How common is a rape fantasy?

Whenever I ask about fetishes and fantasies a lot of girls tell me they have a rape fantasy.. more common then I would of though. Am I just talking to some weird chicks or do a lot of women have this fantasy as well. I think it could be hot to roleplay something like this. Can post anon.
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  • Have never had a Rape fantasy. Women have them much more frequently than men.

    Wiki -
    A 1974 study by Hariton and Singer[1] found that being "overpowered or forced to surrender" was the second most frequent fantasy in their survey; a 1984 study by Knafo and Jaffe ranked being overpowered as their study's most common fantasy during intercourse. In 1985, Louis H. Janda who is an associate professor of psychology at Old Dominion University[2] said that the sexual fantasy of being raped is the most common sexual fantasy for women.[3] A 1988 study by Pelletier and Herold found that over half of their female respondents had fantasies of forced sex.[4]

    The most frequently cited hypothesis for why women fantasize of being forced and coerced into some sexual activity is that the fantasy avoids societally induced guilt—the woman does not have to admit responsibility for her sexual desires and behavior. A 1978 study by Moreault and Follingstad[5] was consistent with this hypothesis, and found that women with high levels of sex guilt were more likely to report fantasy themed around being overpowered, dominated, and helpless. In contrast, Pelletier and Herold used a different measure of guilt and found no correlation. Other research suggests that women who report forced sex fantasies have a more positive attitude towards sexuality, contradicting the guilt hypothesis.[6] A 1998 study by Strassberg and Lockerd found that women who fantasized about force were generally less guilty and more erotophilic, and as a result had more frequent and more varied fantasies.

    • Tks!

  • For women it's the most common fantasy on surveys where they stay anonymous. There's still a stigma around it and people often don't admit to it in public.

    To be clear it's not really "rape" because they want someone they trust to play it out with them. It's closer to submission. Full blown BDSM stuff is more rare.

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  • You're talking to girls who have luckily never had to experience being raped. I was raped by three guys. No one in their right mind would even consider role playing something like this. That is SO disrespectful to those of us who have actually lived that nightmare. Not that you guys would care, but I pray that you nor them NEVER have to experience having a part of yourself taken by someone like that.

    If you want rough sex, fine. Just role play dominant and partially submissive. Or dominant-dominant, whatever. You can be rough and have a good time while not pretending that you're raping/being raped. That is sickening to think that people actually even do that crap. People who do obviously have psychological issues going on. That's not normal. It definitely indicates that something is off.

  • It's pretty common.

    But opposed to that fucktarded anon question of a few minutes ago, REAL RAPE isn't about sex, it's about violence and brutality.

    And therefore... There's no possibility of a rape victim "enjoying it".

    Whereas, role play would actually be about sex, albeit faux non-consensual. And therefore, both could enjoy that fantasy. 🙋

    • I could just copy/paste this opinion again, but... yeah
      www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1970177-i-have-a-forced-sex-rape-fantasy-is-this-normal

      I suppose we need to make up a new word for this? Because entirely too much time is spent explaining that rape fantasies aren't about rape. (And even more time is spent explaining that the existence of "rape fantasies" doesn't make rape any less horrific.)

  • lol, the power struggle. Verrrrrry common boyo.

    I *actually* struggle and he has to use brute strength to take what he wants. <3

    Thinking about it is increasing my heart rate. ^-^

    • That's right, gimme dat XP point, OP. >:}

    • Lol. I'll give you MHO

    • Best not be teasing..

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  • Yep pretty common. XD

  • Pretty common, more than you would think

  • Extremely. Probably about 99.985% of women have them.

  • Most women's rape fantasies are totally vanilla NOT the real fight, struggle torture, resistance scenarios.

  • Yes. haha

  • Its incredibly common. It mostly stems out of a feeling of submission though.

    www.psychologytoday.com/.../womens-rape-fantasies-how-common-what-do-they-mean

  • The name is a misnomer. Not many women have rape roleplay fantasies but instead like it when a guy is very rough, dominant, and using during sex. Most girls I've gotten to know well enough that will talk about sex enjoy when a guy dominates her.

    • You know what's mysterious. In a way domination fantasy is the opposite of rape fantasy., Because in a domination fantasy the woman;s submission is won. This means that the sex is super consensual. But that might be a controversial thing to say.

    • @Jayson101 , Yup

    • @Aqualung Yup? It's controversial or what?

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  • its normal as far as I'M concerned

  • Hmm I dk about rape, but obviously my opinion doesn't matter much right now. Haha

    I know I do like being with a guy who's dominant though, so who knows, I may end up fantasizing about it someday. They kinda go hand in hand.

  • It's definitely not a fantasy of mine.

  • I'd say 1 out of 3 have a rape fantasy. Thats what I've come across lol

    • Lately I've been asking and it seems like at least 2/3 of them say they think it's hot man. Women are fucking sick perverts ahahah

    • Hahaha yesss they are.

  • yuuk

  • Super common lol

  • Hell yeaahhh

    • damnn

    • Me too

  • Very common. It;s a commonality since time began. Human nature is very dark and Machiavellian.

  • I never had one. It turns me off. I think 50 % of people have had them.

  • more common than most people would think

  • It is commonly cited. Not necessarily a good idea to act out though.

  • Yeah it's pretty common

  • Lmaoo nutjobs in comments, Hell fuking no I'm doing that gross shit ever

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