Guys, Does it mean anything that he cums fast with me but doesn't really orgasm?

[Anonymous]

About my boyfriend by the way. Well now ex. But I gave him head several times when dating and he came super fast every time like within 5 minutes. He says he never comes that fast and I believe him because I know he is very experienced and takes forever to jack off and sometimes doesn't even cum with certain girls ( he has told me a lot about his sex life). At first I assumed it was due to a lot of attraction for me because he was crazy about me saying I was so attractive 24/7 but he also said although he cums fast it isn't a really satisfying orgasm or barely one at all. Were broken up now but still mess around sometimes so the other day I went down on him and he came in like 3 minutes but honestly I didn't even think he was into what we were doing that much beforehand, I kinda felt like his attraction to me and desire for me had decreased a lot through the break up. So does it mean anything? Is it just the way I do it or is it him or what?

[Anonymous]

5 minutes isn't REALLY fast... 3 is a little bit fast.

Did you know that most men ejaculate within 4 to 5 minutes of penis penetration inro their sexual. partner's vagina?

Taking forever to jack off is not really a marker to compare with because there is a much heightened level of arousal+excitement when a girl is being beautifully sexual with a man's cock through either touch, licking/sucking and/or insertion into her vagina.

[Asker]

Just going by what he told me, that it's a lot faster than it is for him usually.

[GingerGuy]

Agree with him. I'm not sure what you're concerned about but if he's ejaculating sooner with you then while masturbating that's a good thing. It means you are visually and/or stimulating him very well, probably both. Other girls didn't do as good of a job obviously. And it hasn't decreased obviously as well because it's still taking 3 mins so I'm not sure why you think it has? It might just be your (ex) boyfriends personality that's making you question it? The average "love making" session in America (this includes everything, foreplay etc) only last 7 mins so this seems normal lol

[Opinion Owner]

Havs you never had penis-vagina sex with him?

[Asker]

@gingerguy I guess I'm just questioning everything lately due to the trouble we are having with our personal relationship/the end of it. Like I said he just didn't seem as into it as he had before and doesn't act all crazy about his attraction to me but I guess that's because he's masking it due to the break up. I don't know.

[Asker]

No I haven't

[GingerGuy]

Yes the breakup will be affecting him. I'm actually surprised you're still having sex.

[Anonymous]

Why do you continue to have sex with an ex? How can you have self-esteem and pride if you conduct yourself like that?

[Asker]

I'm not overly concerned with the opinions of others? I'm content with what I do, I don't see where pride comes into play. But then again I'm not a prideful person.

[Opinion Owner]

If you don't understand why pride is important, you will pay a heavy price as you get older.

[Asker]

When did I say I don't understand the importance of pride? I simply said I'm not prideful. There's a difference between maintaining your pride and being a prideful person. The latter can be negative. What about sex with an ex deprives someone of their pride? And if you personally feel that way why do you think everyone must?

[Opinion Owner]

You said, "I don't see where pride comes into play." My interpretation is that you don't feel pride is important, but your statement was ambiguous. You have clarified your intent for me. It is not a matter of everyone agreeing with me. Everyone need not agree with me. No one needs to agree with me. My statement is not based upon what I consider to be right or proper, but my understanding of human behavior and an assumption that you fall within the norms of human behavior. Again, that is an assumption and if I am wrong, you may disregard everything I said. I am not here to force my views on anyone. I don't profit from that. But I do have enough experience to have seen and recognized consistent patterns in behavior. I do know that people often have regrets about their behavior when they get older. Some of those regrets arise from being too casual about sex. But again, if you do not follow those patterns, then you must be a truly exceptional person.

[Asker]

I'm not even having actual sex with him. It only happened because I came over to apologize for some things and ended up feeling horny. Personally I'm not one to regret things like that.

[mohamedivv]

no it is normal