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My boyfriend watches weird porn... (shemale, incest) Should I be worried?

Ok so I think I'm very sexually open minded.. But recently I've went through my bf's web history out of curiosity (he's said that he doesn't mind me checking his phone even though I didn't ask. He cleaned out his messages when we first started dating and I don't know if he still does, but I feel as if I can trust him. Guess he didn't figure I'd check his history.. Anywayyyss..), I discovered some disturbing shit. First was shemale porn. I've watched this once before myself and although I wasn't into it, I still used it so, whatever. The more I thought about it though, considering he likes anal play in bed, I thought maybe he likes dick and started to worry bc I ain't got one of those lol. Then I convinced myself if he liked guys he would probably watch gay porn, maybe he just likes watching dick being sucked and fucked without the masculine aspect of it. Girls are sexy anyhow, I personally usually only watch lesbian porn exclusively, yet I don't wish my boyfriend had a vagina, so I doubt he wishes I had a penis. This calmed my worries tremendously. HOWEVER, I just found "Mom and son love" and I'm fucking weirded out. I don't even watch mom and daughter shit... Or sister fucks... Incest is gross in my opinion and considering I have a son and my boyfriend jokes about himself having "mommy issues", I'm pretty concerned. I don't want to stick this out for the long run to find out my boyfriend is seriously fucked up in the head. I reeally like him so far though... And I'm very adamant about making him my last (he's very smitten with me as well). Should I be worried? Advice?
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  • Eh. I'm a white guy that likes watching some interracial scenes. I can't even apply this to reality. It's just something different. I like the color contrast and the taboo feeling of it.

    The shemale stuff... I mean sexuality is on a sliding scale, especially for women. (like most women, you admitted to liking to watch lesbian porn even though you may not even identify as bisexual) maybe he is at least somewhat attracted to men, but that doesn't mean he wants to introduce that type of stuff into his real life.

    Incest porn is just another type of fetish porn. I mean, he could have issues of course, but maybe he just likes more taboo scenarios. It's all fake anyways other than some really obscure messed up amateur stuff.

    Think about it this way. If he was watching a bunch of scenes where the husband is cheating on his wife with her best friend or something, would that make you assume he wanted to cheat on you? Some people dig gang bang scenes but they would never want to participate in one in real life.

    It's really not worth psychoanalyzing people's porn preferences. Sometimes it just takes more unique and interesting and different from their normal reality scenarios in porn to get the job done. Porn is purely visual and it never factors in all the other things that normal sex does.

    • That's a very valid point. Whenever I search for porn I'm not searching for any characteristics that I look for in a partner and I often just find myself choosing based on how the image looks or what is associated with the video (ex: oral sex, creampie, POV). I'm probably worrying over nothing.

    • Well said! Very deserving of MHG!

  • He seems quite odd to me.

    That said, I must admit that I liked those kinds of mom & son ones before for a time.

    The idea of incest repulses me, but somehow I found those videos fascinating. I think maybe it was just the ridiculous kind of role-play between an older woman and son, or maybe just because I find Jodi West attractive (she was the one doing these kinds of series of pornographic videos that I found interesting, and there was a level of acting going on that generally went far beyond usually porno scenes which I liked).

    The she-male one seems odder to me, as I can't relate to that at all.

    • Oddly enough, I understand the shemale one after contemplation. He's told me that he likes POV, helps him imagine it's real or whatever.. Considering a dick needs to be involved, yet all other masculine traits eliminated, I understand him liking tranny porn. It's like lesbian sex only instead of a strap on over her puss, she's got a thobbing boner lol. It's just the incest that I have an issue with considering the previous things he's told me of his life..

    • I see -- well, if he's like me about this incest porn, it's not this idea of family having sex that excites me in those. I'm not remotely attracted to my sister or my mother and find the reality of the situation repulsive. It's more just the fact that those videos have a degree of role-playing and acting which kind of paints a scenario more than, say, a girl delivering a pizza to a guy and having sex or something like that. Those things kind of place emphasis on some degree of acting skills which I find draws me to the situation more. I'm weird -- my ideal porno is like Game of Thrones (that good of a story-line, that fine of acting, but then with hardcore sex scenes).

