Had a one night stand with a guy and now can't stop thinking about him?

[emmalove18]

I am a 24 year old female, I have had plenty one night stands, sometimes good, sometimes bad, sometime average, one thing is consistent though I am always happy for them to leave in the morning and don't give them a second thought again. A lot of the time after these one night stands the guys will text or message me and I usually don't reply or if I do it is very short lived. On Friday night, I met a guy in a bar, I was instantly attracted to him, I took him Home, we had sex in my Kitchen, in my bedroom and then again the next morning. The sex was amazing, like the best I've had in a long longgg time, he knew exactly what he was doing and gave me an orgasm with his fingers whilst he was inside me. The next morning it wasn't awkward at all, we cuddled, we kissed, we chatted, I remember him being funny. He messaged me when he got home, and we have snap chatted and messaged back and forth since then. The thing is I just can't stop thinking about him, when I think about him I get all tingly and just horny. Don't get me wrong, I don't care that he probably views me as easy, I am not looking for a relationship, with him or anyone at the moment. I am far too young to give up my freedom and fun but why can't I stop thinking about this guy when I have no issues forgetting the rest? Judge me as you like, think I am a slut, I don't mind. I am a 24 year old girl that enjoys sex with different men, I am safe and not hurting anyone. I will think about settling down when I turn 30.

[btbc92]

Your not going to be happy having all of these men by thine your 30. Your risking higher chance for misery and divorce, because you will never stop thinking about these men while having sex with your husband. You'll relive every single detail in your mind. That is what sex does to you outside of marriage with multiple people. There are numerous scientific studies that shows what happens to our brain when we do this. Being young have nothing do with it, and this is not freedom. This is sexual bondage your in now. You may not think it, but it;s already started. So if you have no problem comparing your husband to this guy any any other guy, that's on you. And don't say you won't or that it won't happen to me, because all men and women do this in their minds, or flat out say it. All have done this one point in time that it hurt the spouse and caused somebody to cheat and deteriorate the marriage. I'm just warning you now, because I care about your well being. My friend just got married at 24 and she is happy with her husband, no sex, and waited. What to do outside of marriage you will take in marriage. Sex is not a game. Sex is a binding contract wither you like or not. And if your expecting marriage at 30, I got news for you, it's harder with age and with that many, not all is going to be too keen in having you as a wife/mother and your thinking with this attitude and risk divorce. Because these days not a lot of men will tolerate it.

[emmalove18]

Oh please, if I don't get married that is just fine. Marriage isn't for everyone. When I say settle down, I mean I won't be out partying every weekend, sleeping with different guys every couple of months will stop, I will be open to having a committed relationship but if that never happens then that is okay. I don't rely on another person for my happiness. I am not sleeping with these men because I am unhappy and hoping to find love or to cause myself harm in anyway, I sleep with these men because I ENJOY it. That's my choice. I disagree with your opinions. Withholding from sex before marriage is a choice I respect, but saying that it is not a choice I have chosen or ever wanted to choose.

[btbc92]

Well as long as you know what you want to do then that's fine. But marriage or not, this will still effect you for life. If you don't believe it, that's on you. It's still not the reality. Sex can be enjoyable, but still trending on dangerous grounds. Everything creeps up on you like cancer, it spreads like cancer. Either way, your not going to forget it and it will impact your future encounters. Everybody has to reap something. And by 30, your not going to want to settle down because it's additive to you now. Your going to have an extremely hard time controlling those urges.

[emmalove18]

Be quiet please. I have had 2 serious relationships, on for three years where I lived with the guy, did not cheat on him even though I did have a past by that point. The other one was a year and a half where I also lived with him, never cheated or had any problems about my past. Tell me how you can be so sure that this will catch up with me and spread like cancer? Unless you have been through the same experiences as myself and judging by your preaching I am assuming you have not. So please tell me how you know. To say something I do every couple of months is going to become addictive is like saying to someone whom has a drink once every couple of months is going to become addicted. There is no basis, that is not a fact more so another ignorant, pointless opinion. I may become addicted, I also may not. That is depending on personality and addictive characteristics. Thank you however, for your concern.

[btbc92]

I know because everything follows a pattern. A pattern that is easily read if not corrected. Therapist knows, and anybody who studies psychology knows this. The problem is many refuse to tell you, because it's about the money and your tax dollars. And many things I have predicted the outcome of many relationships have already came to past. It's often right there, but people don't bother or care to see it. Some are able to correct it in time, other's leave it to rot. At that point, had you done different, your past relationships could have been saved if both of you and your partner was on the same page. Your basically telling me you don't want to hear it because your still dealing with those past issues even now. I know, because how your expressing your true feelings. And I already basically knew you had past relationship issues. You just helped confirmed my suspicions. That's all. Therefore I was able to access the pattern. Yours is just slower then others. Best Regards.

[Cmasterson]

Probably because you had a deeper connection, and you two had that attraction, it really has to be mutual for it not to be awkward or anything. I think thats just that, you really enjoyed your time, more than the others. It's none of my business who you sleep with, just be safe about it obviously.

[doetrioux]

Perfectly normal to feel attracted to people, especially on a emotional and romantic level for some more than others. Frankly, I'm not going to judge you. No interest in doing that, because I don't know you, and there's probably something more. Sex is awesome, everyone desires it, and in some sense people find it to be required every so often. So keep going about what you are doing.

You obviously caught feelings for more than just the sex. The sex was amazing, as you say, and he was also a good communicator. He was funny, and he was interesting. Not the usual one-night stand. If you want to avoid feeling like this, well, you're only option is to drop him, and go through the short-lived moving on process. However, if you like this feeling, then in someway you should go out with him. Or do friends with benefits. Really doesn't matter. Just realize that it has two outcomes if you choose this route: you both break up or you both settle down.

But since you don't want to give up sleeping with different men, then I think you should drop him, it'd help you, but it'd do this other guy some good, so he doesn't go down a dark road that in the future he'll wish he never went down.

Just some food for thought

[AustinMan]

Maybe you need to adjust that timetable for settling down or at least giving it some serious thought. Reach out to him and suggest he come over for dinner and fun and games, presuming you have something you can cook that's really good. Get to know him and not just his body.

[Tdieseler]

Lust is a powerful thing. especially if one has as high a libido as yours. There is nothing wrong with replaying game tapes of a very very amazing sexual experience and wanting more. The only thing to be wary of is not to mistake the lust for love. You said you like having sex with different people, maybe its time you considered a friends with benefits situation since this is good enough?

[NJ_Casanova]

I guess you found one that you actually like. Maybe the time to just be with one guy happened sooner than you think? From how you talk about other hook ups... I'd be worried that you might mess up/lose the right one (maybe this guy).

[Dantheman101]

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