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Hurt because my boyfriend won't have sex with me on my period?

So in the beginning of July I got a birth control implant and one of the side effects is irregualr periods. Last time I had my perid it was for 2 weeks. We eventually tried having sex when my period was very light and it was all fine cause there was not much blood but today I had a heavier flow and after like 30 secs in he pulled out cause it felt weird i guess and saw a lot of blood and went to get a towel to clean himself and got annoyed when he couldnt find it and kept asking me if i hid it then left to go shower! I feel horrible now :( I feel like I was rejected and that I'm dirty. I feel ashamed of my period even though i know i shouldn't but just now everytime i use the bathroom and see my pad I feel all those feelings. We never really talked about what happened but I wish we did D: He told me before he doesn't have problem with blood but he does when it comes through the vagina. Now my boyfriend is the greatest guy ever and haven't fought once in our whole 4 month relationship. he's a really perfect boyfriend which is why im so confused and hurt about what happened. He didn't even say sorry? I never got the nerve to talk about my feelings to him because we left soon after to go out with friends. he's asleep right now. He told me that he's not gonna do that again meaning have sex when im on my period. Not even when its light. I get my periods for like weeks at a time thats horribe
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Look, he did nothing wrong. I am not into period sex and if my partner asked to do it I may say yes, once and try it but it's in my right to say no, and vice versa, just because i may want it, if he doesn't, just how it is. Having a cut on my arm that's bleeding and he puts a tissue on it, is very different from him putting his penis, his genital and private part, INSIDE a hole of blood, of dead cells shedding etc. It's different blood. It's entirely different to compare to just normal bleeding.

    And sure, maybe he could've handled it better, it's always good to have a warm cloth and a towel by the bed if you're going to try period sex so either at the end (or if you stop) there's the damp cloth to wipe up and the towel handy.
    But it's just something you have to deal with, he doesn't like period sex, some don't like oral sex, some don't like anal, not everything is for everyone. He tried it, and didn't like it. Don't feel rejected though, you just have to accept that.

    BUT you should talk to him though. Relationships go downhill fast if you hold in your emotions, especially bad ones, like this. Eventually you'll snap or something and he'll have no idea why because you never spoke about it. 4 months is a long enough time to be able to have these awkward/sucky conversations.

  • Firstly, if you get periods for weeks at a time, there is something majorly wrong and you should see a gyno asap.

    Secondly, it's blood coming out of your vagina and on his dick. It's difficult to grasp that it can't be a turn on for many and that it's not exactly sexy or a pretty sight. I can perfectly understand why guys don't like it and even myself can admit that it's unsexy. My boyfriend doesn't like period sex and I don't take it personally or think it's weird of him nor make him feel like shit about it.

  • I'm sorry about what happened. Though he does reserve the right to be 'grossed out' by blood because you're bleeding, behaving in such a way is unacceptable, regardless.

    I'd tell him that you want to talk and basically tell him everything you told us here. That you get that blood might gross him out and all, but that you'd appreciate it if he expressed this fear/repulsion, or whatever that was, in a different way. That there's nothing you can do to prevent it and the way in which he acted hurt you a lot.

  • Hmmm, honestly, I don't even like having sex when my period is heavy because it's just TOO wet. (but my boyfriend likes it) Your boyfriend does have a right to not want to have sex with you if the blood is too heavy. :/ He's your boyfriend, listen to him. But always make sure he respects you.

Most Helpful Guys

  • It's really sad, but many men don't want to have sex with a woman who is on her period. Personall, I liked it because it felt a little different, but great. You are allowing your boyfriend to make you feel like this is your problem. It is not! It's his hangup and he should not be doing what he did if he truly cares for you. I assume he is around your age. If so, he needs to grow up. You have to accept his issue withouit letting it make you feel inadequate or dirty. A period is not dirty, it's a natural part of life that you have no control over. Ask him to sit and talk with you about your feelings on this. Tell him his reaction really hurt you. Lastly, my ex-wife and daughter both had very long and irregular periods. Go to your doctor and discuss this. Both my ex and daughter ended up needing a hysterectomy to stop the problem. I know what they went throuigh and I have a lot of empathy for you. A good bit of advice is to not allow any man to make you feel the way he did. You have control of how you let things affect you. Keep your chin up. You really sound like a good woman. Believe that. Always be good to you!

  • I would still have sex on period lol it gets aLil messy I even done it without a condom lol blood doesn't bother me but sometimes it does bother other people especially seeing it come out from weird places lol but me i'd but eating you out on your period. NO! I would never do lol

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  • You do need to talk to him about it. Oh, and here's my Take that was mentioned.

    www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a30347-period-sex-the-good-the-bad-the-messy

  • It probably made him worry, emotionally uncomfortable and it killed his mood.

  • So your boyfriend doesn't wanna have bloody tangy sex with you.. now he's got an emotional girlfriend over period sex

    ill make you a period mix tape Suga fluff

  • He should read @EmpatheticLady take on it. Maybe that would change his mind.

    • Haha, thank you.

  • What you gonna rape him then?

  • Period sex is amazing and I would be super turned on and eager to please and yes oral would be goven to you.

  • Two words: Shower Sex

  • Your approach are abhorrent!

  • Some guys don't like it. Some do.

  • if he doesn't want to go down on you during your period, he shouldn't have to. You're choosing THAT, THAT? to get mad over, yikes

  • I couldn't even read all that because it grosses me out too much. I wouldn't have sex with someone on their period either.

  • Yeah a lot of guys tend to be wary around period stuff, as they know it means a woman will typically be more moody. And because they're guys and they don't have periods, it's probably hard for him to understand that it's harmless to him and it's a natural part of life for you

  • Some guys are just really grossed out about period sex. I doubt you can change him. I don't care. I'm happy to be boning.

  • Well talk to him about how you feel... Most guys are uncomfortable and grossed out by periods to be honest...

    But some guys think it's hot and will want you more...

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