I Got Punished and Molested in front my family for a long time, What I suppose to do?

I am a 19 year now, but most of the time I have fears like a girl. I always feel unsafe when I travel at night and in dark places. I am scared of tall men. I start stammering while talking to them. I have no confidence most of time. When I was 13 years old, I got an infection near my genitals & thighs. I was rubbing my genitals for many days. My sisters complained to my mom. Mom thought that I have grown up and was masturbating. She warned me not do this in-front of sisters, but due to itch I did it many times. My mom took me to a quack. He asked me to remove my clothes, but there was only a small room, so I didn't want to strip in-front of mom and sisters, but I was forced to strip. He checked me and found no disease. He told my mom that I was misbehaving as I did not have any problem. Mom got very angry. He suggested a punishment. He told my sisters to count 1 2 3 up-to 10, as he is going to pull my penis 10 times as a punishment. Hearing this, all started laughing, at beginning mom was not sure but later my sister’s insisted and my mom gave her consent for this punishment. Then he suddenly grabbed my tiny penis and started pulling it. He was pulling it very hard so it was painful and embarrassing. When I returned home, my sisters told this to everyone, most of my family persons found this a effective and funny punishment for me and later my mom or aunt started calling that guy ( quack) to home to punish me like this, he was a rude surly guy and he would come to house get me nude and used to yank and pull on my penis badly in front my whole family and i had no choice and i was helpless in front him, so slowly slowly i became very much sacred of him and I lost all my confidence when it was happened I was very young, just 12-13 years old and I could not do anything against them. What can I do now against them all?
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  • Oh my god man! How big are you now? You think you can take that motherfucker now? If i were you i would go to him and break every fucking bone in his body. If i think he is too strong i would get a whole bunch of my homeboys with me to hold him down. But id prefer to do it on my own. I wouldn't wven give a shit if i go to prison. The second im stronger than that motherfucker his ass is going to fry. But thats not the advice i should be giving. Whats best for your interest ia to move away from your family as soon as possible. Do not contact them ever again. They treated you like shit. They dont deserve your love. Move to another place, geg some good friends, have a good job and be your own man. Go to the gym , start lifting weights and get stronger and a bit bigger. You will meet many big and ripped guys at the gym. Most of these guys will be nice. You will find that men aren't that bad. Just that one sick motherfucker. And you dont have to tell anyone this story. Only to your best of friends if you feel okay.

    • i am going to be 19 years now, for sure i want to take revenge from him, i am so broken that i can not forgive and forget all things and move on in life, he abused me ( sexually assaulted/insulted) me for two years, it killed my confidence and spoiled my feelings of manhood, but my problem is that i don't want to share this story to my school friends, they might make fun of this, and since that guy is a strong and powerful man so even i have grown up but still it's hard for me to hit him and beat him up alone, so i need some help.

    • Well i guess for your own satisfaction its best to take on this punk. Your real friends would have your back whatever reason man. You sure you can't talk to any of them? I would go to them gym and start working on your physique and strwngth if i were you. even if you dont feel like it, you will develop loads of confidence and feel much more manly about yourself. Maybe then you will feel like this guy isn't worth your time really. If you can move on then thats what best. And whatever you decide to do about that, take him on or let it be,, you should move away from your family many. This environmwnr iant healthy for you. Do you have a job? Also, is your dad around or single mom?

    • Sorry i was away so i could not access internet, my father left mom when i was just 7 years old since she has been living with my uncle & aunt.

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  • What you need to do is get a job and move out, or go to school and get a grant or something like that.
    Next, get into some counseling because you definitely need it. A good counselor will restore your confidence and well being. Trust me on that one.
    As for revenge, I think the best thing to do is to wait till after the counseling. Maybe discuss it with him/her. But you will probably forgive and forget and move on in life, though I would not go back for Christmas.

