Slept with sis-in-law, should I tell my wife?

[Anonymous]

My sister in law just turned 40, and she has been dreading it. Sh kept saying she was getting old and she wouldn't look hot to men anymore. I don't know why she looks fabulous but she was taking it hard. My wife kept saying its a woman thing. Last week my wife left town on business, so I was home alone. My sis in law asks me over for dinner. This isn't uncommon I've been over to her house for dinner before when my wife has traveled for her job, so I said yes. Sis in law makes a nice pasta dish and wine. Lots of wine. We both get pretty loaded on the wine, and she then comes on to me. I wish I could say I stopped her but I didn't. We ended up having sex and I spent the night. I can't really blame it on the wine because the next morning we had sex again before I left. Now I feel tremendously guilty , as I know I should. Sis in law said she'd never tell which I'm positive she won't, but I think I need to let my wife know. We've been married for thirteen years. What do you think?

[mikemx55]

That will cause a lot of hate...

Your wife will hate you
Your wife will hate her sister
Her sister will hate you for telling
The family will hate you and the sister, cause those things always come up

You either shut it deep inside your mind, or you only tell her, if you are certain that it won't be drastic for the whole family. Everyone fucks up.

[AustinMan]

Do NOT tell her. No good comes from it. If you need to confess, find a good therapist. You fucked up big time but don't drag her into it. Resolve to never do it again and move on.

[kittykatbrat]

Totally agree.

[AustinMan]

Thanks for the MHG!

[AustinMan]

@kittykatbrat Thanks for the support. I get flamed routinely for this advice but it's the only course of action that makes sense.

[Poppykate]

So... I think we are missing the key question here... Who was better? You or your brother? Because in this situation either way you are in a BAD situation, and there is NO good way out. Well unless you change your name and move to some foreign country...

[Asker]

She's my wife sister. And if you are asking who was better her or my wife, wife is better at sex

[Poppykate]

Seriously, why? You need to keep this to yourself and hope that she doesn't say anything!

[Poppykate]

But how weird is it going to be now at family BBQs and Christmas dinners!

[Zygum]

Bad is bad

[Anonymous]

Keep it Quiet, take it from someone who is smarter. If you say anything, your wife will end up going or she might not forgive you.
Talk again to the other and oh, brother, Never do it again.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you for the Like and the Vote of Confidence... Go now, hun, and sin no more behind the closed door. xxoo

[HookingSwan]

:/ damn u fucked up pretty good

no pun intended

nd ure completely to blame

the wine never was

i suppose u two were having problems already

[Astraea]

This is going to eat you up for the rest of your life and it will come out at some point... talking in your sleep, when you're drunk, under anesthetic etc.

[aficionado]

Yes, you need to tell your wife, and possible face divorce.

[mooky06]

I'm sure she'd like to know. Prepare for the worst.

[mrfoox]

Be honest. Tell your wife, she deserves to know what happened

[dumnerdroid]

i guess if you are willing to end the relationship by being honest

[Zendrya]

You definitely need to tell your wife

[underageGUY]

what would you do if you were the wife?

[Zendrya]

@underageGUY divorce his ass but she deserves to know

[underageGUY]

then he shouldn't tell unless he wants divorce

[Zendrya]

@underageGUY then he should tell her if he doesn't want to be more of an asshole than he already is

[underageGUY]

it is common thing what if everyone got divorced for cheating.

[Zendrya]

@underageGUY It is deserved. It isn't that hard not to cheat if you are a decent person and have morals

[underageGUY]

no one can control sexual desire 100%

[Zendrya]

@underageGUY you say that cause you're 13. Trust me you can. It isn't that hard to keep your pants on

[underageGUY]

if 13 can't keep pants on, who can? 23/33/43?

[Zendrya]

@underageGUY 13 can't because he's going through puberty and will bang anything that moves when you grow up there is a high chance you'll mature a bit and understand what commitment means

[underageGUY]

will bang anything but i wouldn't bang you

[Zendrya]

@underageGUY good... you're only 13

[underageGUY]

would you let me if i wanted?

[Zendrya]

@underageGUY ewww god no

[underageGUY]

why no?

[Zendrya]

@underageGUY you're a baby.

[underageGUY]

many mature women I know of would disagree this statement

[Zendrya]

@underageGUY bahahahaha okay hunny

[underageGUY]

you are just 18. where is the big gap here. bet I can bang you 10x in a day.

[Zendrya]

@underageGUY I like vagina. Nice try

[underageGUY]

i too like vagina, we could do threesome.

[Zendrya]

@underageGUY you should go try and bang someone who a) wants to and b) wouldn't get put in jail for it

[underageGUY]

you can message me in private, i think my message system is not working.

[Zendrya]

@underageGUY or not :p good effort though. Have a good day

[underageGUY]

you too. &thank you.

[cavmanier]

Sure sure

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[kittykatbrat]

If you both have no plans to ever do this again, say nothing at all to anyone ever!!!

[Prodigium]

I can't predict the outcome, but I would tell my wife.
I'd go to her, be dead serious, and tell her that I've done something horrible and that I'd do anything to take it back. Man up, and tell her.

With a lie, big as this, it will conclude to more lies. Lies built open lies. Also be sober when you tell her, and make sure you tell her that you love her, even more by the day.

[Bandit74]

The past is the past 😏

[Intraluminal]

Keep your mouth firmly shut. Take this secret to your grave. Right now, you feel bad. Maybe your SIL feels bad. If you tell, you'll feel worse, your SIL and your wife will hate each other, and everyone will feel bad. Shit the Fick up. Live with it.

[jjesica346]

Tell her before you start a family... if you respect her! Dont lock her ass down w/your kids so her life is a complete lie! She does need to know your crooked and her sister is a back stabbing hoe!!!

[chrisbigman]

Yes, homewrecker.

[Chadster]

You my friend are on very dangerous ground. Is this sis-in-law your wife's sister? If she is that might make a difference. On the other hand do you want to keep poking the sis-in-law when wife is away? Lots to think about and consider. You may lose your wife if you tell her.

[Aqualung]

I ain't even reading you rationalization. Your a dead man. it will eventually come out.

[lovedejj_xo]

Just here for the comments... good luck 😳

[Entruder]

Tell her the truth and be prepared to face the consequences you have no say in. Do you want to die guilty and knowing you have wronged the "love" of your life the whole time? Why would you let your wife suffer later on when she finds out on her own if you don't tell her now? How about when you have children or if you do already? Do you want to complicate their lives when she finds out? Do you want your children or future children to resent you when they're older and want nothing to do with you after you hurt their mother? TELL HER FFS

[anonman32]

yeah dude your wife can join in.

[bcromartie]

Do you have children?

[Asker]

No kids

[bcromartie]

Okay, do whatever you want to do; the only people who will be effected are the sisters and ultimately that may undo them and their relationship but no children are harmed in the making of this drama.

[Zygum]

Do not tell your wife. Your relationship will be badly effected. So keep your relationship with your sister in law but be careful

[DaGrilo]

You lucky son of a gun!!
Wish my sister-in-law would invite me for dinner with her alone without her asshole of a husband present.