Broke up with her because she started a threesome. Was I right?

OK, so this is kind of a long story. I saw a girl I really liked a lot for 6 months. Now for the bad. We had dinner and were driving to her place when we saw an ex-housemate walking down the road. We stopped and picked him up. At this point I was already wasted and drinking vodka and orange juice. The 3 of us went to her house and partied for a bit with her housemate, then she pitched the idea of driving 20 miles away, across the mountain, to a farm she kept her horses at to party. I blacked out and I think was actually passed out for much of the ride. i went to bed in a pile of blankets in the haybarn, she took him on a horseback ride, then she came back and came to bed with me. I woke up and we had sex. I think we went to sleep after. At some point in the middle of the night, we were awake again. We had sex again, doggystyle. Now here's where things went horribly wrong. I heard my friend giggling. It was really dark and he was laying right next to us, it turned out. I didn't really care and kept at it. Then I heard him going "oh, yeah. Oh, yeah, yeah". I realized in horror that she was sucking his dick. Instead of yanking her away and yelling at her, I kept going. In my head, I remember being like "well, she just wants to be a freak and wants to be used for sex. Fuck it". I made things worse. I told her to ride him and then we did all the freaky stuff you might imagine. I broke up with her a month later. I couldn't take her betrayal. When I did, I asked her to imagine if that had been a female friend of hers lying there and we'd been having sex and I just started fingering her friend's vagina and she had no idea that I was doing so until she heard her friend moaning. I engaged in the three some once she started it. But I never, ever would so such a thing as the above to a girl. Can you give me your opinion? Was I right? Even though I fucked up too, I know I wouldn't have started it. I'd like girls and guys opinions.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I don't think you are right or wrong.

    However, your relationship with her will never be the same after that experience. You claimed a sense of betrayal which tells everyone that you are not happy with the whole scenario which is a typical masculine stance. In a romantic relationship, the women is regarded, respected and admired as a possession by her man and men do not share sacred possessions well.

    Alcohol impedes judgement and everyone's judgement was skewed that night. Your relationship with her will always carry the ugliness of your perceived betrayal.

    The only right thing in this case would be to extend forgiveness. Not reconciliation but forgives and move on.

    Even strong marriages don't survive this type of betrayal for long. underlying resentment creeps in and ruins everything.

  • Yes, you did screw up, to some extent, but you were drunk. She had already screwed up before you made your mistake so she could not possibly think that your mistake justified her in doing what she did. If you can't tolerate that behavior, leave her ass. You owe her no apology.

    You are at an age where guys are thinking of settling down, marriage, having children, etc. Could you possibly see her as the mother of your children?

Most Helpful Girls

  • And this ladies and gentlemen is the difference between a man and a woman. When a woman does something overtly sexual she's a "freak" and "wants to be used for sex" and will inevitably be dumped, whereas a guy would simply be called kinky.

  • You're not that wrong in my opinion. I mean, why were you against her sucking her dick but then keep going? Lol
    I don't know. I'd just have walked away and let them fuck.
    I would definitely end it as well.

  • If this is not what you want in a girlfriend, then don't ever settle for less and waste your time. I would also advise you to ease up on the alcohol so you can be aware of your surroundings always.

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  • You did right, but you have fallen into the classic situation of consuming way too much alcohol. You don't need it to be able to enjoy yourself, and as you've found, it can lead to unforseen trouble!

  • Yeah, this is something she should have told you about while sober beforehand. This should not have have been a surprise to you. But if you were truly horrified at his dick being in her mouth, why would you agree to let her fuck him? Just wondering.

  • you did the right thing, dont worry

  • She wasn't you're girlfriend anyways..
    Fuck her
    Sloots will sloot