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Guys, Why does my boyfriend watch porn on a daily basis?

So recently i tried something way out of my comfort zone. I allowed my boyfriend to fuck me while watching porn. I was very hesistant at first because i HATE porn. I dont like the fact that he watches it. He kept asking me one day when we were about to have sex and i finally said yes to give it a try and see what it would be like. I ended up enjoying it. From that day on me and my boyfriend would fuck while watching porn. It wasn't every single time we would have sex. I then figured out he was watching porn behind my back again, and that royally pissed me off. I didn't understand why he would be watching porn when i was allowing him to fuck me to it. Which is what he wanted really bad. After i found that out, i wouldn't allow it anymore. Now he's been watching porn on a regular basis again. He doesn't hide it well at home so i find out right away. He told me he wouldn't watch porn because he didn't have a reason too (because i was allowing him to fuck me while watching it.) And that really pissed me off. It makes me feel like he's not sexually satisfied with me. I might just be way over thinking it. But it just doesn't make ANY sense to me at all. Why is this happening? And he will continuously ask me if we can rent a porno
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  • Porn is an addictive form of media, I was in the exact same boat. Sometimes he's likely watching porn just because it's something he does in his spare time, sometimes it's probably for sexual stimulation. Don't outright ban him from doing it, it won't help. It needs to be his decision to stop or slow his intake of it. People are internally motivated. You'll likely have to start by talking to him about how it makes you feel. Be direct, guys don't understand subtlety well. Once he's convinced to stop, you'll likely have to ease him off it by transitioning his primary sexual outlet from porn to you. Try providing him with more sexual gratification to help with that. It's hard, but if you can convince him to do it, it's well worth it.

    • I have told him multiple times how it makes me feel. And he just doesn't care because he continues to do it. I tried it with him cuz he wanted to try it really bad and he was happy but then i just dont understand why he would go behind my back and continue to watch it. I would never ban him from it. Because thats impossible.

  • First thing: calm down and BREATHE!! Porn is about fantasy and convenience, not displeasure with our woman.

    www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a5423-why-men-watch-porn

    • I feel like he overly watches it. It just makes me wonder what must be wrong with me for him to watch it as much as he does. I satisfy him every time we have sex. The sex is amazing.

    • That's exactly why you should ignore it. He's very happy with you. Did you read the My Take?

    • I'll sit there after i had a little rant about it and think about how i probably just over reacted and am over thinking it way to much, but then its a cycle that repeats itself. No i didn't. What is it about?

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  • Okay before I answer your question I must first ask you a few things why do you feel that his porn viewing has anything to do with you and do you masterbate and or have you ever masterbated? Yes both the question I ask are relevant and I'm not trying to be rude but simply trying to get you to see a point on which I will be making once you answer said questions.

    • I feel like he watches porn because he's not sexually saitisfied with me. I understand when he gets sexually aroused he wants to take care of it then and there if me and him are not together. But i also feel like he watches it because maybe he isn't satisfied with me. Meaning maybe by the way my body looks. I dont masturbate. When i was curious and younger i have a couple times before, but i haven't in I don't know how long. I dont feel the need to because im sexually satiafied with my boyfriend. I just dont find it pleasurable at all to me personally.

    • Porn is ment to be a sexual outlet a way to have a visual conception on a mental aspect. You yourself actually have very little to do with his viewing of porn. Now understand that for many porn and masturbation is to mainly be used in a personal sense and i say that because well sometimes it's just nice to have some you time. What he has done is taken his sexual arousal to porn and linked it with his sexual arousal to you so in other words odds are while he was watching porn he visualised you and now that you and him are having sex while he watches he conceptionally has created a fail safe fantacy. In other words with you there it closes the gap on what he may want sexually to do with you which is represented in the porn itself. Physically your just fine and are his main attraction so don't worry there but I would sudjest examining his porn preferences and seeing what stile of sex he may want to actually have with you maybe he wants harder or softer sex maybe bdsm or toy play.

    • The reality is only by looking at the porn and breaking it down can you see what he is aiming at. Now understand porn is a n extreme version of what may be wanted most of the time so if the porn he watches is full of bdsm that dosent mean he would want to wipe you or cause you pain but maybe that he wouldn't mind being more exploitative sexually. In either case if you don't like having sex with him while watching porn then dont and know that his viewing of porn dosent mean he isn't head over heels attracted to you it really dose just mean he may want to be more exploitative. One good thing to try is finding a spot that is secluded from people and going for some out door fun in the sexual since of it. Sometimes it's just changing seen or being a bit more explorative. In either case I wish you luck and that this matter comes to a unanimous point of enjoyment and solution. Good luck dear.

