Is sexy a bad word?

Question

I read somewhere, a girl should look for a guy who calls her beautiful rather then sexy. 

I want to know from the guy is sexy such a bad word. When do you use sexy rather then beautiful? Do you use sexy more or beautiful? What is the difference between the two for you?

I feel sexy is used when a guy is thinking through his duck and beautiful when he using his heart. Since men are assumed to be more sexual then women what is the difference between them for men.

missnic825 · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't read too much into it. I think it also depends on how long you've known this particular guy. I do think as females we value being called beautiful more than any other compliment, but I also think for that to be genuine, it takes some time. In my experience, generally for a guy to genuinely see you as beautiful, it takes him getting to know you some, as it usually implies your looks as well as your inner beauty (which really takes some time to truly see). Unless he is just smooth and throws out all the compliments straight from the beginning, but then you have to understand that may not be coming from the most genuine place, as he doesn't reapply know you much yet. I think it's easier for a guy to see you as "sexy" right off the bat, whereas "beautiful" takes a little more time (if it's coming from someplace genuine). Also take into account that some guys are so used to how they talk around their boys and friends, they start talking to females that way as well (again, especially if it is all new for them). When guys talk to each other about girls, they don't tend to say, "oh did you see her? She's beautiful". They DO most commonly use the word "hot" when around their guys. So sometimes they are just using whatever terminology they're used to saying, it doesn't have some deeper meaning. As long as he is implying he finds you attractive / appealing (and it's not too hard for us females to suss out whether that's genuine or not, his attraction to you is generally written all over him by the way he looks at you, the way he physically responds to you, etc.), well I think you're okay. I wouldn't sweat it too much. My current boyfriend has called me sexy, hot, pretty, and beautiful, all at different times and in different contexts. There's no reason you can't be both sexy and beautiful, it's just that it usually takes a little time for most men to see you as "beautiful".

bombamboum · Accepted Answer

Sexy isn't a bad word per say.
This all thing is when you want something serious with her girl.
Men want to call their girlfriend beautiful, and girl want to be called beautiful.
That being said, they still can call her sexy.
When my boyfriend call me beautiful, it's all romantic and my heart beats faster. When he calls be sexy? It's when it's sexy time and more intimate which is also a good thing, it's just different

Sara413 · Accepted Answer

I think it's fine to be called sexy and I enjoy when my boyfriend calls me sexy, particularly when we are doing sexy things... but if he only ever called me sexy and never called me beautiful and especially if he never complimented me one anything other than my appearance, I'd be concerned that he only saw me as a sex object not as a whole person, and that's a problem.

ByNature1986 · Accepted Answer

It depends on the receiver's age. Sexy is not a bad word like f*** etc but you wouldn't want to say to your 6 year old child. "you look sexy" because then a child will ask you what that means and child could repeat that in public. It might be little "not okay" to hear it from the young one because it sends negative message. However, I would feel okay to say "you look sexy" if I would direct it to teenager. Any age up from that in my opinion is okay, however I wouldn't abuse it. I would rather suggest diversify, since saying "sexy" all the time will get quickly overrated. "sexy" does adds little spiciness comparing to "beautiful". word sexy is not "hot spicy" its just "cute spicy" ;)

Red_Arrow · Accepted Answer

Actually, they mean two different things. Beautiful is like pretty, only more so. A woman can be in clothes that completely hide her figure, and have a very beautiful face and hair, and is just plain beautiful. When she looks sensuous, or acts that way, or wears things that reveal or suggest her body, then that would be sexy. It does not have to be what she reveals, as I said. It scould be the way she acts.

It is possible to be beautiful OR sexy, but it is best when your guy finds you to be beautiful AND sexy.

DivaMonae · Answer

It's funny those were my words exactly... Sexy isn't a bad word it's still a compliment in the end but beautiful is definitely more meaningful because it can be more than just physically.

AnayaWilliams · Answer

Its not a bad word its a compliment

bilal123s · Answer

Sexy is used to describe basically slutty girls or teenage girls but beautiful comes from the heart and not only beautiful body but also beautiful face or personality while sexy is just for the body

karahiri · Answer

It isn't a bad word... but I think there's a time and place for that sort of compliment. If that's the only way a guy can describe a woman, that's a bit sad and says a great deal about what he sees in her / values most about her.

BCRanger10 · Answer

It's not a "bad word" per se, but still, it's not the most wholesome or affectionate way to describe a woman.

Dargil · Answer

Sexy is shorthand for sexually attractive. Nothing wrong in the right situation. At church or work, not appropriate. At the club or in private, good.

Drasi · Answer

I'm sexy so no. :3

NovaEsen · Answer

When i heard the word sexy i suddenly remember of a woman who has a big ass with leopard tights.

amy-louise-H · Answer

I think being called sexy is fine x

MrShinyPants · Answer

It depends on the context its used in, it can be good, like say she's dressed to her best, in a nice dress, earings, a little make up, heels and ready to go out looking elegant then sexy is a good thing.