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Why does guy's penis stay hard after cuming with blow job, but go soft after cuming from sex?

Just curious thought I and my boyfriend had, and wanted to know like after having sex, he comes and it's soft (can't convince it to get hard again for nothing). But when I give him head, he comes and it's still super hard but he says he can't take anymore after cuming. So my question is... why is that? Lol
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My boyfriend and I had a discussion and we think it could be bc during a blow job I'm all sucking hard and deep throating and it forces the blood to stay in the penis longer afterwards. But during sex well I don't know about that yet, we haven't formed a hypothesis on why it get soft immediately after cuming.
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  • Sometimes guys cum during sex when they dont want to - and when that happens its difficult to get everything back up to speed because your mind is telling you one thing, but you dick has other plans. With me, cumming from a blowjob is probably the best orgasm, because a lot of the time the girl has no clue how good it is feeling, or if she is "hitting the spot" even with verbal or physical cues, because most women assume a dick is incredibly simple and all you have to do is the motion.

    A blowjob goes through waves of pleasure, and it is all due to the rhythm and style of the girl giving the blowjob. I know that when a girl is giving me head, and it starts feeling really really good and I know I can cum in thirty seconds if she keeps doing it, almost every time, without fail, she changes what she is doing or takes and break and then the pleasure subsides and needs to be built up again. Imagine it a bit like the girl is pumping up a balloon, but the balloon has a tiny hole in it; she can get the balloon full and on the verge of popping, but if she stops or changes what she is doing, the air is going to go out of the tiny hole.

    I only described that because an orgasm after the "ebb and flow" of pleasure is more intense, and therefore he will stay hard. During sex it is up to the guy to control the pleasure, and thats how pre-mature cumming happens. Either way, I know that my head is really sensitive after I cum, so if she wants to go for round two immediately, it is almost too hard to do because I am so sensitive and the urge to cum comes back too fast. I don't know, just dont give him a hard time, no pun intended, if he can't go a lot - girls just have a vagina, it will work regardless of the situation - sometimes dicks dont want to cooperate and most of the time the guys want to keep going, but their dick has other plans.

    • The blow job was strictly just for his pleasure, no sex was planned for after lol. But when he cums it's still hard, so I ask him if he's ready for another one and he like no can't too sensitive. But it's still rock hard!

  • the pressure and penetration, in sex it's hard pressure on dick and full penetration and less time in cumming, while in blowjob is totally the opposite by the time you cum you are so aroused that you stay hard for a long time after cumming !

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  • I had no answer but your update makes sense. I'm going to test your theory very soon and get back to you. Lol😜

  • It sounds like maybe his cock prefers oral sex. Smart cock there. :)

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  • it just works that way sometimes. I don't know why. maybe it depends on how turned on I am? or sometimes you don't cum the way you want. Like if you get a charlie horse just as you cum and you don't get the full push out. But i have had it happen when I have received a blow job and when I have cum inside her. so it isn't just one way.

  • it's not universal. Things that tend to make me remain hard after ejaculation:
    -if I'm really horny
    -if it's a quickie or otherwise doesn't last very long
    -if there is no stimulation (especially to the tip) during and immediately after the sex.

    These things tend to diminish the 'numbing' effect of ejaculation, which means I'll be ready again right away. If you aren't grinding the tip with your tongue/throat while he cums, that might be part of it. Plus, having a blowjob is simply sexier (visually) than normal sex, so it might be making him more horny. And, if you're really good, he may cum sooner from a blowjob than normal sex. Any or all of these could be possible explanations..

  • I can't explain why your boyfriend's erection doesn't go down after he cums from a blowjob. That's just really unusual.

  • Vag sex is more satisfying
    In either case, this guy can be ready for Round Two within the hour

  • Bercause you stop prettu much immeduately when we come, but we stay inside for a while during the afterglow while Junior subsides.

    • I don't stop immediately after he comes, I keep my mouth on it.

    • Nice.

  • Perhaps it was the expectation of having sex afterwards rather than just the blowjob.

    • No it pretty much happens everytime I suck his dick, regardless if we have sex afterwards or not.

    • Perhaps because he contributes more energy to sex which "deflates" him, whereas when you are sucking him you are doing all the work, so he still has pent up energy left to stay hard afterwards!

  • Lol well once we cum that it the brain is happy and we want to go to sleep. I mean sometimes give us a break and wecr ready to go again.

  • usually after cumming it goes soft but can get hard again after a few minutes. i don´t think it correlates with the sex you had but rather with daily differences in stamina.

  • because dick swimming in his own semen is a turn off

    • That's just dumb.

    • your question is convoluted with inconsistencies and opinion.

  • Not sure cause I stay hard after sex too.
    I can guess that because the woman is doing the work, she can keep stimulating the penis even though it's trying to go soft.

  • Erm... I usually stay hard after cumming if I keep going, which i normally do, and get soft when I stop. Does it make me weird that I can keep going after I cum?

  • he might have low libido
    some guys can't cum twice in one go but remain horny after blowjob

  • Its different from person to person, his dick may be so sensitive he go soft easily while fuck you, in blowjob he may not cum enough he it takes time to settle down. your question sounds like you need second round and continue erection, its not possible for many guys, some guys do.
    in my case i need multiple cumshot to make settle down from fuck or blow job, but its me!

  • Blow job or masterbute are not a real sex, and all cum will not be out as sex, that is why it remains hard

  • bcoz u are expert bj

  • because you continue to suck on it ;)

  • 1st world problems and worries...

  • Well if you give him 15 minutes he may be able to get some more but he stays hard after oral because it looks so damn hot.

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