Is my boyfriend full-blown gay, a feminine straight man, or bisexual?

[hickeysrproblematic]

all my friends who meet him comment on his "gay voice" which I noticed myself when we first started going out. He has zero male friends and literally all his friends are girls, although somehow I don't get any sort of vibe that he's personally attracted to them. He loves Madonna and walks that "walk" sometimes. We haven't had sex but have fooled around and when I gave him a bj, he went soft. he goes to a different school than me that a friend of mine has friends at, and all of them are convinced he's gay and says he has messed around with guys at his school. After I found this out I straight up asked if he was gay and he did not even flinch or act surprised but all he said was "No." Very calmly and without any hesitation, but no concern either. he didn't say anything about him going soft, he just pulled up his boxers and asked if we could do more some other time. He is also a virgin still although he is extremely attractive& he's admitted to having many opportunities to lose it. Also, the mutual friend who introduced us has been friends with him for 2 years& told me he was gay at first, but after he asked me out the friend was like "whoops guess he's not gay!" I told him about this&he said the mutual friend had asked him out when they first met and he had said no, to overcompensate that he is not attracted to her he said he may have acted gay accidentally or maybe that's the impression she got because he refused to talk about girls in front of her. He's had girlfriends. he doesn't dress gay. He dresses like a fuckboy. All Nike&athletic shorts&adidas sandals. He doesn't give a shit about his hair and smoke a shit ton of weed along with doing other drugs occasionally. He was raised by his mom&2 sisters, could that account for some of his more feminine traits? He is also on an anti-depressant which may be the reason for him going soft during oral. we had been making out intensely and had dry-humped for quite a while and he'd had a hard on the entire time, I felt it

[Gman1]

So hard to say... Were the rumors of him messing around with other guys vetted?
I find it suspicious that he would go limp with a bj at his age, even if on anti depressants.
I think there is a possibility of him being gay, might be exploring his sexuality and maybe doesn't want to admit to being gay, or even know for sure himself.
My niece married a guy... Who would go limp during sex, and apparently also messed around with at least one guy in highschool, got caught kissing in a broom closet, i don't know the details or how he played it off or if he denied it at the time, but they eventually divorced like after 6 mos... He decided he wanted to move away to be with his "friend".
My nice is very good looking and fit too.
I look at it like this... He might be a cool friend to hang out with for you... But if indeed he is gay, and or can't hold an erection for you, its probably just not gonna work out.
I understand maybe you want to give him the benefit of the doubt... But in the long run looking at the big picture, women equate not being able to get or keep an errection with them as not being attracted to them... Every woman I've known enjoy seeing and getting their man aroused and view it as a turn on to know he's hot for her... Its like an accomplishment of sorts for her.
So while you may give him some time to come to your own analysis... You have to ask yourself for your own answers if its worth it or not :-/

[Gman1]

To add... He could have a testosterone deficiency as well... Something he may want to get checked.

[truthbeknown]

Good chance he is in the closet, but for sure at least very feminine.

[selmo93]

Some men are like that.

[DocT1977]

I don't know him, but based on what you are saying, it sounds like you have a soy boy beta male. Honestly, I have a hard time telling where they stand exactly.

[Anonymous]

ye sounds gay to me

[Anonymous]

Probably in the closet