I nearly had sex with my best friend's boyfriend?

Question

my best friend has been with this guy for a week and he called me and told me he didn't like my best friend he liked me, and he didn't tell me he liked me before because my best friend kept getting in the way and my bestfriend told him that i had a boyfriend so he thought he had no chance with me, he then said from the moment we first saw each other he wanted me and he said e knew that i liked him from the way that i looked at him, i didn't deny it cuz i really did like him, but i told him she's my bestfriend and i would never do that to her, he then told me to meet up with him so we could sort it out properly, i didn't want to go meet him but he said that he really really needs to say it to me in person, so i went and he hugged me and then told me he's going to break up with my bestfriend and he wats to be with me, said no but he kept saying yes, then he took me into a corner and put his arms around my waist, i pushed his hands off me but he kept touching me, then he started making out with me and to be honest i didn't stop him and i feel so bad because of that but i reallyyyy like him, he tried to take my bra off but i wouldn't let him, he then tried to pull my underwear down and i knew he wanted to have sex he had already unzipped his jeans his cock was right infront of me but i just told him no, so he carried on making out with me, he kept telling me im so beautiful and so perfect and while he was kissing me he told me he loves me i didn't say it back and he said it again, i just said okay and he stopped and was like expecting me to say it back so i did, and alssooo while he was making out with me he was rubbing his dick at the same time and then ejaculated, i dont know what to do cuz i feel so bad about it and everytime i talk to my best friend i feel guilty, shall i tell her or keep it a secret? but he wants to make us official so i dnt know what to do

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

1. " he said that he really really needs to say it to me in person, so i went." No, you knew what he wanted and the idea got you excited, so you went.

2. "i told him she's my best friend and i would never do that to her." Saying this does not make you a better person unless you follow through on it. Saying it and then making out with him just makes you a liar.

3. "he told me he loves me i didn't say it back and he said it again, i just said okay and he stopped and was like expecting me to say it back so i did." You have already decided to pursue a relationship with him. Be honest about this.

4. "shall i tell her or keep it a secret?" She will learn, either from you or from someone else. When she finds out, she will hate you and never again speak to you. Telling her is the right thing to do, but I don't think many people expect you to do the right thing.

5. Have a relationship with him. You can have fun while he fucks so hard it pops out your back end, but then you'll find out that he's fucking someone else. And you'll know that you've REALLY been fucked. . . and you brought it all on your self.

When all of this is over, think about what you have done and ask yourself if you feel proud of the way you conducted yourself.

SyLvEsTeR20007 · Accepted Answer

Lets put your friend to one side for the moment, this guy is a fuck dick, you dont want to be with him, he will cheat on you in an instant, he is only interested in what makes him happy, not other people if so, then he would not be so bla bla about your friend who he is about to leave and then the damage it will do to your friendship, all because he wants to FUCK YOU, not because he likes your, if he liked you, he wouldn't have cum like that in-front of you in such an un- private location. I mean, he is such a gentleman and obviously well versed in romance.

Hell, the way he was acting screams out future rapist, I am not joking, he is the kind of guy who would rape a woman if he was confident that he could get away with it (just look at the way he was acting towards you, he didn't care what you were saying as it didn't benefit him). Tell the police that he forced himself on you, it can be rape without penetration. He needs to learn some respect towards women.

WillowTree · Accepted Answer

Uh, okay first of all. I think you should really take a step back and get a real good look at this guy. He has a hard time controlling himself obviously and taking "no" as a reason to stop his advances.

Second, he's totally willing to cheat on his girlfriend, your friend, and possibly ruin your friendship. This doesn't seem to be a problem for him though it will be for you.

Third, it's going to ruin your friendship later down the line if you wait. At least if you tell her what he did then there may be a chance to salvage your friendship. She's going to be upset no matter what but at least your conscious is clean.

Fourth, guys come and go (literally sometimes) but good friends are hard to find.

Lys_Dis · Accepted Answer

Tell your friend it's HER boyfriend. And I don't know if you left some details out or something but it seems like he only likes you sexually him wanting to have sex with you right there in the open and with a girlfriend shows disrespect personally. Plus if he cheats on her what makes you think he won't cheat on you?

DancingDoll9 · Accepted Answer

If you guys are really true best friends you would tell her. And if this guy is willing to cheat on your best friend to try to have sex with you what makes you think he won't cheat on you too once he's gotten what he wants from you? He's not faithful and he definitely sounds like a player.

madhatters4 · Answer

you should tell her otherwise it makes you culpable and not a very good 'best'friend

and you should also seriously consider how wise it is to date a guy who would cheat on his girlfriend rather than just break up with her. he could just break up with her but he had so little will power that he chose instead to betray her

lightbulb27 · Answer

that dude is beyond jerk because he has no control or morals. terrible male. It was all fine up to the point he pulled you aside and said he was going to break up with your best friend. he should have done that and then gone after you.

if you like him, you get what you pay for... which is sex or misery, your choice.

yep, tell her, she has a real loser there, she'll find out the hard way anyways...

xPoison · Answer

Cool story bro

Catherine_1997 · Answer

You have to tell her... Chicks before dicks! You might lose the guy or the best friend but it's the right thing to do and not telling her could result in losing a bestfriend and also you being the bad person.

singlebee · Answer

Tell her everything that happened... Show her the post

davesmit · Answer

tell your friend he started making out with you and he tried to have sex with you and you stopped him. So she knows what kind of guy he is

Dont date him at all.. or anytime soon if you want to keep your friendship

GreatnessRevamped · Answer

He came while making out with you? I consider it sex. What about you guys?

Back to your question: if dude is serious then he needs to break up with your friend, give the reason why, then have a fallout period before taking you out.
Hopefully, your friend will understand.

TinyHope · Answer

Hw wants sex. even if he really likes you, he's not a good boyfriend material as he agreed to be her boyfriend knowing that he doesn't like her and you are best friends.