Tried doggy style but my boyfriends penis won't go in?

[Anonymous]

Hi! So my boyfriend and I have had sex multiple times. Almost regularly for about two months now. We tried doggy style just a couple days ago but his penis wouldn't go in. We've tried a couple times before too. I am aware that I need to be all the way down and have that arch, which I have had. But it just doesn't go in. Why is that? (Lube isn't even needed it's like a waterfall down there) so yeah, if someone could tell us why this is happening, that would be great!

[MrOracle]

There are a couple of potential reasons:

- There's a height issue. His hips only allow a limited motion, so your vagina has to line up properly or his plane of movement won't work. If you are too low, you can kneel on a pillow or couch cushion, and if you are too high, you can spread your knees more or bring them up to your chest a little more to lower your butt. You can also use furniture with him standing or whatever. You'll have to experiment.

- If you've got a bigger butt, or just a more bubble butt, your butt might stick out in that position to the point where his penis just isn't long enough to penetrate you. Some girls may have a big wide butt but it's flat right next to their vagina, and others may be much smaller but it could stick out more right there. Every girl is different, but some combinations of people just won't work.

- If he's able to reach, but just can't get it in, it could be that you're having trouble relaxing in that position, or that he doesn't quite understand where to put it. Many guys assume a girl's vaginal hole is centered in her labia, but it's actually at the bottom (which, in doggie, means the top, because you're upside down). You might have to help guide him, or roll your hips forward or back to help him find the angle.

I would start on your hands and knees - it should give him a straighter shot, but if your butt is in the way, then try more with your head/chest on the bed to give him a better angle.

It's really all about experimenting...

[Asker]

Thank you!

[madhatters4]

he is aiming for the right hole right? all honesty the first few times i tried doggystyle i was aiming for the anus instead of the vagina

you don't necessarily have to bend all the way down and arch. in fact that can sometimes make it harder as you are using muscles which might tighten the hole whereas you need to relax

[Asker]

Okay so don't go all the way down? Would putting a pillow underneath help out?

[madhatters4]

a pillow could certainly help. going all the way down if it isn't comfortable will cause you to use extra muscles and when you're muscles tighten they contract thus it could make penetration more difficult. so ultimately you just want to be in the most comfortable position for doggystyle so your body is relaxed

[Asker]

Thanks!

[Hannahcakes]

Is he just not long enough?

[Asker]

He's long, just pretty thick

[Hannahcakes]

So he can get it in place just not get it in because he's too thick?

[Asker]

Yeah I think so

[Hannahcakes]

Try coconut oil if the thickness is the problem. It's better than lube and you'll like the way it feels

[AustinMan]

When you say won't go in, do you mean he presses but can't penetrate?

[Asker]

Yeah

[AustinMan]

Sounds like you tighten up. Maybe if he dilated it with succeeding numbers of fingers, he can open you up. It's a great angle to access your G-spot when he's pounding you.

[Asker]

Yeah he can put like one finger in when he's trying to find where but just can't put his dick in. So how do I loosen up?

[AustinMan]

Tell me exactly what position your in with details. I have some ideas.

[NoahDT]

Maybe he's going in at the wrong angle?

[jayyyjayyy]

Penis to small?

[amy-louise-H]

haha that was my thoughts x

[Asker]

He's average.. So I don't know :(

[NJ_Casanova]

If your able to have sex in other positions... it has to be the angle your at that is the problem.

[cavmanier]

It sounds like the angle is the issue. His penis is probably pointed up, and he needs to point it down. If you lift your torso away from the bed, that would probably help. Then once he's inside if you lower your torso the angle will create the friction again that you had an issue getting himself inside of you.

[Asker]

Okay thanks! So basically we've been trying like that and I've been at the edge of the bed and he's standing up. So what should I do to improve it?

[Asker]

Asides what you have already said

[cavmanier]

Lifting your torso up like I said may help. You can also open your legs (takes away some of the pressure or tightness). That position can make a girl tighter in the front of the vagina. He needs to line himself up right at the opening and press through. It can be more challenging to get inside in that position. Hopefully he isn't trying to press himself into you like near your clit. You can try telling him the opening is on the top part in that position lol. Is he very thick? That may be an issue too. I bet you two will figure it out, and it'll feel amazing. Remember once he's inside you can put your torso down and put your legs closer together if you want.

[Asker]

Thanks so much for all the help! Yeah pretty thick. But I will definitely keep these things in mind

[cavmanier]

Np :)

[JoeCensored]

You don't necessarily need to be all the way down and arching. That may actually make for a bad angle unless he's leaning forward.

[Asker]

So what should I do?

[JoeCensored]

It's hard to tell without knowing what he was having issue with. He should have been able to figure it out. Try being more straight, and make sure your vagina is at the proper height, so that he doesn't need to angle up or down. He should be able to go straight in parallel to the bed.

[Asker]

Okay, thank you!!

[ConsultantIsBack]

Kick your ass out too that makes for a much better angle

[Asker]

Thanks!!

[Smmyskittles]

Seriously debated on this one... Liked

[ConsultantIsBack]

@Smmyskittles Hahaha

[HGStebbins]

If you have your muscles clenched that can also make it harder to penetrate.

[Asker]

So don't be as tense?

[HGStebbins]

Relax and be happy

[Asker]

Thanks!

[worldscolide]

Stick your but out a bit, and depending on how tall he is, widen your legs a bit. I know i can't get in to my wife unless she spreads her legs, making her stuff a bit lower.

[Asker]

Thank you!!

[worldscolide]

Welcome!!

[red324]

Just tell him it's too big, so he feels great about himself if it doesn't work ;) :P

[takumii]

uh.. do downward doggy and then once he's in, get up to the doggy position.

[Asker]

What's downward doggy?

[orphan]

wrong hole.

[ConsultantIsBack]

Haha ya

[Chadster]

Lube is very much needed as there is no natural. Lubrication in the anus.

[Asker]

We weren't doing anal

[Chadster]

Oppps... sorry! Not sure why he couldn't get it in, that's a position that a guy can usually get in the deepest.

[Asker]

Haha it's okay! Yeah I'm not too sure either

[ChrisS44]

It's obvious ur really tight

[iFarted]

I dont think he has a full on erection

[Asker]

That does tend to happen sometimes.

[skeptic007]

add lube anyway
and it should be fine

[Asker]

Thanks!!

[Deadpool7699]

that depends why it won't fit, is it because you're tight?

[Asker]

Yeah, he's the first guy I've done it with

[Deadpool7699]

Ah, maybe if he licks your pussy first to loosen you up

[Dantheman101]

Waterfall 😂😂

[Asker]

Lol well it's true 😂

[Dantheman101]

Really I like

[Dantheman101]

Bet ur under fun after a day

[Turk28]

Tell him to put his penis in ur pussy in missionary position and turn slowly to doggy

[Asker]

Hey that's a good idea. He can go in really deep with missionary. Thanks!!

[Turk28]

No problem lol hehe tell me afterwards if it works or not😊😊😊

[Anonymous]

Tried it with my girlfriend and she wouldn't lay all the way down on the bed and didn't arch her back, the time before I injured my penis somehow and I was hard and am 7 inches long not fully erect at the time but turned on for the most part and she starts laughing I felt like smacking her upside the head

[Opinion Owner]

I'm 6'3 she's 5'5