Hmmm I don't think you should ever have sex with someone as a 'favour'. If you aren't really into it, it's not going to be great for you, and it'll spoil it for the other person too.
The fact that he had long term feelings for you complicates things even more.
But that's all happened now;:
You could give him a chance-but that could easily make things worse if you don't see him that way
OR
You can just try to maintain your friendship and keep talking to/texting him. Be persistent even if he isn't replying much; he's probably embarrassed by his rejection, scared that you view him differently no, finding the situation awkward, and still hurting because, well, he's had feelings for a long time.
Eventually he'll find it less awkward and hopeful everything will be alright!
I take it he's not a prospect for boyfriend long term?
I always saw him as a friend, as a brother. I thought he saw me as a sister too, didn't realize he liked me long ago before it happened.
Sorry. Sometimes we just miss the cues.
it's over.
Your confidence is staggering.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!That is because women like to think they have men "friends". Men and women are not "friends" they are only "friendly". if both of you are single, and you offer sex, he will definatly take you up on it. "friends" don't fuck each other unless your married.
So once women finally accept that if your straight, and you have a straight guy in your posse, he is not your friend... then you won't have revelations like this.
Haha that's really not true for everyone...
@frozenhorizon That is true for 99.99999999999999999999999% of all straight males.
Among my friends it's not the norm. I guess we're weird though. Although yeah, if there is mutual attraction and they're both single then they'll probably become more than friends, but if those conditions aren't met they can be friends.
You cannot change the fact that it happened, so it’s understandable to be scared.
You can, however, be mature about it and accept that it happened and just not bring it up. I’ve been in this situation and it took sitting down and talking about it, agreeing it didn’t have to be awkward, and that was that.
There’s all the horror stories of people whose friendships it ruined, but there’s also stories where the friendship was strengthened (and some where it lead to something more)
Thank you for posting this. Yet another example of how realistic it is for women and men to be "just friends".
I was just trying to help him with his ''virginity issue' and how he wanted to see what it was like having sex.
Which means that you were not "just" friends. There is always something more in it. If you were "just friends" he most likely would have said or should have said "No I don't want this with you because we're friends and nothing more than that."
Yes men think exactly like women he feels used.
Hmm... Depends. Was it his butthole virginity?
He was really a virgin and the only thing he did was kissed a date once (a date that only lasted two weeks).
So it was not his butthole virginity and was just normal sex? So to be clear, nothing was inserted into this young man's anus?
yes, it was regular sex. Since he was new to it, we've done both missionary position and cowgirl for that day.
only way to know is by talking to him
I'm trying but he's now being distant.
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