My boyfriend never cums (sorry for TMI) ?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend I have been dating for 6 months but only made it official two months ago (even though he asked me multiple times before). We have been in a sexual relationship for four months, although we haven't had sex yet. We're both 18 and virgins (and this is our first relationship/being intimate with anyone), so we're the cliché of doing 'everything but'. I've given him countless blowjobs and handjobs (usually blowjobs though) and he has only ejaculated once from both (once from a hj and once from a bj). He seems to enjoy them because he moans, breathes heavy and he's obviously hard. Usually I can taste pre-cum, but just as it seems he's really enjoying it, he stops me and won't let me touch him down there again. He's very eager to please me and if I'm on my period and won't let him finger me/go down on me he won't let me touch him (and he always pleases me first even if I object). He won't let me go at it for very long either before he stops me. He's very polite, like if my shirt slips of my shoulder or rides up when we're cuddling he'll immediately cover it up or move so he doesn't touch my skin. I asked him why and he says because he doesn't want to make me feel uncomfortable. Guys: do you always have to cum from blowjobs/handjobs or is that just a misconception? (Can you orgasm without ejaculation?) I don't want to bring it up incase help get upset about it because he never mentions it. But it makes me feel kinda shitty because I feel like I'm not pleasing him when I really want to. Could it be that he doesn't want to get cum everywhere (even though I'm chill with swallowing and have before), he's embarrassed or too polite? Or maybe I'm just not making him cum?

[madhatters4]

most guys cannot orgasm with with ejaculation. though i have heard that in rare cases this does happen. but it doesn't really seem to me to be the situation for him. it sounds like for some reason he just avoids ejaculating OR perhaps he can't and makes the excuse that he doesn't want to make you feel uncomfortable

I think you should tell him that it doesn't make you uncomfortable for him to ejaculate but in fact makes you feel uncomfortable and insecure about your performance that he doesn't

[DrGtheMD]

Are you on the birth control pill or have an IUD in place or something to prevent pregnancy? It may have something to do with that. Yes I know is only one way to get pregnant and that is through intercourse. I wonder if this guy knows?

[Asker]

Yeah I am on the pill (and he knows I am haha) so I'm not sure that's the problem, but thanks anyways!

[Xfitchick]

If he likes sex without cumming, its his choice. Do you know if he cums when he masturbates? Anyhow, you will have to discuss it with him. Good sex is only possible in an open minded relation where it is possible to tell what you like and what you don't like.

[MinjiC]

So clearly he ejaculates. I think he just doesn't want to cum often and is saving himself for you. Possibly doesn't want any "spoilers" before you two actually have sex and so pulls your shirt down. To me it seems like he is choosing to do this.

[NJ_Casanova]

99% of the time a guy will cum when he orgasms. There is a reason he stops you... maybe he thinks it's wrong, wants to wait for sex, religious reasons? I don't know

[Asker]

He's not very religious and neither of us are too caught up on the idea of 'waiting' for sex (we haven't because of other reasons)

[NJ_Casanova]

If he can cum from masturbating, then it's something in his head that is causing the problem.

[Dionysos]

Sounds like he's afraid to let go of his control with you.

[bubbakong2006]

Something isn’t right with him I have never been with a woman that didn’t make me cum ever I always cum

[charlie95]

sounds like he is uncomfortable to cum with someone else maybe. I've stopped myself before because i didn't want to get cum everywhere. you never know where that shits gna spray.

[SleepingSnorlax]

I actually rarley ever cum from a blowjob or handjob
I don't know maybe its just an uncommon thing?

[Asker]

That's what I was thinking, but he's cum before so? And it feels like he comes really close sometimes

[SleepingSnorlax]

Hmmm I don't know

[dolfan13]

He is being way to polite and not fully into the situation. You should take control and not let him push you off. Keep blowing him and he will give in.

[Asker]

I would keep blowing him but sometimes it seems like he loses his erection and is very sensitive

[Ryan72]

He may be masturbating to much in preparation and not able to cum? If you are willing to swallow then there is no reason not to let it go?

[Dantheman101]

My be he has a wank before he sees you so there not much cum left

[frederikwinter]

This question only your boyfriend can answer!

[Anonymous]

It seems pretty clear to me he's avoiding cumming on you or in you or even in front of you because he thinks it would be a horrible gross thing for you.

Have you literally told him you want to see him cum, you find it hot? Try that.