How to ask a guy to hookup (again)?

[Anonymous]

I met a guy through online dating and we went out. At first i expected a real dating instead of hookup but things went wrong. I didn't really get his cue when he asked me to come to his place. We ended up hookup and cuddled during the night. The next morning he dropped me off at my place, and i kissed him. It's been two months since that night and i haven't seen him again. We texted several times but it was just: hey how are you blabla --he didn't ask me out again. I really wanna hookup with him again, but i guess i sent the wrong signal when i kissed him. Maybe he thought i wanted a serious relationship and he backed off. Now what should i do?

[canderson23445]

Well if a girl texted me one day.. "Hey, are you taken?"... and I respond "no" because there's no reason for me to lie. Then you ask "... want to... hang out... or something maybe ( add a smiley or wink face)" .. I would then automatically get clue that you want to hangout, get flirty, and possibly sleep together if it comes down to it. Communication is key. Humans don't read minds, you cannot expect nothing in this life and not one answer to happen without action. Speak, be comfortable, be normal, its not like we aren't all energetic 20 year olds who's hormones are through the roof soo your good. Just respect yourself and make sure he does to, besides that go get your friend w/ benefits ;p

[Asker]

Thanks for the answer! So what's the reason of a guy not asking me out again 😦 the last thing he said was: "i had a fun night." But then he haven't asked me out again. Is this how hookup works?

[canderson23445]

I would say don't assume anything you don't know. You never know someones situation, if there going through hard or busy times, or if they are simply not focused on that situation. Lets say he is single, then all you can do is simply ask to hang out with him again. Like I said, communication is key, you could ask him literally the same question you just asked me and he would answer it like a normal man and maybe even tell you the exact reason he never called you back. Which would be awesome if you got sex and the answer you've been looking for right? and maybe even more hookups. ;P

[Anonymous]

Well cuddling leads to kissing I don't think you did anything wrong.
It's normal to expect a relation with someone you've been touching or cuddling because there is attraction but some guys are fuckboys they want all the benefits of a relationship without having to commit.
It's a bad idea to go to his place as a first date so next time just see someone at a public place !

[Asker]

Hi thanks for the reply. I know, he is a fuckboy :( but i like him somehow. Ah this is killing me :( Anyway is there any chance i can message you through inbox or whatever private place. I want to ask more but im afraid of being too detail here and he can find this :(

[Opinion Owner]

sure you can ! just look up my nickname Sarahkf

[Asker]

I tried to message you but i couldnt find out how to do it. So i think ill just ask here. Actually there's one more thing: I am a virgin and that was my first hookup ever. At first we met at the bar then he asked to come over to his place. I didn't have any idea if this will lead to hookup. Since im a virgin, we didn't have sex (we tried but it hurt) so we ended up just did oral. Now that memory is lingering in my mind, because it was my first, and i just can't accept the fact that all he was trying to do just hookup and dissapear. I mean, my situation was different, that was my first and such a big deal for me. How mean is that if what he was trying to do was hookup and dissapear! Thats why i want to meet him again. Besides, i kinda like him actually cause he was so sweet that night, he didn't force me to do what i didn't want to do. so i hope we could have a chance to hangout normally. Do you think im just wasting my time? Argh it drives me crazy 😢😢

[Opinion Owner]

ah ok I see for a virgin girl your feelings are stronger and still pure. I think he's just so used to sex that he didn't really care about what you feel like he just wanted to get intimate. Glad he didn't rape you but hey he still had done something sexual with you. Sure it is your first one but you don't want to end up with a bad guy right? I'd personally move on and forget him really because it seems to as if he wasn't interested in meeting you as a person but just for the sex. You do want someone that loves you and won't hurt you? Well I don't think he is that guy for you.

[Anonymous]

Just text him and ask if he want to meet up again.

[Anonymous]

Say to let's hook up we are not complicated like women

[Anonymous]

Just text him want to fuck later?