If you make your girlfriend orgasm but you didn't?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I were watching a movie, finished that then tv was on. We were cuddling up and kissing, I was starting to feel really hot. He had the tv on the news which I didn't like, I thought it was just an ad about late night news of the night (horny brain) but he was really interested in it. So we end up grinding and touching and he helped me to an amazing orgasm which he kept telling me is incredibly hot and said he really likes how sexually freaky I am as we cuddled. 2-3 minutes later while cuddling after my O, he hears something on the news about trump being the party nomination, and he yells out about it like OMG and starts laughing out loud about this reality (he thinks it's ridiculous). He even said sorry bc we were cuddling up nice. Is it weird or bad that he wasn't as turned on as I was? Or that he was really interested in last night's news? I felt like he switched gears so fast and was in news mode. Am I being an insecure drama queen? He usually says no one turns him on like I do, and I've seen it in his body for my self that he's so turned on. I felt a bit insecure about it afterwards bc I could tell I was mostly the one enjoying what we did.

[BlueCoyote]

You're not being an insecure drama queen but there are two things you have to understand about guys:
A) Guys like politics. We get very passionate about. Well... at least most of us.
B) Guys can switch back to a "normal" mood very easily and quickly after sex. Sometimes it's wonderful to cuddle afterwards but sometimes it's also nice for guys to just fuck, deposit our cum in our girl and go back to doing what we were doing before. I know it sounds very unromantic but that's how nature made us.

[Dim_121]

HMO ^ right here. The only thing that I would add is a suggestion to have him turn off the tv next time. His attention was split between you and the tv. Him quickly switching was because he was already halfway distracted from you. Getting the news about politics just took away the rest of his attention. It had nothing to do with you not turning him on enough.

[Asker]

Wow. Thanks! really appreciate your help. You're right, I do need to understand that it's not always a romantic cliche scenario. Actually, it's been the opposite before as well, more often now that I think of it, where I'm the one whose "done" (happy and upbeat, ready to get to other things) and he'd still be waiting for his boner to calm down and asking me why I'm so "eager to leave." I guess I just missed that last night. And on politics, you're right, he was like "you're not interested? I thought you'd be more into this news!" But my mind was elsewhere :$

[Asker]

@Dim_121 haha, and thanks that helps to hear that it has nothing to do with his desire for me! I agree with you that I would ask for tv to be turned off if it wasn't important to him, wait for it to Finnish if it was important for him to see, or ask to have something generic as background music otherwise. I did say the news bothered me, he said he likes knowing the news + wanted to know results. I should've been a bit attentive with topic he's interested in, or I could've been more accepting of the nature of situation. Later that night I told him that it kind of bothered me even though it's something that not a big deal, bc I am pms-ing big time and just missed being on the same wave length in it with him. He said although he understands where i was coming from, it's not something serious to worry myself with or be upset with. I agreed, that its no biggie. but I had to ask GaG too bc I couldn't help wondering lol

[BlueCoyote]

@Yeah, so don't worry about it :-). Maybe one last thing I would add: if you feel horny for him and you want to make sure that it's going to be a romantic, passionate type of sex, pay attention to the type of situation you're choosing to come on to him. For example having sex in front of the TV - EVEN IF he turns it off after a while - is bound to end up in a casual fuck. It just isn't really the right atmosphere to get into that special, romantic mood. Now, I'm not saying casual fucks are bad. That can be fun too of course. But in my relationship, when I want to have a romantic love-making, I usually ask my girlfriend to come to the bedroom with me, where we don't have a TV nor a radio. Not only is post-sex cuddling on a big bed more comfortable than on a sofa but also, if it's just the two of you and there's no other possible distractions, you have much better chances to get a really romantic session :-). In fact, my girlfriend and I don't have a TV in the bedroom for this very reason.

[Dim_121]

Good that is what gag is for. To ask a? When your wondering. It also sounds like he really did not care about getting off at all because the news ruined his mood. Good luck you two.

[AndyOh]

You are being an overly sensetive drama queen, yes. Look at the situation and where you were and what was happening. You got to get off in a fun and different way, and he did not because he was kind of into the new. Sure jumping up at the Trump thing was a bit too much on his part, but still, you were not in the naked bed cuddling mode. Enjoy the moments...

[Asker]

Hah, he's been laughing out loud about Trump since last summer, I always told him it wasn't funny, but that's where we disagreed lol thanks :) that's what I need to do more of, to just enjoy the moments and be more at ease.

[Zendrya]

geez my boyfriend and I watch cash cab and bang sometime... it isn't that big of a deal. He was likely turned on but something crazy happened so he reacted

[AustinMan]

Next time, turn off the TV. The only thing we have on when we're "cuddling" or whatever is porn we both like. It's sort of a warm up.

[NJ_Casanova]

Not weird, that he wasn't turned on as much as you. I don't get much sexual pleasure from a lap dance, dry humping... but I enjoy getting my girls off.

It is kind of weird he got distracted so easily after you got your "O". I wouldn't take it personal.

[thatkaruguy]

it sounds more like you are bored and horny. you dont like whats on tv so you get him to fool around with you so you aren't bored. he doesn't find whats on tv boring so you should respect that its not like you can't go in the bedroom later and do it.

[Rick_Woodlands]

We don't actually need an orgasm every time. Sometimes the sight and sound of our woman's pleasure is enough.

I'd be much more worried if he supported Trump.

[Asker]

Haha, thanks, same here about Trump! I appreciate that about men so much <3 And I love that about him too, that he enjoys hearing and witnessing my pleasure. I'm just like wow, generosity galore! Makes me feel even hotter for him lol

[slimstiffy]

Hehe. Its not a big deal. Seriously trump can blow any guy off lol... But its not as much of an issue as you think it is. He is as happy about making you cum as you are.

[Asker]

Hah, not sure of the expression! Aw <3 thank you. I love it and you're right, he loves knowing I can cum with him so easily.. Great moments ;)

[slimstiffy]

HVe fun you two ;-)

[Asker]

Thanks :)

[napoleonebonaparte]

No actually... how long have you been dating?
Because maybe a reality on the TV is a bit... odd... rude... but actually I do love to see my girlfriend to orgasm while I'm doing also something else... it normally happens when I'm driving... really hot...

[thatkaruguy]

itss not a reality on the tv. its a reality that trump has a real chance of being president and its crazy in a bad way

[Asker]

A year and a half, we don't live together. we were fooling around yesterday, it wasn't full on intercourse or bj which are the only things that naturally get him off fully, but he wasn't even sweaty the way he is when he gets super horny prior to them (like even without s e x). handjobs can take me faaaar though if you know what I mean. Same thing with a hockey game last night while cuddling before the news. At one time he yelled out at the score and apologized, then cheered lol like this never happened before but I guess he just wanted to cuddle and I got horny? Like I'm starting to wonder cause we've totally done the same thing with sports on before with more involvement from him than what I felt from him last night. I've felt this "I'm hornier than he is but he's still getting me off" moments, but it wasn't with this type of tv on. I still didn't like those too much either.

[scooogy]

It's rather bad, but only for you.

[Asker]

Not sure what you mean. Will you please explain?

[scooogy]

He didn't have a problem with the situation, only you did. And imagine neither you would, then there'd have been nothing wrong with only you being excited about the situation. It doesn't always need both at a time to be excited about sex.

[Asker]

Thanks for answering! I felt it might be a no big deal, but I couldn't help feeling weird. So I even communicated with him and mostly got over it. I agree with you. I really needed to hear how ridiculous I am about it.