If a woman uses a man for attention/ego boost is she just as bad as men who use women for sex?
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It's no denying that women crave attention and often use the prospect of possibly having sex as a carrot on stick to twirl over men's head to keep them interested. So from the sexes standpoint we see men crave sex and women crave attention. So would you say a woman who loves that you like her, chats with you, enjoys the attention you give her but has no prospect of ever going out with you and strings you along, is she just as bad as a man who uses women for just sex?
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PineapplessssXper 3
+1 y
Depends on what his intentions are. If he's only doing all this just to get in her pants, then I don't see any problem with using him. He's not feeling guilty about trying to use her, and us women can usually tell if a guy likes us or just likes out vagina. If he really likes her, then yes it's very cruel to lead him on like that. Just in the same way a woman would feel used for putting out and never getting called back, he will feel the same feelings of being taken advantage of for putting effort into a woman who only enjoyed his money and comments.
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LittleSallyEditor
+1 y
Depends on the guy and the girl... What offends them more - the emotional AND physical abuse or just the emotional abuse... The first option is the guys who use women and their feelings for them to have sex, and the second one is for the women who use men for an ego boost. All despicable - inexcusable - yet, I believe abusing someone on 2 levels is worse than abusing someone on 1.
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Asker
+1 y
"physical abuse" ?
LittleSally
+1 y
Yeah - sex with false pretenses. After that the girl will surely feel physically humiliated as well as emotionally...
samhradh_leannanEditor
+1 y
Personally, I don't think that using someone for attention is as bad as using them for sex. It's bad, don't get me wrong, but I don't think it is quite as harmful as using someone for sex can be. My opinion stands whether it's the girl being used or the guy.
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mistixsInfluencer
+1 y
No because there's not a chance of there being a pregnancy and the man being abandoned to care for the kids alone
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dominiquoisExplorer
+1 y
Yes, fucking obviously. A whore is a whore. Male or female.
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poopedmypantsagainExplorer
+1 y
I voted no on this one.. because to me the guy just using her for sex.. is just a user.. and then he moves on.. the woman on the other hand is only trying to maybe get noticed and most if not all look great to me when they do this.. it could lead to a date or other things.. but in my books the two are totally separate.. the using for sex.. is to me not a good thing
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JuicyBrain
+1 y
Manipulation is only ok if it's done by a woman right?
poopedmypantsagain
+1 y
@JuicyBrain.. no it is not okay by the women doing this, but she is not using the guy for sex.. the guy is using her to get it,, big difference.. I am just saying that men using women for sex is not okay
JuicyBrain
+1 y
Why is it worse to use a woman for sex? Why is sex more wrong? You sound completely brainwashed. Just for fun, what if a girl used a guy just for sex, would it be better?
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Ruby355
+1 y
@JuicyBrain if it's a woman it can't be manipulation...
JuicyBrain
+1 y
@Ruby355 You are being sarcastic right?
Tombstone1000100
+1 y
You sound like a fukin idiot. Listen to yourself.
TdieselerGuru
+1 y
the flip side is that men at least disclose if its only for sex, but these girls don't disclose that its for an ego boost... men just know.
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BuchitaBuchys
+1 y
Not really. Being used for sex means he lied or manipulated her. You can't be "used" if both are willing. Bad comparison
Tdieseler
+1 y
@BuchitaBuchys umm... about 97% of the girls that have claimed to have been "used for sex" are usually bullshitting. the relationship started out normal, they liked each other, they had consensual sex and then he ghosted. rather than find out why, they claim to have been "used" my ex told me i used her for sex because we fucked a couple times and i wasn't interested anymore... truth to the matter was like she was horrible in bed... a blow up doll moved more... she's constantly saying she is being used for sex by guys who leave after the first time or few times and won't listen when i tell her that SHE is the problem... her solution? celibacy... like that was gonna make it any better. women lie/manipulate too buchys, more than guys... guys just don't whine about it... we just find another person.
BuchitaBuchys
+1 y
99% of statistics are made up on the spot
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Tdieseler
+1 y
@BuchitaBuchys after the fact. but this is researched... and its not some general statistic... its been proven. women LOVE to play victim... honestly im surprised its 97 only... i was thinking 99.9999...
BuchitaBuchys
+1 y
Show me the statistic then, because this seems hard to prove.
