Why are submissive women so angry and bitter all time?

[Anonymous]

I've noticed it a lot. Girls who are sexually submissive would be more angry and irritated than girls who are not. They'd be much relaxed and happy My ex girlfriend was very submmisive and had fetishes related with rape, getting choked and being spit on and she used to be really angry and bitter all time. She actually broke up with me because she thought I was cheating on her lol and I've shared same experiences with most submissive girls. They are often more irritated and angry than non sub ones? My current girlfriend is a dom, she don't have any weird fetishes but likes being on top and stuff like that. She's more understanding , relaxed and happy. Why is it like that? Is it because most submissive women likes to be like that on so they feel like they getting punished or something like that?

[kat_gran]

This is actually a really good question! and I think a very fair one.
I would say I was DEFINITELY the submissive girl and I can tell you that I was/am definitely feisty and ready to bite your head off should you poke me.

But to be honest, I do not know why we are like that... I think it is a sort of repressed anger - because we are not 'allowed' to be our true selves and have to repress it, that anger or those feelings need to come out somewhere else. So while we are all calm and "submissive", when you poke at us, we bark and bite. Sort of like chihuahuas, and because we want to keep our peace, anyone who disturbs it will lead to us over reacting and being angry. To be honest with you, I really do not know the answer to this question, I think a psychologist can better answer it but I def do think that it has to do with being submissive that is not our natural nature (therefore it is a sort of oppression and repression from our family members and/or society) Most countries are still very male dominated cultures.

I have to say that after moving from the country where I lived and my parents house to study, I discovered a whole other role of women and female empowerment. Also, in my last relationship, I was both sub (bedroom) and dom (outside of bedroom)... After it ended, I learnt so much and how important it is for women to JUST BE THEMSELVES and stop being so defined by society and its standards... It really affects many women and makes them so conscious! When women get to be their true selves (like men are), you see they are just comfortable being who they are and take this into other areas of their lives, going after what they want.. Sex, love, work, etc.

I really do not know the real reason or answer to this question but I do hope I was able to provide some light. I def do think it has to do with being repressed and not able to be themselves that this anger and bitterness sips out somewhere else...

[kat_gran]

I also see it now in myself, that I am cool and chill and very few things actually phase me... And I would say that I am not submissive anymore and less dom out of the bedroom and more dom in the bedroom. Im now more focused on pleasing me rather than worry what everybody else things.

[nalaa]

Well I don't know about sex but my grandma and her sister grew up when being socially submissive was the only option for women.
And they are mad and angry as well. And if you care to listen long enough you'll hear that actually they're not mad at you for traveling and not having kids yet, they're mad at the world because it was a chance that was denied to to them

So I don't know, maybe that somehow relates to sex. Missed opportunities

[Asker]

Mad at world for what? She's 18 lol Of course she have chance to be sub or Dom lol just like my current gf?

[Curiousness23]

I think i am pretty submissive, i am not bitter lol more like a happy puppy lmao, i am actually too nice and people take advantage of me and the girls i know who're submissive are pretty bright an joyful so i don't think it's true ♥

[Asker]

Lol happy puppy haha. So how you feel about people taking advantage of u?

[Curiousness23]

Well that's not great because i get hurt for being nice, well i am pretty sensitive so maybe i should stop being a puppy >...<

[Asker]

Lol it hurt so does it effect your trust issues with people at first time?

[Curiousness23]

What you mean? i don't really understand well i don't really have confidence but i don't really understand your question

[Asker]

Like people hurting u? Do u have Hard time trusting people cos of that?

[Curiousness23]

Well I think so, it's like i am very open and bright and i really wanna go for it but at the same time i am shy i sense that barrier or like i feel people are really hostile or not trustworthy like i cannot look in their eyes and be like, you... i trust u, there are really few people that i trust i have also that personality where i don't wanna bother i never wanna annoy etc... so i mostly try to deal with all my issues alone etc... i dunno it's really weird haha

[Asker]

I can tell , well you shouldn't feel like that because not everyone is same in worl d. Life is too short to not trust, sometimes you just gootta let go

[BuchitaBuchys]

I don't know how you can make such conclusions from 2 examples.
And I'm more dom, but really bitter and angry haha

[Asker]

Lol I actually did a little thing on fetlife that encouraged this. Really? What makes you think that?

[BuchitaBuchys]

Because I'm a bitter sour apple

[Asker]

Lol ok Troll.

[BuchitaBuchys]

I'm not trolling, I'm a fairly bitter person. Misanthrope

[frozenhorizon]

In my experience that's true too, and it does seem like girls who are more depressed and bitter tend to be submissive more than ones who are happy, although I don't have any data to back it up. But speculating, maybe it's because they more often have self worth issues, confidence issues, etc.

[Asker]

Yea I am talking about real deep submissive ones

[AustinMan]

I think your generalization is invalid. Sounds to me like you're attracted to bitter subbies. I haven't found what you say to be true at all.

[Asker]

? Hmm My current girlfriend is dom? Lol

[AustinMan]

Enjoy if that's your thing.