    • I'm one of those types who object when people complain are offended by raunchy sex scenes in films and say like, "Just watch a porno." I want to reply, "But porno doesn't have such a compelling story, acting, characters I end up caring about!"

Most Helpful Girls

  • Id worry he is into tranny porn. That shit doesn't make sense in any sort. They know they are mean but still beat off too it. Male sexuality is weird. And if he is into butt play he most likely is wishing your a tranny. He gets his homo fantasies out and still argues he is straight. Like girls dont watch transmen porn that shit is disgusting.

    • I've watched tranny porn & I understand it. I'm no longer worried that he wishes I was a man. He loves eating pussy and talks about it more often than anything lol

    • you dont have many lgbt friends do you? Its generally the first step to being full on gay without the commitment. Generally bi guys watch tranny porn because to them is the best of both world they desire. Gays watched tranny porn or a lot still do beacuse it was the first step to them taking the full plunge of coming out... lol Id talk to him humans aren't attracted to transpeople its not in our dna he has a fetish and that is by definition a mental disorder.

    • Lol homosexuality is NOT a mental disorder and hasn't been considered such since like the 70's. "Humans" are into whatever they're into.. Sexuality is merely a form of expression. Just because many gays watch tranny porn doesn't mean that only people whom identify as gay or bi watch it. Besides, I wouldn't be offended if he was also capable of being attracted to guys; I just don't want him to leave me for one.

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  • A fantasy is a fantasy. I don't think he would make you do those things or pressure you to do those things. Just play it by ear and if you start to feel uncomfortable multiple times then dump him. Just be thankful his not into beastiality... that's weird lol

    • Ok yeah beastiality is definitely weird lmao and he would never make me do anything I don't want to... I'm just concerned that I'll get attached and eventually marry the guy and he turns out to be severely fucked up lbvs

    • Once you start living together you will find out what type of guy he is. You always find out more about a person when you start living with your partner or even staying over on the weekend. I wouldn't worry about it :)

  • Maybe he watched it out of curiosity, maybe keep checking it and if it comes up again just initiate a conversation about porn and ease into the subject

  • Fantasies are what they are. If it concerns you, talk to him. It can't hurt.

    • This is fucked up on my part but I don't want to admit to snooping.

    • If he doesn't mind it, I don't think it'll be a problem.

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  • When you have seen a lot of porn you start looking for some
    different kinds of porn to get you excited.

    I've seen pretty much all the categorys of porn there is,
    for some reason i never really get excited by it if i see it in real life.
    It's only a personal fantasy to get you off when you're alone.

    So in my case at least it doesn't affect my real life.

    • That's a possibility I've considered.. Nice to have it reinforced from a male perspective 👍

  • I watch all that stuff too. Lots of guys do. Our minds are too busy to only focus and enjoy regular sex. This is where porn comes in with themes likes those. It doesn't mean he wants to experience that in real life. It is just more exciting sometimes compared to straight sex missionary position.

  • he's a fucking weirdo..

    • No lie he is lol but that's one of the major things I like about him. Incest though, nahh I can't deal with that..

    • incest is easier to deal with than the shemale shit... im mean wtf..

    • The shemale videos are essentially lesbian pork only rather than a strapon, the woman, huge tits and very feminine, completely lacking any masculinity besides.. The throbbing boner between her legs lmao. The shemale stuff, to me, makes more sense because it's like watching a combination of hetero and homo- you don't have to see some bald guy's hairy ballsack, instead, you can watch a girl get penetrated with a REAL dick while she fucks some one who looks completely female. The incest stuff is disturbing bc it's mother & son how is that "more" acceptable?