Tdieseler
+1 y
@BuchitaBuchys "its not a general statistic"... and the ".. its been proven"... by me... I've been with quite a few people... im sorry i didn't write it down...
BuchitaBuchys
+1 y
You can't make such assumptions based on your own experiences because of personal biases and they're limited.
Tdieseler
+1 y
@BuchitaBuchys ok... valid point... can't speak for everyone... but i did diversify... im not lying about the being "used" part or the fact that many if not most women always like to play victim like they are the ones that have been hurt... or "cheated on"... if you look deep into it you would see that they are actually the catalyst. the problem. i think there was a girl on here who asked why she's always getting cheated on...5 relationships and been cheated on... so she tries to play victim saying guys are shit and she's in the right... but if you look clearly... she was the one that couldn't keep a relationship after 5 tries...5 partners chose someone else over her. Rather than look at the real thing (that she might be the problem)... she tried to play victim... i see past that. gotta see past peoples words... see past bullshit.
BuchitaBuchys
+1 y
Lol you have got to be kidding me. A cheater is always at fault. The misogyny in this site hurts sometimes -___-
Tdieseler
+1 y
@BuchitaBuchys so does the misandry. People can say whatever they want... blame whatever they want... i know how cheating happens and nip it in the bud. anyone that wants to say cheating begins with the act... oh well... their luck. People that see how cheating REALLY starts (me) are not the ones getting cheated on. because i see it starting... starts waaaay before the act, and its usually the one playing "victim" that started it... usually. I've never been cheated on... cuz i know the real truth. the girl i mentioned on the other hand has the same idea you and many other women have, and thats WHY she get cheated on...5 times... sometimes i swear some girls WANT to get cheated on... just so they can play "victim" and like they are "hurt"... please.
BuchitaBuchys
+1 y
But you're a cheater, so of course you're gonna say that. I know cheating starts before the act. It's way before they have sex with others. But it's their fault for not being a good enough person to talk to their partners and resolve the issues. They are the ones walking out.
Tdieseler
+1 y
@BuchitaBuchys lol at "but you are cheater"... most cheating cases don't just happen spontaneously you know... you think those "cheaters" didn't constantly reiterate to their so-called partners what was bugging them? and their so-called partners just ignored their feelings and concerns... pushing them into the arms of another because they got fed up of the ignoring... then the ignorant partner starts playing "victim" claiming to have been cheated on. Well if they had paid attention their partners concerns, wants and desires, there wouldn't have been cheating. thats why i usually blame the OTHER partner because they were the ones who started it by being selfish and ignorant.
BuchitaBuchys
+1 y
No. That's because you want to absolve guilt. Or, you are incapable of it. Many times the cheating person tries to see what's wrong with them, then the cheater throws all the efforts away and goes to someone else. I'll always blame the cheater because they walked out.
Tdieseler
+1 y
@BuchitaBuchys well... we are all entitled to our opinion... hard not to "walk out" or search elsewhere when the person who is supposed to be your "go to" person gives absolutely no shit about you and pushes you out. so they go looking for someone who will. After i realized the habit girls have for "withholding" sex as some form of "control"... i started making a disclaimer at the very beginning of my relationships... if you withhold anything from me... i WILL go outside to get it, solved that particular problem immediately. thats not cheating, they were warned... them withholding/ignoring is the real cheating. if they didn't want intimacy, they shoulda stayed single and not partnered up.
BuchitaBuchys
+1 y
I know personally I don't withhold. But I can be too turned off by you, and it's not withholding it's lack of desire. Plus, that's a very selfish attitude to have. Forget the partnership, it's only about you. Sounds like you're the one who should remain single.
Tdieseler
+1 y
@BuchitaBuchys i do remain single because i don't want to deal with all that drama and double standard bullshit anymore... im sick and tired of it.. women always wanting to eat their cake and have it still, wanting the best of both worlds... playing "victim" all the time, complicating shit that is real simple and doesn't need to be complicated... so i don't do dating anymore, i keep my shit simple.. Me: wana fuck? Girl: Yes Me: lets do it or Me: wana fuck? Girl: No Me: NEXT lol... i really do do that...
BuchitaBuchys
+1 y
I'm glad you're not in a relationship
Tdieseler
+1 y
@BuchitaBuchys haven't been in a dating relationship since like 2012... i just switch between fuck buddies and friends with benefits... just got out of one friend with benefits relationship a few days ago because she started all that drama and female privilege shit like i was supposed to bow to her or something... i walked away. and called another girl on the way home. this one is married :)
I voted A, but actually it's worse to use someone for sex. Both shitty, but lying plus actions are worse than just lies, gender doesn't matter.
