Shouldn't men escalate things very fast to sex when it comes to women?

[Anonymous]

They say a woman knows if she wants to fuck you a couple minutes in from meeting you:

It's one of these reasons why a guy could know a girl for years be with her through good and bad, make her laugh, and share common interest, do nice things for her and not get anywhere even when he made his intentions clear from the start that he liked her more than a friend. While another guy could meet her and in 15-30 minutes she is on her knees slobbering his Johnson.

With that being said it just seems going on dates and getting to know a girl is all just wasting time in the sense that you can do all this and at the end of the day it does not increase the chance a girl will sleep with you unless of course you indirectly show your wealth and status while doing it.

Now BEFORE I GET FLAMED BY GAG GIRLS. Men aren't interested in sex alone but it is IMPORTANT to men. Women by in large tend to be very emotionally withdrawn before sleeping with a guy. They'll put on superficial level of kindness and interest in you but they don't really care that much about you. Guys by in large before having sex with them still often have to initiate all conversation, lead the conversation because the girl isn't asking any questions about you, plan out hangout sessions and call them, and by in large chase the girl.

" In my experience, it's harder for women to separate sex from love. Sex makes a woman more emotionally vulnerable, and this automatically gives a man the upper hand UNLESS there is a strong bond and mutual respect."

It's only after having sex that something is triggered in the woman's brain and she now starts showing interest and chasing you back.

So the relationship starts off one sided before having sex and tends to become closer to 50/50 after having sex.

Should guys therefore opt for sex quick and escalate things quickly with women?

[lumos]

Guys should learn how to analyze the girl instead and adjust accordingly to how she is, instead of making assumptions and blanket statements.
For instance, I'm demisexual. It takes time for me to warm up to guys and I don't want sex unless I actually feel a genuine connection. And forming that connection takes time. So if a guy tried to escalate things with me, I'd cut him off real fucking quick because clearly he doesn't understand me. And even if a girl isn't demisexual, she might appreciate him taking it slow and making sure she feels right about it, instead of pressing her when she's clearly not ready.
Other girls might feel ready sooner, and then it's ok to escalate things because they're on the same page as you and feel comfortable.

"It's only after having sex that something is triggered in the woman's brain and she now starts showing interest and chasing you back."

That's some grade A fucking bullshit lmao. I've never had a problem with showing interest back, initiating conversations and asking guys out. Maybe you shouldn't be with women who aren't showing their interest, if that's not something you want.

Your PROBLEM is that you don't fucking understand the fact that women are individuals. Some like to take things slow and will cut you off if you try to pick up the pace against their will. Others get bored if you take things too slow and will gladly agree to having sex with you earlier. If you make blanket statements and assumptions that you think apply to all women, you're going to really fucking fail at ever getting a woman to like you.

[justbanANNAz]

most of what is written here is utter bullshit tbh. I don't know what all these sources are. is this buzzfeed or something?

as for me, i know how I'm gonna live, and i know what kinda guy i want to love forever. i also know that they exist, and so, I'm gonna ignore all this mainstream societal crap and look for a love that will actually take its sweet time and last.

[Anonymous]

Depends on what you want. Do you just want sex then yeah. If you want a relationship with a girl who isn't a slut then no. She'll see you as a player/someone who just want sex, not take you seriously and don't want to continue seeing you.

[Asker]

Women tend to fall for their friends with benefits or guys they have had sex with. Seen it countless times on gag where girls are asking how they can turn a guy who they hooked up with into a relationship. Women if ever rarely ask this towards a good male friend whose been nice tot hem for years.

[Asker]

So the guy who has sex with you has a faster time getting a relationship from you and actual love (not superficial fake friendship).

[Opinion Owner]

Only sluts have sex with guys they have no interest in/have no relationship with. If you want a girl like that then go for it.

[Asker]

1. I'm not talking about having sex with sluts or girls you have no intention of getting into relationship with. 2. I'm saying for a girl you like, genuinely want to be loved by (not friend level love) and want to get into a relationship with that you need to escalate things quickly to sex. Women by in large are very emotional guarded and tend to keep men in a state of guessing before having sex. It's only after having sex that women tend to open up and men can actual have a near 50/50 equality relationship where you both show you love each other. In short before sex: Women appear more disinterested as you must come to me. After sex women appear more interested. Chases you and shows they care about you more.

[Opinion Owner]

If a girl sleeps with you before she likes you and know she wants a relationship with you then she is a slut and easy. If you escalate things fast you'll get these girls. Girls who wants to wait (and are not sluts/easy) will not want to continue things with you if you escalate to sex too fast.

[JohnDoe3000]

Nah, it doesn't work like this (usually). Within five minutes a woman knows if she wants to have sex with you for your physical appearance, eventually... and only if your personality doesn't turn her off in the meantime. Sure, some women will just be horny/looking for a one night stand but that's not what avoiding the friend zone is about. If she finds you attractive you won't be "put" in the friendzone if you wait a week, or even a month, before you make a move/make your interest obvious, as long as you keep giving her something interesting, which could be conversation (the actual back and forth kind of conversation with jokes, etc... not you listening to her problems and being afraid to ever tell her when you disagree).

[This_is_my_username]

Listen I'm never gonna look at a banana the same again.