands or at the very least don't go looking for them.

    Funny story, my housemate was once too drunk to get it up when he brought a girl home. When he was talking about it, he talked about eating her out and making out for hours. He's not the type of guy you'd see often in a club though.

    To answer your original question - make it an ultimatum for having sex at all. I don't know why you even need to ask, as a good looking girl, I'm sure plenty of guys would kill to sleep with you even if you set unreasonable rules.

    • Thank you so much! I was kinda down and honest comments like this made my day! I have two questions: 1) What exactly should I say before sex? How should the ultimatum look like? 2) Where to find those guys like your roommate? Cause it would be best to have a one night stand with a good guy. The thing is, good guys don't usually want one night stands and the ones that do are assholes, but how to make a good guy want a one night stand, and get oral without having to give it? Unfortunately, there are girls that make a man betray their families, and how can I, a attractive young single girl make an attractive young songle boy who is nice become a one night stand to me? Please answer! Thank you!

    • You're welcome. This comes as a bit of a surprise to me, to be honest. Most people I know would love to eat a girl out. There's 3 of us living in a house together, I don't think any one of us wouldn't do it. You could just ask the guy to give you oral as you're about to have sex. And if he declines then you decline sex too. Or at the very least, decline giving oral. I don't know why you're so hell bent on not giving any oral though, as long as it's reciprocated, I don't see the problem. You could say it before you even reach the point of sex, while you're still talking wherever it is you met. Some girls are more direct, some subtle. It's up to you how you do it. Where to find guys like us? Don't know really, there is no "guys who eat out girls" club or anything lol. Could do in a club still, but chances there are slimmer. Gym, dating apps, parks? I've met a lot of really cool guys since I started doing street workout / calisthenics. Not sure if there's a correlation.

    • P. S. Setting the ultimatum right as you're about to have sex is probably not the best idea. Sure, it will probably work as I doubt a guy would just leave, but they probably won't be in a good mood after you drop that bomb and might not give you the best oral ever :D On the other hand, asking if they're into it beforehand, as you meet them will make their expectations realistic. Would probably avoid wasting your time too.

  • I am sure you could but why? Why not find someone that is worth being with?
    any guy that says he doesn't eat pussy is either full of shit, or a virgin and afraid of doing it for some reason. even when I was young and just hit puberty I would fantasize about eating pussy. I would do it even if I didn't get a blow job... and have many times...

  • I don't blame you. Personally there is nothing I like more than giving an attractive girl head. From the cup your ass bring your pussy to my face like a chalice or sitting on my face grinding your pussy into it, I love it

  • I happily trade sex for a BJ.

  • I uh think you answered your own question why guys don't do it with this "I can do whatever I want with myself and I don't have to do nothing that I hate" and "Maybe I can't motivate guys to give me oral sex, but I sure won't be giving ANY!" the self-awareness is astounding.

  • I like to go down on women, a lot. I like getting head but don't expect it. A lot of guys do expect it or want it anyway.
    If you only do one night stands you are going to run up against an idiot who will demand it and maybe get rough, since testerone does get a guy riled up.
    But yea, do what you know is right. But don't hate men in general.

  • I honestly don't care if a dude doesn't go down on me, I would still go down on him happily.

  • I wouldn't tell a guy that I would after he does it to me when I know I wouldn't. It's just sinking down to their level. If you don't want to go down on a guy that won't return the favor then don't. Just be honest about your sexual expectations in the beginning.

  • So you only now realized that you weren't obligated to do it after a year (s?) of blowjobs?

  • The thing you realized that you shouldn't do the thing you hate and that you won't di it anymore i amazinf!!! If you get head, get it, if you don't then at least you didn't give ig

  • If you be a little convincing like asking in the middle of kissing, he'd probably agree to almost anything!! Lol

  • marry me. I will not rise from your crotch and you have to do nothing. let me get pleasure from pleasuring you.

  • u will get head cause u r sooo hot
    And u don't have to give it
    Awesome
    I am jelois

  • Tell him his penis is too small to suck and too small to satisfy.

  • Sex is all about partnership, it's about give and take. I admit a lot of guys are selfish in this department, and I don't know why. Many of my partners have been suprised at my love of giving oral, I could do it all day just for the reaction.

  • I don't think any girl who wants oral should ever give head first. Never ever. Just be sure you "set the table" in terms of hygiene and grooming.

  • I have the opposite problem of people wanting to GIVE me oral when I absolutely HATE it.

    Like, no one believes that not liking it is even possible, especially other girls.
    ie: I'm bi.

    • There lots of girls that don't like oral.

    • There are lots of other girls that don't like or would prefer not receiving oral.

    • @cavmanier Finally... some-one who realises this. TY XO!!!

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