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My husband doesn't like or want me to touch him?

Everytime i touch my husband, like sexually, he always gets mad. Yet, he always touches my butt and sometimes my breast. Usually when i want to have sex, i would touch him sexually and sensually, but he doesn't ever get turned on like how he used to when we were still dating. Plus, when we were still dating, he always want me to touch him, now its totally different. He would get angry and push my hand away. Like what it says on the bible, if you're married, your body isn't only yours but your spouses too. I feel like his body isn't mine and i do certainly feel like im sharing his body. He has stop wanting sex and it kind of bothers me, as i have a high sex drive. I will admit it, i tend to have to watch porn and masturbate to satisfy my sex drive, because my husband isn't willing to do it. He watches porn too and im sure he masturbates to it more often. He probably prefers it over me.
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Oh and whenever we have sex, it isn't passionate at all. Its like im only having sex with him physically, but not mentally. He doesn't look into my eyes anymore and he doesn't kiss me anymore. He would look somewhere else, like the walls. Or closes his eyes. While doing the girl on top, he shuts the lights off too and won't let me sit up. If i do, he will get mad.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • It could very well Be, He has a Testerone Problem, And Perhaps going to the Doctor to get this checked Out.. Is what it could be all About.
    Unless he has just Lost this "Lovin' Feeling' here, dear, I see no Reason of his Season to be Not... Passionate at all. And there could be other avenues as well, That you don't know about, That He won't Say Today.
    This is going to Continue unless he at least Starts the ball rolling. Suggest the Doctor to See if this might be An Answer, And if he Says "Forget it," Then you Need to do some Soul Searching as to how you want to Spend the Rest of your Days in what Ways.
    Good luck. xx

  • Have you talked to him about it? Have you let him know how you feel? You need to communicate with him and figure out what the root problem is. If you don't know what is causing the problem, you won't be able to solve it.

    • I have and he said its because he doesn't like it and he feels as if i might hurt the parts that im touching.

    • And as for sex, he said im overthinking, a d he said he's only enjoying the moment of it.

    • You need to talk to him more, and let him know that your relationship can't work without proper communication. He doesn't get to just give you a statement and then leave you hanging; there has to be a conversation. If he won't consider your feelings and address your concerns, that's a major red flag.

  • He sounds like he's a dominant and wants you to be submissive. I recommend trying to tie you up (obviously only if your comfortable).

Most Helpful Guys

  • Something is very, VERY wrong here. Cheating is certainly a possibility, but it could be something else. But in order for this relationship to survive, it needs to be fixed, and that will almost certainly require professional third-party help (a marriage counselor). If he won't go, then you need to plan on ending the relationship.

  • Sweetheart, you need a good couple's counselor to help get to the bottom of this.

    • He doesn't want to go

    • Tell him it's threatening the relationship and that he has to go to keep you. If he still says no, you have your answer.

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  • Could he maybe have lost attraction to you?

  • I wouldn't stay with a jerk like that.

  • It sounds like he may be feeling emasculated if he isn't the one initiating the sexual activity, but his porn watching may have conditioned his mind to a certain level of expectation as far as sexual activity or seduction is concerned.

  • you should leave him

  • Get a new husband

  • a man should say that his wife does not want to have sex with him, everyone would tell him he should be happy with what he gets.

  • Maybe he's sexually involved wirh someone else !!! U need to be careful !!

    • I have a strong feeling he is. Especially cause he hides his notification contents, i mean who else and why would he hide it, there's no one else but me. And he always wake up a night to touch his phone.

    • U should definitely talk to him about this!!! Which guy would deny sex?

  • I have done this once or twice because I was upset with something she said or something she had done. Is this when all is well between you or more so after you had an fight?

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