  • This is all kinds of f'ed up. I don't even know what to say.

  • Maybe you should watch whatever porn turns you on when fucking. It would be much hotter for you and if boyfriend is worth keeping, the hotter you are the more turned on he will be. Men are amped up tremendously when their partner is aroused and coming

    • I dont ever watch porn on my own anymore sense I've been with him. I never use to really watch it a lot before. When i would though, the only porn i would watch is lesbian porn. My boyfriends told me many times that he doesn't like girl on girl action. It does nothing for him at all. So i feel like if i were to try that, i would be highly satiafied and enjoying myself, but the girl on girl action would just bw ruining it for him.

  • I understand why most women hate porn. But your boyfriend likes it and would like it if you enjoyed it with him.
    My guess is that he enjoys it and likes to see it about everyday if he could... and addiction? Maybe,,, maybe not.
    To ban him from it and say no will only cause friction in your relationship. He will find it and watch it again, men are like that.
    If it turns him on, why fight it as long as you are the one benefiting from it. An old girlfriend said to me, ' I don't care where you get your appetite, as long as you come home to eat.'
    In any relationship, choose your battles wisely. Good luck.

    • Thanks for the MHO. I hope you find peace with this. :)

  • It provides a fantasy that will never be realized in real life. Sex is a drug. In experiments, rats chose to have the sex parts of their brains stimulated over food. Let's just say the rats didn't live very long. There is the answer. Honestly, if he needs it that badly, then I would have a serious conversation with him over where your relationship is, and where it is going.

    • I say something to him all the time about this issue. All the time. And he just gets pissy and says his porn watching will never change. Its something he's always going to do. It just makes me feel insecure about myself and my body and the way i look. Very insecure

  • Your boyfriend needs to read this question

  • this sounds horribly insecure and controlling. You're actually thought policing the guy.. buku entitlement issue is what I see.

    • What

    • what he does by himself with his own body on his time, is not your business. And trying to control that is a bit ridiculous and overbearing, and overly entitled, and other things. (Unless he's jerking off all the time or something... but otherwise, he's doing what guys do-chill out) On the contrast-him needing porn WITH you (ie when you're having sex) is over the top and that's clearly HIS problem and one you have a right to be upset about.

    • also... if you only watched porn during sex to get him to quit watching porn-you're doing sex WRONG, it's not supposed to be selfish... if you give, you GIVE like a gift, with no expectations in return. And a guy's masturbation world is very personal-you CAN invade it and take it over, but not with insecurity behavior-that will have the opposite effect...

  • He may be curious about what 'the world' has to offer. It's a bit like looking at car tests on Youtube

  • what is it about porn athat you hate. maybe getting to the bottom of it may change your point of view.

    • I've never really liked porn. I had a boyfriend of almost 2 years and he was constantly watching porn. On a daily basis. Half the time when i wanted to have sex he wouldn't have sex with me. Then i would catch him ten minutes later getting off to porn behind my back. And thats honestly what has really made me hate porn so much.

    • i can totally understand that but do you realize that this is not normal behavior? i mean every normal guy would prefer having sex with his girl over beating off to porn. he probably had a problem... porn can be a healthy and good thing for you to consume even as partners.

    • He takes boner pills everyday, so ik that amps up his hornyness a lot more then it usually is. But its like, he'll sit there at work when he has some break time and go into a room and jack off to porn. You definitely should not be doing that at work. And because you have down time to yourself for a little bit.

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  • It sounds like he's addicted to it... it's not uncommon... but how has your sex life fared with his obsession with porn?

    • Ik he's addicted to it. I tell him all the time he is but he denies it. Our sex life is great. We have sex everyday pretty much. We might go a day or two without having sex but thats only when he is really tired from work

    • Could you suggest that he give it up for a week and you and him can make your own porno if he can resist the temptation? make sure you have the camera/phone and are in charge of editing (saw another question where that idea went pear-shaped)

    • there's no way he could give it up for a week. I thought watcing porn with him and us trying this would get him to stop and not have to watch it anymore, but it didn't. He was still watching while i would let him fuck me to it. So its like I don't know what to do anymore? Honestly. Like im at a dead end road with it. Like nothing i do can prevent him from watching it. I've brought up to him many times about how we should we make a porno. our own personal one that we could watch while were fucking or i would be totally fine with him watching it and getting off to it. But its honestly a dead end i keep getting nowhere with

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