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RachelpolisXper 5
+1 y
Yes, it's pretty much just as bad.
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SarahsSummerMaster
+1 y
Relationships are about fulfilling the needs of your partner.
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godfatherfanGuru
+1 y
I voted YES. But actually it is WAY WORSE. At least with sex, the women gets something out of it also. And she agrees to sex so it isn't like he tricked her. Plus women use men for sex all the time. with what you describe, she is just a Liar. it is pretty disgusting.
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IceEverest
+1 y
This
Dandeus
+1 y
You do understand what "used for sex" means, yes? There are men who lie about their interest in a woman, convince her that he's emotionally invested in her and pursuing a committed relationship to get her to have sex when she otherwise would not, only to dump her and move on after he gets bored or finds another attractive woman to bang. You're suggesting that flirting without putting out is worse than enticing a person into sex under false pretenses?
BuchitaBuchys
+1 y
@Dandeus Thank you! You're like the only man who gets the difference
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godfatherfan
+1 y
I am saying she has absolutely no intention of doing anything and have absolutely no interest in the guy. The guy has a genuine interest in the woman. The woman chooses to have sex with him. If it turns out he is someone different, well then he is a piece of shit. but most fucktards like that are in it for the short flip. If they don't get her quickly, they move on. So if she screws him that fast, then she wanted sex as much as he did and they both got something out of it. If she can't wait 3 or 4 dates then you can't put it all on the guy.
BluemaxMaster
+1 y
I vote C : It's wrong but not as wrong because flirting with someone will not result in the potential for another human who will be born into a single parent situation. Using someone for sex has the potential for this result.
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GingerGuyMaster
+1 y
Absolutely. Still using someone, just for different things.
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ManOnFireEditor
+1 y
Just as bad, yeah. Except I think it's easier and more common to use a woman for sex.
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damnwinterXper 6
+1 y
Yes she is and oh boy, are there plenty like this in the world.
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CosytoastyGuru
+1 y
Neither are bad, it takes two to tango. More fool the guy giving her attention and the girl who lets herself become emotionally attached to a guy who only wants sex.
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zombiebabeEditor
+1 y
yes its the same thing
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TripleAceMaster
+1 y
The difference is that a women using a man for a boost only gets her something. He gets nothing. At the end of the day sex is a two way street. It almost always benefits both
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AdamThomasGuru
+1 y
If she's intentionally stringing the guy along, yeah.
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oldanddecrepidYoda
+1 y
It is not much different... no matter what it is still using the person for personal gain!
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NourSyXper 7
+1 y
No because in most cases sex is a common interest but attention seeking is used for the girl's sake and the guy is the victim.
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ihatethiswebsite
+1 y
I agree
DandeusGuru
+1 y
To restate the question: is flirting as bad as lying to get laid?
Answer: no.
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bluenose1872Xper 7
+1 y
We've both got our quirks. Men and women. If you get suckered for sex or you get used for thinking your going to get it it's your own fault. They're both scandalous types of people and if your too idiotic to notice then maybe you deserve a using. Get wise
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ConsultantIsBackEditor
+1 y
God I hate those girls so much
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Smmyskittles
+1 y
Can you say you've never used a woman for sex before?
ConsultantIsBack
+1 y
@Smmyskittles correct. But I've been manipulated, like too many times lol
Smmyskittles
+1 y
Don't believe that.. But not gunna argue with you. Who hasn't been used at least once for an ego boost though?
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ConsultantIsBack
+1 y
@Smmyskittles why would I care if u believe me or not lol
Smmyskittles
+1 y
Whoa man, that came across as a little hostile. :(
godfatherfan
+1 y
@Smmyskittles anyone that says they have been "manipulated" is just trying to blame the other person for a decision you later decided was a mistake. it takes 2 to tango. So barring rape, you wanted to get down. the majority of people don't "use" anyone. we might have sex that we regret later, buy you can't say you were manipulated if it was consensual.
TacosRAwesomeMaster
+1 y
I'm going to say she's worse because in the case of a man using a woman for sex only one woman is destroyed. But in the case of a women using men for attention, this might destroy a whole group of friends.
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