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  • I don't think you should physically get back at them, if you beat that quack up you might get in trouble. Now that you are safe and undisturbed I think going back to get your revenge might threaten the safety you have right now. I understand you probably feel a lot of anger and I agree it's unacceptable for them to abuse you like that but I strongly discourage you from taking physical actions against them. If you really want to get back at them I totally agree with @AndyOh

    • thanks for reply, i know what you said is right, i am still scared of him, he is like a big devil but since you was not in my place so you can not understand my restlessness and frustration, i am still weak in front him but i want to get help and wants to get him punished.

  • im very sorry. where do you live? thats totally illegal depending on where you are. should be illegal everywhere.

    • i live in a Asian country, it is very populated but i don't want to defame it so you can guess the place, yes it was illegal but depends on situation, laws are quite weak somewhere and specially when my family used to allow him to punish me like this so he became totally fearless and started bulling and abusing me badly.

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  • Find a good therapist with experience dealing with victims of abuse. Godspeed!

  • Move out. Get a lawyer. And a therapist that is not a pervert.
    Your family isn't good for you.

    • now i have moved out as i would be going to college this year but still this things are very fresh in my memories, i hate my family specially mom.

    • Try to not let this screw up your life. You don't need them to have a good life. Live well and happy in truth that's your best revenge. I joined the military to have a less violent life because my family just sucked. It was too. Because of all you have been through you are much stronger then the average person. You also are less likely to be a dick to others, including your own kids. Just don't continue the pattern of abuse. I hope you are able to come to understand that the abuse you suffered as a child does not define you as an adult unless you allow it by never moving forward with your life. It's going to take time, and you will still have mishaps due to your past. But you are not that child anymore. Just keep improving your life slowly one day at a time. As for hate, it takes as much emotional energy to hate as it does to love. I personally don't hate as the people who made my life so miserable simply aren't worth my time. Remember people who don't respect you enough to treat

    • With kindness will never care how you feel so don't waste your time trying. The day you are on your own you start a new life. Don't worry about them, or what they think. Ever. You will be ok in time.

  • You could call the police.

    • i was very young and was scared of him badly and also since my family used to allow him to punish me like this so i would very helpless, i would ask mom to not call him at home but she continued with this sort of punishment quite long.

    • Call the damn cops

  • For starters walk up to your mom and kick as hard as you can in therror cunt

    • i hate her since than and i hardly talks with her, she has been very harsh, insensitive and even so much cruel woman.

  • buy some nitric acid and pour on their face.

    • since i have grown up i am quite safe, but almost 2 years ( age of 13 to 14 years ) he abused me many time, since my mom and aunt used to allow him to punish me like this so he became very fearless and aggressive, if i used to dare to resist then he would overpower me and in anger used to hit me, sometimes he even torn off my underwear violently, he was tall well built guy and used to yank my penis up and down very roughly, he would continue doing this to me until either mom or aunt used to ask him to stop or i would starts crying loudly, so after some time i became so much scared of him, when i would see him at home i would start stammering in fear, and slowly slowly i got scared going out in nights or alone places, even in my class i was not able to speak up in front people.

    • you have money? hire some goons to beat him up. take the video and show it to your family. if you are from India, all the laws and the NGOs will support you and you can easily take revenge on them legally. if you don't mind jail time, go for the acid thing. another way is to get a free psychologist help from any govt hospital and forget all these things. let these thoughts go. but revenge is sweeter.

    • i don't have much money right now, as i am still studying and don't do a job, may be after 5-6 years this all would not effect me so much but as if now it bothers me always, this guy abused and bullied me so badly that even today i feels scared of him and i want to get him punished for this, he still lives in my rural home town and even today when i go to there i see him, he still tease and annoy me by reminding me all that how he used to punish me, he asks me from mom if she still want him to punish me, he asks me if my penis is OK now as he has stopped punishing me, so this all makes me very irritate and mad so i can not forget it easily and i want to do something instead of running out in a big city and get government hospital help.

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