[tinyclit]

Personally I think you've got it all wrong. I'm submissive and I'm not angry. It's only the silly anonymous questions here that irritate me...

[Asker]

Lol funny how you guys are just proving me right?

[musicbrain5]

Those are only two examples though. I doubt there is a correlation between moodiness and being submissive.

[Asker]

I've actually noticed it more though , Dom women would be more cockier and relaxed

[musicbrain5]

Well it seems that natural dommes are more cocky/confident overall, but it's all part of their personality. It doesn't mean that more submissive girls are shy or bitter or anything like that though. What about girls who are switches? I don't think this is as cut and dry as you think it is.

[Asker]

Yea lol I actually did one survey thing on fetlife and they addmited it themselves they like to behave bad so they feel subconsciously they need to be punished. And there's no thing as switch, I think it's just dom or sub ready to experiment because sometimes people they like have different taste

[musicbrain5]

Well the people who post on Fetlife are usually super into BDSM so they'll do anything to set the mood for sex the way they like it. Fetlife is only a microcosm of our society at best so I don't think it's the best source of information on this. I've considered myself to be a switch but really, I have no desire to be dominated or to dominate. I just want sex.

[Asker]

No lol they are super honest actually. It might be weird but you can get banned for being perv there too against someone will lol.

[musicbrain5]

They might be super honest but it is still only a microcosm of society at large. They don't represent everybody on the planet in terms of sexual behaviour. It's the kind of site that attracts people who are super honest about their sex lives.

[Asker]

Yea that's why it made me wonder sice they admitted it themselves

[Mustachekitteh]

Repressed emotions?

[Asker]

Like they have hard time because they feel like they are repressed?

[Mustachekitteh]

More like they don't know who to express their emotions. So it makes them angry and bitter.

[Asker]

Probably lol

[SarahsSummer]

Aside from the over generalization of your headline, All I see here is that the submissive girls you've been with, didn't appreciate your level of domination.

[Asker]

So they were bitter because I wasn't dominant enough? Lol Also I am not sub neither so me and girlfriend switch a lot but she don't act like that?

[SarahsSummer]

Not necessarily.

[Asker]

What? Lol I am same around both and actually did little survey question thing on fetlife where submissive women admitted they are like that because they subconsciously feel need to be punished?

[LaFemmeFatale]

Probably because the most of the girls who are submissive are full of complexes and issues.

[Asker]

Probably. I am talking about deep subs

[DianeDuffus]

Interesting observation considering that when asked if they were submissive the vast majority of girls on this website said they were

[Asker]

Lol I didn't asked it here, I asked on fetlife. I don't know about girls on here, joined week ago but yea most girls are I think

[archiz]

Because of non sense questions like this 😂

[archiz]

Nonsense**

[Asker]

Lol if you are sub, this just proved my point. I am just trying to figure out something lol thnx

[aliceinwonderland69]

I don't think you can extrapolate from two examples.

[Asker]

I've actually noticed it in more than just one case

[aliceinwonderland69]

I read a study somewhere that said sexually submissive women were more outgoing and confident but I can't remember where I saw it.

[Asker]

Lol actually Google shows otherwise, Google it

[Tomboy_Cool]

Don't make a conclusion out of 2 examples

[CasaNorba]

your points are pretty contradicting. my ex was pretty bitter and angry all the time too, and during sex she never mind being on top or being in control either so I guess this means she was not submissive. maybe is the things you do outside the bedroom that gives them reasons to feel angry and bitter all the time

[Asker]

Lol I am same and haven't changed on or off the bed? Howz that contradicting lol?

[rose004b]

That's an opinion based solely on personal experience (which necessarily subjective).

[rose004b]

*which is

[GreatnessRevamped]

In your case, are you that dominant?
Opposites work together, so if she's submissive, you have to be dominant and in control.
Maybe your current, being more dominant, is more a fit for you.
Also, most women have weird fetishes.

[Asker]

I am not Dom or sub lol I can play along with anything just nothing to deep

[GreatnessRevamped]

That's the prob. You have to be naturally dominate, not just using it when you need it like that.

[Asker]

But I am not sub neither lol we switch lot like I did in last relationship but my current girlfriend doesn't act like that

[GreatnessRevamped]

I still think it was just a bad matchup in your past gfs, think not of it. I know some subs who are very happy.

[blondfrog]

They have to act tough on someone.

[Twolips]

Not true

[Asker]

Are you sub or Dom?

[Anonymous]

stereotype

[Anonymous]

I mean, my experience says the same but it isn't as if I've been around enough to have a satisfactory sample size t o make the claim. Nor did I present my past partners with a suitable questionnaire.

Honestly in my case I think it boils down to the fact that I tend to get very bored with overly submissive women and that obviously has an impact on the relationship as a whole.

[Anonymous]

Why is it a troll here? Stereotype

[Asker]

It's not?

[Opinion Owner]

That's not true at all

[Anonymous]

Because of jealousy?

[Anonymous]

I always avoided submissive girls. I don't like their "rape, getting choked and being spit on" side.

[Asker]

Lol those are weird fetishes... yeah