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Dominant guys, please open up. What is inside the mind of a dominant man?

One of the best examples I found was, It's a sickness. No, the word is insufficient; it's a disease, a malady, an affliction, a blight. There's fire in my skin and I'm alive only as I burn, and the heat rises up to engulf me and purge conscious thought. It's stepping back into an older world, another life, where before I had civility and reason I had this gnawing want and this irresistible compulsion to satisfy primal needs. I want to reach out and ruin something beautiful so no one else can ever have it the same way I did. I want something, firm or brittle, that breaks when I grasp it and flows around me, desperately borrowing my own strength and rebuilding itself with pieces of me in ways I'm pleased by. I want to own something, in such a terrible and absolute way that it can't be undone. A buzzing in my intoxicated, fire-seared brain, electricity that arcs down my spine and sets my hair to rising, tingling in my fingertips that leads to aggressive sparks with every grab and caress. I want to mark and scar and bruise and bite, I want to growl and shake and push and strike, I want to cover and fill and bend and subjugate. I want wide eyes, trembling hands, parted lips, and the sigh of the faithful when looking at her God. I want to be the word and the law, worshipped, obeyed. That is sexual and romantic dominance in a relationship -- it devours me, it leads me to devour, it turns me from a friendly intellectual into a predator, running on an unstoppable instinctive lust to control. My every sense sharpens, I feel smarter even as I'm dumber. I hear differences in pitch and inflection, the notes of docility; I see the faint blush of skin, the downcast eyes, or the little brushes of a tongue across lips; I feel the increase in body heat, the shifting of weight, the softness of skin; I swear, though this may be delusion, when I'm in the zone I even smell and taste it, arousal and power and surrender. It's a sickness. I am a jealous and possessive predator.
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  • I am a Dom. This is sooo dramatic. Also it is very narrow, you can be a Dominant for many reasons. Myself I am a Dom who gets pleasure from causing pleasure. When a sub moans in pleasure from a spanking. when you slap her while she gives you head and it sends shudders of pleasure through her, get her so wet from having a hand around her neck. Tie her hands and angles spread on a bed, blindfold her. See the ecstasy she gets from giving you complete trust and control, doing anything you want to her, for her. A Dom and a Sub relationship is about give and take, power exchange, trust and care.

    The kind of Dom I am, when I read the above, I just think he is douche with some kind of complex where he needs to feel superior. The writer of this is so high on himself its laughable.

    • Of course this has to be dramatic since it has been put into words. Doms want their subs to enjoy too. If not. I won't consider them doms.

    • Thats the sad part though. so many are just sadists and actually don't care at all. These types usually only want play dates and casual sex. They are rarely looking for any kind of relationship with a Sub.

    • I am scared of those kinds :(

  • What you've described isn't 'dominance' dominance. It's more of greed and possessiveness than it is 'dominance'.

    I view dominance as a sense of duty, a 'higher power' that is there to protect and look after, to support and to provide. I view dominance as a role of leading, directing and guiding. That is what i say is true dominance of a man.

    True Dominance is not bringing threat and using your power to harm or to intimidate to obtain what you want (as opposed to protecting and providing). True Dominance is not controlling (rather, it is leading and directing).

    This boy that you are talking about who claims he's dominant falls as a prey to his own desires which proves that he is not adequate or worthy to be a 'dominant'.

    • This is just 10% of what the person has written. He is not about dominating in life. He is about dominating in bed.

    • Doesn't matter, he

    • still is consumed by his greed

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Most Helpful Girl

  • Damn... I like dominant guys. But not to the extent where it is creepy. LOL

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  • Protecting and taking care of business-bottom line.

    • "Protecting" and "taking care" keywords.

  • It's not a sickness at all. It's a kink. I'm very dominant and for me it's about being in control. I'm into S&M so I enjoy inflicting erotic pain as well.

    • What do you think about the passage here? Is it dramatized or expresses what goes on inside a dominant?

    • The passage is about as far from how I feel as I can imagine. I'm a lust filled monster but at the same time I respect and revere the woman before me and knowing that she needs to submit as much or more than I need to dominate gives me power to do with her as I please, inflicting erotic pain on her and reveling in her suffering, seeing the bliss on her face as we move along through the scene.

  • Bullshit. And offensive, universal bullshit that seeks to take an inherent trait of masculinity, and consign it to the realm of mental illness.

    • I didn’t and wouldn’t take the time to read that crap.

    • @roamer um what the hell is this

    • @soulbabe Haven’t a clue

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  • Dominant man =
    Self centered
    arrogant
    shallow
    doesn't care about your pleasure or feeling only their own.

    • Sounds like there is some truth in it.

    • That's why all the nice/sweet guys take it slow.. aren't rough "normally" during sex... they actually care more about their partner's feelings than their own. So all the girls that like the "Aggressive man" only have themselves to blame when they guy shows his true side by (lying, cheating, etc.)

    • This is certainly generalization.

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  • Not a sickness at all. An obsession maybe or a desire to control someone. A kinky fetish maybe.
    A sickness would be if they truly wanted to hurt and tear their sub to shreds for enjoyment and gratification, then yes I might agree to that.

    • Yes of course it is not a sickness. Its just kinky fetish. You read it well :)

    • Thanks... now where is that paddle?

  • Lol they don't overthink what they are doing.

    • They do.

    • nope mybe in your relation ship (talking to the asker not opinion ownwer

  • Damn... that's some high quality acid that dude must've been hitting. I wonder where he got his hands on it.

    • Thats when dominants are sexually high. They cannot express the feeling with vanilla partners.

  • das fucked up

    • Because you might be vanilla and not kinky.

    • or I might just be mentally sane lmao

    • If you are sane enough you won't be judging anyone for their fantasies.

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  • WTF r they, werewolves?

    • No. They are just the animals which have got a very complex and developed brain which resides in developed body of modern ape.

  • Girls like dominant guys. However, I do let the girl be the dominant one sometimes. To spice up things.

    • Yes they do. Raw dominance. I like it being a duel where I know I am not winning.

  • What website did you copy that out of... Do you even have a clue what dominance is all about?

    • Like seriously what is wrong with you maybe you shiould find out what dom i have had it and it was the most amazing and safe thing I've ever felt in ky life and id do it again

    • @Goodgirl18 And what do you know about what safe is I have seen little girls viciously beat up and in the hospital because they did not know which end is up.. One just in December.. I have been in this lifestyle for over forty years... Safe thing? don't tell me what is safe...

    • You have to set rules and a safe word so the dom knows when he is about to go to far the dom is suppose to protect and support but if she breaks rules she needs to be punished within reason and with my dom i feel safe and well cared for and i know that i shouldn't break the ruless

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  • we'll im an alpha male and i dont think likeany of that u describes.. that seems kinda ar fetched.. we just like.. I don't know well me ppersonally i like an alpha female because i hate the feeling of dominating in a realation ship.. and an alpha male with an alpha female.. well sounds pretty gud to me lol also we have key leadership and are calm in most situations. so were a blessing of the earth for u girls.

    • Well thats your preference for yourself.

    • i geuss

  • Wow--very good! Does that turn you on, QA? Knowing your body can cause such an attraction and arousal in a guy?

    • Yes but more than my body, its the submission that does the thing.

    • So you basically get turned on by the idea of submitting to a guy getting turned on like that? Awesome! lol!

    • Well absolute truth. He should be turned on not only by my submission but also by the smartness since I am no weak person in real life. Instead I am educated, independent and headstrong.

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