I love my girlfriend, but I really want to sleep with other women. What should I do?

whiteGuy29
Me (29) Her (27)

Just wondering. We have been together for almost 2 years now, and living together over 1 year. I love her a lot and I do find her attractive, but I just can't stop thinking about other women. I really just want to have sex with another woman here and there. I know that is terrible, and I try to stop myself from thinking this but I can't. I see beautiful women everywhere, and I just can't help myself. I have not cheated on her though, and don't plan too, but...

I have thought about opening up our relationship, but I'm not sure if I could handle her sleeping with other guys. I wouldn't mind women though, she is bi. I know that is hypocritical, but maybe I would be ok with another guy as long as I didn't know about it and she was safe. I don't know. But it seems fair if I slept with other women. But if we do that shouldn't we just leave each other? Are we just scared?

I am just really confused, I could see us together forever and having kids, but at the same time, I can also see a life without her. I am just afraid I would miss her. Our sex has dwindled and it just makes me want other women even more. She is on anti depressants and it has made her a better person, but she can't cum while on the medication, and it takes the fun out of sex.

She has talked about threesomes, and swinging before, but it was all just talk. Maybe being able to watch her with another woman would fill that hole, but I would also feel like she is getting to sleep with other people but I don't. What the fuck do I do? Can I make this work, or am I just delaying the inevitable?
I love my girlfriend, but I really want to sleep with other women. What should I do?
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