Can someone explain why single mothers tend to have lower physical standards?

[Bandit74]

Most guys dont want to date a woman who is raising another guys kid. Guys with lots of options won't typically want to commit to a single mom so she can't easily attract the same guys she was able to prior to being a single mom. Unless maybe its just for sex, but for commited relationships those guys won't typically be interested in her.

Women in general tend to lower standards for relationship, regardless of whether or not they are simgle moms. Women hookup with men who are equally as attractive or better and often settle down with men who are less attractive than she is AND less attractive than the men she hooked up with.

While men often LOWER their standards on looks for casual sex, women can "play out of their league".

[GingerGuy]

I don't know if their "standards drop" so much as they become far less picky (some might view this as the same thing but I don't). Having a child forces them to not be so self absorbed anymore and they are forced to thing about others first usually (being their child). They are also likely older and having had a child also may "feel" less attractive. Plus it's true, a lot of guys don't want to date single mothers so they have to be less picky really (they at least have to consider a guy that's interested more then maybe they had to before because another might be a long time coming).

[kaylaS91]

The standards of single mothers 'drop' because the number of guys who are on the same level as them in terms of attractiveness and are still interested in pursuing them after they have children, drops.

[alice55]

She's not a 9, more like a 6 or 7.
They have lower physical standard cause there's a lot less men who are willing to date a woman who had a child (and that's totally logic).

[lovemxo]

Hot guys who can find women without children with ease will do exactly that.

[kbbroiler]

For ever kid she has drops her attractiveness. Plus including baby fathers same deal. Men do not want other men’s baggage. Let’s put it this way. If you had to put out your garbage every Tuesday plus all your neighbours every Tuesday, you’d be annoyed do this. I’m not saying kids are garbage but it is the unwanted labor of having to take care of a woman and he kids from other men. That involves money and security which men are tired of doing.

[rjroy3]

Because a guy that doesn't have as many options based on his looks is more likely to stick around. And because she is still really hot, it's pretty easy for her to get a guy that will help her. Assuming she's not a horrible human being. Most guys she used to date either aren't ready to settle down, don't want to or are not capable of being a good provider.

[FinalFantasyBro]

It like others stated usually most men isn't interested in single mom because they fear they would become a step father to this child. In order for the single moms to have any chance of finding a good guy, they tend to lower their standards to get seen as desirable in the dating market, also she is starting to realize there are far more important things instead of a romantic relationship like her new child she has to raise on her own.

[ModernDayCrusader]

You have to make 2 fall in love with you, the child and mother.
The single mother is looking for stability, love, and attention. Her child needs a male figure who is assertive yet not disrespectful.

Any guy willing to date a mother must know this. and most do, Handsome men are less willing to deal with that, when they can just get hot childless women.

[Anonymous]

Simply because the actual rating is out of 20 and you can get minus and bonus points for other traits than physical attractiveness.

Has a kid when he does not? -3 points.
And emh.. Well.. That explains it I guess?
Then there's the part where she starts awarding considerably more points to guys for having their life together, being good partners and so on.

[truthhammer]

because they come with high risk to.

they cost more, their kid is number one not you... theyre bound by set backs of raising a child... which in tern effects you.

they are looking for a surrogate father and rbeadwinner or someone that can financialy help.

you have to deal with her baby daddy allthe time and get remined of their past,

chance of your heart breaking the juice being worth the squeeze are slim

[MrNameless]

Physical appearance matters much less the older you get. More younger and attractive men are less likely to settle. When it comes down to it, a single mom is gonna want a responsible and financially stable partner that can help raise her child.

[Anonymous]

because they aren't looking for fun anymore, they are looking for a person who will support them, and the child, and not leave.
And so some poor beta bastard jumps to the chance, because he is lonely and desperate, and will never get 1/10th the amount of sex she gave away for free, despite doing three things no guy before him ever did: pay her bills, raise her kid, and love her.

[Anonymous]

Because having another man's kid is a big knockdown of her attractiveness. She is finding her new level.

"From hence, ye beauties, undeceived,
Know, one false step is ne’er retrieved,
And be with caution bold.
Not all that tempts your wandering eyes
And heedless hearts, is lawful prize;
Nor all that glisters, gold."

[Mesonfielde]

Because they need someone who can provide them with money and delegate responsibilities to, because raising a kid alone is hell. In fact, it's hell even with just two people. I wonder how we ever survived as a species.

[MrShinyPants]

Usually because they are less focused on looka and more attracted to quality and character and loyalty and dependability.

[Anonymous]

Because there are now more important considerations than having arm candy.

Dating guys "outside her range?" LOL She's got a kid now. Her "range" changed dramatically!

[Decentguy]

because they need someone to support her children, and provide food and can pay bills, in short they need a supporting husband.

[Negrodamuss]

because those are the only guys willing to choose her. That's why

[aficionado]

Because most men just don't want to date single moms. Too much drama, and the child's dad usually gets involved and it gets messy.

[DeltaRoss]

because there forced to date older guys that want a family and not younger guys that want fun.

[Sabretooth]

money, SHE finds him attractive, or she simply doesn't wanna be alone... hope it's b... the other reasons'll screw you over.

[Anonymous]

I thought this one is obvious: her dating value drops a LOT when she has a kid. Is there something I'm missing here?

[BellePepper]

Maybe they're looking for personality first and looks second?

[KieranConnelly1987]

Because she’s looking for a provider/companion desperately that will accept her (used goods) and her spawn (child).