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  • Look I can't judge anyone here, I have watched all those types of porn too even tho I wouldn't do it in real life ever. However I always stick to women but incest is a bit weird for me, I couldnt watch it.
    Do you have an open and honest relationship? If so, then talk to him, open up to him and try to get him to open up to you.
    Most likely, he was just bored. Porn is kinda boring, its not like real sex so people end up watching all that weird shit.

  • Not every guy (or even most of them) want to act on every fantasy they've ever entertained. Also, when they're already horny, guys will find a lot of stuff hot that they don't normally. After they come they lose interest in the weird stuff again.

    TLDR: I wouldn't worry about it.

  • Statistically over 90% of tranny-porn watchers are self-identified heteros.

  • No you shouldn't be worried, "incest" porn is actually way more common and popular than you think. I'd be more weirded out about the shemale porn than the incest tbh.

  • I think you shouldn't be so hung up about it.

  • Why worry? Would you prefer that he wouldn't watch porn, but cheat on you?

  • lol you are weirded out by incest porn but not by tranny porn? hahaha.

    • The "tranny" shit is like REALLY sexy women with HUGE cocks. I'm not gonna lie, it's fascinating to see those body parts on one person. But yeah incest grosses me out... Like, I'm a mom. A mother and son shouldn't have sex. He came out of her vag and should NEVER go back in 😷

    • no that shit is fucking weird. to each their own i guess.

  • Yah u should be

  • They have titles on the videos?

  • There are people who want to fuck dead corpses. I wouldn't worry about your boyfriends weird fantasies too much. When you think about it, everyone who is into kinky stuff is a little fucked up in the head for it.

    I like that stuff too but i'm not gay or bi. The whole incest thing I like though. Could never do it for real though. Some things are really sexy in porn and not at all in real life.

    I do find it strange that he doesn't do everything he can to hide it though. When I search for stuff like that, I go incognito every time. I have a separate browser that is set up not to save anything hidden somewhere specifically for porn because I'm super self conscious about what I like.

  • i think you should talk to him about it cause it's really weird and uncommon to watch things like that. I hope he doesn't have a sister

    • He's an only child.

    • and that's still weird

  • thats ok

  • Porn is like a drug the more you do it the more you get used to it and therefore seek higher intensity and content to create a feeling. An example of this is when I was 12 I watched normal sex and plain stuff and I would cum so quickly. But anyway now I watch skat, prolapse, girl strap on guy... And so on.
    This is no real reflection of me. Taboo turns me on because normal doesn't get me hard anymore. Incest is hot in Porn. But these things I'd find disgusting if it was real.
    That's why I clear my history because I know my girlfriend and girls in general are less understanding.

  • Calm down girl. First of all, 99%of these videos are fakes. In the past I was also curious about mum and son love porn. It was just because of curiosity. Age gap turns me on. But never crossed in my mind to have sex with much older woman. I never saw my mum as sexual object. It's gross. It was just my mum. But for help during mastrubation this kind of porn can be helpful. That's it.

    • This makes me worry a bit more... Prior to me, he's always dated older women. And considering he "jokes" about having mommy issues, it concerns me..

    • I always date older women too. But 8 years older was my max. You should definitely talk to him and be curious why he's with you. You didn't mentioned how long you're together. It crossed my mind that he's really interested in older women but he wants to try someone with similar age like him. Maybe he wants kids but he knows that older women couldn't have them. Like I said, you can talk to him about this without your confession snooping around. Like have a talk about previous partners, etc. Like this you will maybe find out how much he's really interested in older women.

    • Sounds like you boyfriend is open with you? Just ask he? Its the easiest way to find out. Dont act grossed out about it and he be honest. Porn is porn nothing more.

  • Couldn't be bothered with weird porn. And why the hell is everyone into watching gay crap when they're not gay

    • We don't really like labeling our sexuality lol ig I could say I'm attracted to men and women and he says he's only attracted to women but tbh I feel that there's a lot of grey areas that don't necessarily need to be defined. I'm just not into hillbilly shit.

    • So you're bi?

    • Are most girls bi these days cause I'm really getting concerned?

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